10/28/2022
I love when the aftermath of a wedding is captured. The photos of the spaces once they have been “lived in” are my favourite. I love seeing the evidence of life, love, joy, and people just having the best time ever. This wasn’t always the case for me. When I started out, I was always so focused on curating and perfecting the tablescape and details, perfect setups, making sure everything was untouched and flawless, went 100% to plan. It’s part of the job, so I still do it (now fortunately have help for this part), but my main focus on a wedding day has completely shifted with more experience. Weddings aren’t styled shoots. Not every moment is going to be photo-worthy, and that’s how it should be. There will be messy, silly, emotional and even chaotic times on your day, and that’s part of what makes it beautiful and unique. I think there’s been this really intense focus in our industry on creating content for IG, the portfolio - sometimes so much that it compromises the couple’s enjoyment of the day or gets in the way. As wedding vendors, making everything “picture perfect” is SO not our job. The success of the day is not defined by how great the photos are and how much everything went to plan - it’s defined by whether our couples had the best day ever and we’re able to enjoy every moment in ways that make sense for them (which might be different than what makes sense for us, as vendors!). Listening to our couples and adjusting to fit their needs is what we should be constantly doing, and where our focus should always be. This might mean we change up the plans, don’t get that specific shot because they just aren’t feeling it, or take things a little slower than originally planned. Events are fluid, alive and ever-changing and vendors should be too. I’ve personally had a really humbling attitude shift about all of this through COVID, and my job feels different than it did before, for the better. I love how this photo isn’t “perfect” but it shows how much love, life and beauty was part of this day, and that’s what matters 🤍.