Mojo Mingle By Sarah Rus

21/12/2024

Do you believe in ‘friendship’ being a necessary solid foundation for a long-term, loving, healthy relationship?

Let me share with you a story…

Traditionally, my relationships began very organically…

We’d meet at school, or through a friend, or in a tour group, through work, or at a social event eg MeetUp or dance class.

That first meeting would be a general chat about who we are and where we’re from and what we do… plus often we’d discover similarities in sense of humour or interests. Because of this - we’d exchange details and keep in touch.

Days or weeks would pass and we’d make plans to meet again. A simple catch up. Maybe at the next dance class, or meet up for sushi or a walk in the park.

Again - we’d build upon the previous conversation to learn more about each other. We were curious, showed interest and enjoyed laughing about life.

In all cases there was something I admired about him… which wasn’t always obvious at first. As the friendship grew, so too did my attraction and feelings. Eventually I’d be experiencing a crush… created by the mystery… “did he like me too???”

One way or another our flirting made it obvious that I was into him and we’d soon have our first kiss. Not rushed, but gentle. Timely. Exciting.

Our catch-ups would then be more frequent. 2-3 times per week… I’d think about him during the day when I was supposed to be concentrating on work. Songs reminded me of him.

I’d invite him over and cook dinner for us , perhaps we’d play a game or watch a movie. We enjoyed each other company… and usually by 3-4 weeks we’d be exclusively boyfriend and girlfriend.

This was how my relationships typically all began - with a solid foundation of friendship - which grew into a romance… quite organically.

Yet - I know this is not how all relationships begin, and I’d love to know your pattern, if different to mine. How did the relationship start and how did things end?

For me - I could call any of my ex’s up and have a friendly conversation with them. Our relationship was build on friendship, which withstood the break-up. How about you?

27/11/2024

How to Drop the Modern-Day Handkerchief: Subtle Ways to Show Him You’re Interested

Gone are the days when women literally dropped a handkerchief to signal their interest.

But the art of subtly showing your attraction is timeless—and in today’s world, it’s all about using body language, playful cues, and confidence.

If you’re ready to let a guy know you’re interested without saying it outright, here are some modern "handkerchief" moves you can try:

1. Use Eye Contact as Your Ally 👀

A lingering glance can be powerful.

Look his way, hold eye contact for a few seconds, and then break it with a slight smile.

This simple move invites him to notice you and signals that you're approachable.

💜 Bonus Tip: If you’re in a social setting, glance his way a few times to create a playful sense of familiarity.

2. Position Yourself in His Orbit 🛰️

If he’s across the room, you can’t expect him to notice you right away.

Casually move closer to where he is—whether it’s at the bar, near a group conversation, or by the snack table.

This increases the chances of a natural interaction.

💜 Subtle Handkerchief: Stand confidently, face slightly open toward him, and let your presence do the work.

3. Playfully Break the Ice 🧊

Humour is a great way to create a connection.

If there’s something funny or interesting happening around you, make a lighthearted comment that invites a response.

💜 Example: “Looks like everyone’s in line for the same drink. Must be the secret to a good night!”

4. Compliment Him Casually 👍

Guys don’t often get compliments, so a genuine one can make an impression.

Keep it light and specific to something you notice, like his watch, his energy, or his laugh.

💜 Example: “That’s a great watch. It really suits you.”

5. Ask for His Help or Opinion 🙋🏻‍♀️

Men often enjoy feeling useful or helpful. Asking for his input creates a chance to engage.

💜 Examples:

“I’m trying to decide—what’s better, the red wine or the beer?”

“I can’t reach that on the top shelf. Would you mind?”

6. Mirror His Energy 🪞

People naturally connect with those who match their vibe.

If he’s relaxed and joking around, follow suit.

If he’s having a more serious conversation, show genuine curiosity.

💜 Handkerchief Move: Subtle mirroring of body language—like leaning in when he does or matching his pace in conversation—builds rapport.

7. Create Open Invitations 🚪

Sometimes, all it takes is leaving a door open for him to walk through.

Phrases like these can subtly encourage him to make the next move:

“This place has great vibes. Have you been here before?”

“I feel like there’s a story behind that! Do tell.”

8. Flirt With a Smile 😊

A smile is universal and disarming.

Pair it with playful energy to show you’re enjoying the moment.

Add a slight tilt of your head, and you’ll instantly seem more engaging.

💜 Pro Tip: If the conversation is flowing, a slight laugh at his jokes (even the bad ones) goes a long way.

9. “Accidental” Physical Contact 👉

Physical touch, when done right, can create subtle chemistry.

Lightly brush his arm when you’re laughing or touch his hand briefly when passing something.

It’s a bold yet understated way to show interest.

10. Be Bold in a Gentle Way 💎

If the moment feels right, you can always go for a soft, direct approach that still feels subtle. For instance:

“You seem like someone I’d love to get to know better.”

