Tricia Karp Celebrant

21/05/2022

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20/05/2022

When I want to understand more about a couple’s relationship, I ask questions about how they manage conflict and how openly they communicate with one another.

I can’t emphasise enough how crucial it is to handle conflict well. Happy couples do fight – and there are things they aim not to do when they’re fighting, and things they make sure they do, so that they can get back on track afterwards.

I hope you find this really useful as a reference tool to help you manage conflict better.

Feel free to keep a copy and share it with other people you know will benefit ❤️

18/05/2022

NEW PODCAST EPISODE 🎤✨

“He doesn’t talk about his emotions and feelings”

“She’s more interested in her friends that she is in me”

When we focus on what’s wrong with our partner, we’re not creating a healthy, meaningful, lasting relationship.

In episode 3 of “Us… in five minutes” to find out about the impact of judgment and criticism and how to perpetuate more of what you really want in your relationship.

Have a listen now (it’ll only take 3 minutes)… 🎧

The link is the comments

17/05/2022

Do you sometimes feel so overwhelmed that you don’t know what to say during an argument?

Do you say or do things that somehow make the conflict worse?

Do you have trouble naming what’s happening for you, and how you’re feeling?

If we can own and express our feelings with respectful language it’s likely to bring more calm and understanding to the situation.

Here’s how to do it…

PS Is this something you’d like some help with in your relationship?

Book a session with me via the link in the comments.

16/05/2022

What if, whenever there’s conflict in your relationship, you could put your focus and energy into reconnecting with your partner afterwards?

Happy couples do fight. One of the things they do differently though (and there are quite a few) is to emotionally reconnect with their partner when the fight is over.

It can feel like the hardest thing in the world. Yet, even with all our resistance, we can choose what matters most and behave accordingly – and that’s reconnecting.

Fights aren’t what destroy relationships. Emotional disconnection does. Every time you fight and don’t reconnect afterwards you’re creating more disconnection.

We all mess up. And we can repair damage by reconnecting and starting again.

Ways to do it include:

• Choose to say what you want to say again and do it better this time (with kindness, respect, love and care)
• Hug for at least three deep breaths
• Look into one another’s eyes
• Touch one another affectionately
• Hold hands while you make up
• Change your physical state (this changes your mindset) by jumping up and down or shaking your body. Sound silly? Try it – it works 😊
• Apologise
• Do a forgiveness ritual

Anything else you’ve tried that worked? Feel free to share it with us in the comments ❤️

15/05/2022

I’m obsessed with writing and learning more and teaching about conflict.

I think that’s partly because so many of us think that fighting is bad. While that can be true (it all depends on how you approach conflict), happy couples do fight.

What they do differently though is focus on how to reconnect afterwards.

How you handle conflict is crucial to whether or not your relationship will last.

Do you get my weekly newsletter? I’m writing all about conflict this time around. Sign up now and you’ll receive it in your inbox on Tuesday.

The link is in the comments.

13/05/2022

Change isn’t easy. So many times we can have the best intentions to do something differently, and we make the decision to start, and we feel like we’re really committed, and then we fall back into old habits and patterns again.

I think it’s called being human. I’ve done it myself, more times than I can count. It always leaves me feeling like I’ve let myself down, or wanting to tell myself, “I should know better.”

The truth is, doing the same old thing always gets the same old results. Nothing changes until we do.

If you’re going around in circles with a pattern that you know isn’t serving your relationship, it won’t change until you do.

We all need support and accountability as we create changes in our lives, to help us stay on track and achieve what’s really important to us.

If you’re ready to take the first step, reach out to me via DM. I know it can be scary - and I promise you it will be worth it.

13/05/2022

It breaks my heart when a couple tells me they’ve had the most open, real, connected conversations of their entire relationship after they decided to separate.

Open communication is critical to a relationship lasting. We need to be able to talk openly with our partner, to bring all of ourselves, to be seen and heard, to be vulnerable as required, to share what’s on our mind and in our heart.

We need to be able to say how we truly feel without fear or being judged or ridiculed or put down. We need to be able to give that to our partner too.

We need to feel safe with one another, and be prepared to talk about and work through issues as they show up.

How couples communicate is one of the greatest predictors of whether or not their relationship will last.

Remember, it only takes one partner to become the change they want to experience.