“I’m having fun talking to you—what’s your name?”

It’s confident without being overwhelming.

💜💜💜 Why This Works 💜💜💜

Each of these modern “handkerchiefs” taps into human psychology: they’re playful, approachable, and encourage interaction without coming across as too forward.

Remember, the key is to stay authentic—your vibe and confidence will always be the ultimate attractors.

So the next time you’re out and about, don’t be afraid to drop a metaphorical handkerchief.

You just might find that your subtle moves inspire him to pick it up.

What are your go-to ways of showing interest? Let us know in the comments!

And if you’d like guidance and support in dating or finding someone special, send me a direct message.

It’d be my honour to be your coach on your journey to find love.
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Sarah Rus
Holistic Dating Coach

26/11/2024

It can be very frustrating when you try to connect with someone and they never reply.

Sometimes we think that it’s enough to just say “Hi” but these types of opening messages aren’t going to get you anywhere majority of the time.

Join us in the “Ultimate Dating Profile Upgrade” program tomorrow morning (Australia) for our next weekly group coaching call.

We’ll work on crafting great opening messages for you to send to your matches, or people on Facebook, that lead to fun conversations and first dates.

Send me a message to learn more

Xx Sarah

19/11/2024

Tell me your stories that started like this!!

Enjoy this very cute CGI 3D Animated Short...In a world where flames represent love, it’s easy to get your heart burned. Created by the talented Ashley Ander...

19/11/2024

What dating apps are you currently using?
This article lists most popular dating apps in 2024.

The secret to finding someone great—and avoiding a horror story—is picking one that aligns with your unique goals.

18/10/2024

I’ve been updating my online program “The Art of Speed Dating” (AKA The Art of Quick Connections) and I’m excited to see the improvements “FilterOff” have made to their app.

A few years ago, at the start of the pandemic, I had such great results with this free app, but not in the way you would expect.

I attended many of their virtual speed dating events where I met anywhere between 1-8 single men for a TWO minute video chat.

This time pressure forced me to learn how to connect with men in a short amount of time.

Thankfully now, they’ve extended the video dates to FOUR minutes per video chat.

FilterOff is an excellent tool to develop your dating skills at no cost.

I highly recommend downloading it, creating yourself a profile, and sign yourself up for a “Date Night” or two.

Use the app to practice dating without the cost of attending an in-person speed dating event.

Once you can confidently connect with your dates in FOUR minutes, and are getting post-date matches, then move to in-person events.

If you’d like guidance and support to learn how to succeed with speed dating, I can help you fast track your journey.

Send me a direct message if you’d like to learn more ✌🏼

20/09/2024

I used to suck when it came to using dating apps… and I blamed the apps for my frustration.

But - it was actually me who was the problem - I hadn’t taken the time to learn to use the apps well.

After much trial, error, study and experimentation, I worked out how to enjoy the process of online dating and completely changed my attitude towards apps.

I’m soon launching a program to help vibrant women (over ~50) to navigate dating apps.

With my guidance and support, you’ll:
✅ craft a magnetic profile,
✅ ensure you’re using your best photos,
✅ gain clarity around your best match-types & how to recognise them
✅ practice sending those crucial first introductory messages
✅ practice building rapport online
✅ practice arranging great first dates etc

I want to guide and support you to match & meet great men to date and that starts with building your confidence using dating apps (free versions).

You deserve to find love - let’s make it happen.

Don’t let tech issues hold you back anymore!

Let me know if this is what you need, or comment below with anything else that could be included in the program that you’d find helpful.

Doors open soon! Stay tuned

19/09/2024

Ever found yourself avoiding practical tasks like fixing things around the house, booking flights, or planning road trips?

You’re not alone—but it might signal a hidden issue: over-reliance on your partner.

While traditionally associated with women, men can experience a version of the “Cinderella Complex” too.

This can show up as avoiding responsibility for life’s practical tasks, relying on a partner to take care of things instead.

Here’s how it might look:

- Always handing off household repairs or tech issues to your partner

- Expecting them to plan all trips or manage important logistics

- Taking a passive role in decision-making or avoiding learning new skills

Sound familiar?

Here’s why it’s a problem:

• Unequal Workload: Your partner may end up feeling like they're carrying more responsibility, leading to imbalance and frustration.

• Limited Growth: Relying on someone else for practical tasks prevents you from gaining confidence and independence.

• Attraction Imbalance: Dependency can undermine attraction and create an unhealthy dynamic where you rely too much on your partner.

How to Break Free:

1. Start learning the skills you've been avoiding.

2. Take initiative in handling tasks, even if you're unsure at first.

3. Aim for a balanced partnership where both of you share responsibilities equally.

The more you step up, the more empowered—and attractive—you’ll feel! 💪

What’s one task you’ve been avoiding that you’re ready to tackle?

Drop it in the comments! ⬇️