How can you communicate more openly with your partner?

12/05/2022

The "happily ever after" fairytales where the princess meets the prince and they're suddenly complete have a lot to answer for.

Expecting your partner to meet your every need will not only lead to enormous pressure on your relationship, disappointment and resentment, but a partnership that’s unlikely to last.

Read all about it in my new article, along with the importance of silliness and open communication.

Link in my comments ⬇️

11/05/2022

It can be so easy to make our partner wrong when things aren’t going our way.

Unfortunately we live in a culture of blame, and in relationships that’s bad news. Blame erodes and eventually destroys the connection between people, fuels the fires of conflict, and doesn’t allow us (or our partner) to feel seen and heard.

Has blame crept in to your relationship?

Listen to this week’s episode of “Us… in five minutes” on blame and its antidote, so that you can have more of the good stuff in your relationship.

Link in comments... 💗

10/05/2022

All relationships take work. All relationships experience stress. All relationships run into issues that can seem insurmountable. All relationships need support.

Couples counselling gives you an opportunity to explore your relationship in a safe and non-judgmental environment. You’ll gain an understanding of what the factors are that might be impacting on your relationship and how to move forwards so your relationship can thrive.

Whether it’s improving the ways you communicate, handling conflict better, growing respect, intimacy, affection and connection, or addressing situational challenges that are getting the better of you, couples counselling can help.

Find out more and book your initial session through the link in the comments.

09/05/2022

How about some fun? 😜

Laughter, being silly, and having fun together are a proven turn on, and contribute to a relationship lasting. They can also be really helpful during conflict, when appropriate, to calm one another down.

It can be so easy for the daily grind to be our number one focus and for us to forget about laughing and having fun. But if you’re naturally silly together, well, that can happen anytime, anywhere.

How much fun are you having? Do you need to bring some silliness into your relationship?

08/05/2022

IN THIS WEEK’S RELATIONSHIP REVIVAL NEWSLETTER:

I’m talking about the kind of communication that’s necessary (and we want) for a lasting relationship.

I’m also talking about silliness and fun and laugher and why it matters 😜

This is part 3 of a four part series of articles.

If you’re keen to have a guide map for creating a healthy, lasting relationship, you’re welcome to sign up.

Each week you’ll receive a fresh article plus links to my new podcast – “Us… in five minutes” – which launches this month. It’ll be filled with relationship insights and guidance that you can easily and quickly implement into your relationship – and you’ll only have to listen for five minutes or fewer.

Sign up at the link in the comments.

07/05/2022

In a healthy, meaningful and satisfying relationship there's respect for the sanctity of our relationship.

We're mindful of what we share with others about our relationship. We don't share every intimate detail with friends and family. We don't air our dirty laundry. We don't ask one of our parents for advice about our s*x life with our partner. We don't post about our relationship or share photos on social media without consent from our partner. While we might talk about our relationship with others close to us, we know what's comfortable for our partner and we honour that. If we're not sure, we check first.

We're clear about what's purely ours, personal and private in our partnership, and we both honour that. This cultivates more respect and trust between us.

What are your relationship’s boundaries?

07/05/2022

06/05/2022

Taking full responsibility for our behaviour means we’re being a grown up – and prepared to grow up in the areas we need to to best serve our partnership.

It’s a crucial ingredient for a lasting healthy relationship.

04/05/2022

Here’s part two of my series of articles about what makes a relationship last.

This week I cover:

• Boundaries (ooh, this is a biggie)
• Values (shared values are essential)
• Owning your “stuff” (responsibility rocks and matters big time)

To read the article, the link is in the comments.

04/05/2022

IT’S TODAY!

My new podcast, “Us… in five minutes,” is now live.

Every episode is five minutes (or fewer) because I think our time is better spent taking loving action in our relationship/s than listening to long podcasts.

Each episode focuses on a single insight and guidance that you can implement in your relationship right now.

You can listen to the first episode on:

✨Spotify – link in comments
✨ Apple
✨ Substack

I hope it helps you to have a healthy, meaningful and satisfying relationship ❤️

04/05/2022

What are your future plans in your relationship? Are you on the same page?

For some couples, values aren’t discussed when they get together and they tell themselves those things aren’t important and they’ll “deal with them later.” Not being aligned can cause all sorts of future issues and problems, often years into a relationship.

There are some values that healthy, meaningful and lasting relationships share, including a couple’s future plans, along with trust, commitment, being aligned with their lifestyle, and personal growth and communication.

It’s essential to share similar values, otherwise our relationship can be full of disappointment, growing resentment, and drifting further apart.

03/05/2022

You shouldn't have to live with growing frustration and resentment towards your partner.
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You shouldn't have to feel like you're hitting your head against a brick wall over the same old problems.
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You shouldn't have to feel disconnected and lonely in your relationship.
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You shouldn't have to feel like you're two people simply co-existing and living separate lives under the same roof.

Change is possible. You can learn how to repair hurts and damage, strengthen your connection, and help one another feel safe, secure and supported, and champion your love.

I’m here to help you. To find out about sessions with me, see the link the comments.

02/05/2022

Boundaries in a relationship act like:

❤️ Being mindful of what we share with others about our partner and relationship
❤️ Not airing our dirty laundry
❤️ Not asking our parents for advice about our s*x life
❤️ Not sharing photos or information about our partner on social media without their consent
❤️ If we’re not sure if something is okay to share, asking our partner first

01/05/2022

Shared values form the foundation of a relationship.

They keep partners together when times are tough and allow us to share great joy when times are wonderful.

Our values guide our behaviour and the choices we make. It's essential to share similar values, otherwise our relationship can be filled with disappointment and eventually resentment.

Everyone’s values can be different – and, there are some that healthy, lasting relationships share. Check them out below…

01/05/2022

n this week’s Relationship Revival newsletter I’m talking about boundaries.

This is a big one for so many of us, and it’s crucial that we’re clear about and honour our relationship’s boundaries.

I’m also sharing two more important factors that contribute to a lasting relationship.

It’s part two of a four part series of articles. If you missed the first one and you’re keen, I’m inviting you to sign up below. It means you’ll get my newsletter straight to your inbox each Tuesday, so you’ll never miss out. Insights and guidance guaranteed, to help you have a healthy, meaningful and satisfying relationship.

Click the link in the comments.

30/04/2022

We need space from one another to create desire and longing ❤️

29/04/2022

To connect and get to know one another at a deeper level, you can ask questions like these:

• Have you ever had trouble forgiving someone?
• What’s your most meaningful accomplishment or achievement? Why did it matter so much to you?
• What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done?
• When was the last time you laughed so much you cried?
• What is your biggest fear?
• How do you define success?
• Which song would be the soundtrack to your life?
• What’s the most loving thing I could do for you?
• What was your favourite thing about the movie we just watched?
• What are your spiritual/religious beliefs? In what ways do they give meaning to your life?
• What do you regret in your life?
• What are your 3 most favourite books/movies? What do you love about them?
• What makes you angry?

29/04/2022

How does your partner add to your life?

29/04/2022

Want to be able to cope better with conflict in your relationship, and stressful events?

Research shows that couples who ask and answer questions designed to get to know one another better strengthen their connection, and cope better in difficult situations.

Ideally this is something that’s done regularly as we grow and evolve in our lives.

Here are some examples of the topics you can cover to get to know your partner better. Ask about your partner’s:

• Life before they knew you
• Values
• What matters to them
• Hopes, goals and dreams
• Worries and stresses
• Daily activities
• What they enjoy doing for fun
• What makes them laugh
• What gives them pleasure
• Important people in their life
• Major events in their life

28/04/2022

28/04/2022

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we all knew the exact ingredients for a lasting relationship?

And not just any lasting relationship – because many unhealthy relationships continue beyond their use by date - but a healthy, meaningful and satisfying partnership?

The good news is that there are particular, specific ingredients.

I’m writing a four-part series of articles on what those ingredients are. Click the link in the comments to read part one 💗

27/04/2022

I’m one of those (some would say strange!) people who loves being behind a microphone 🎤✨

I also love supporting people to have healthy, meaningful and satisfying relationships.

So… I’m making a podcast for you. It’s called “Us… in five minutes.” Every episode is five minutes (or fewer) because I think our time is better spent taking loving action than listening to long podcasts.

Each episode focuses on a single insight and guidance that you can implement in your relationship right now.

“Us… in five minutes” launches in May. If you’d like to listen I invite you to sign up at the link in bio and you’ll get each episode straight to your inbox once a week.