18/01/2022
What you think of the words “first date,” do you cringe or smile? First dates can be awkward, nerve-wracking, exciting, disastrous, wonderful — any number of things. A big part of this distinction is the first impression you each give and how well you and the other person connect. We all know by now that topics like religion, politics, and the like are best to avoid if you want a first encounter to stay positive and light-hearted. So while you’re staring at each other from across a candle-lit table, perched together on a bench outside a coffee shop or waiting for your film to start at the movie theater, what kinds of things should you be asking the other person to make sure conversation flows well?
1. "What's a fun memory from your childhood?" or "How would you describe yourself as a kid?". These are light conversation starters that might help to bring up a funny story while also revealing a bit about who they are and their upbringing.
2. Anything surprising happen today?Don’t just ask, “How was your day?” Instead, ask them about what was surprising about their day. You also can try asking for their high point and low point. This will get you less of a canned response such as “fine” or “pretty good.”
3. Tell me about your closest friends. Use this if they bring up a friend or a story with their friends. This is a great follow-up question that will help you get to know who they spend their time with.
4. What are you currently obsessed with?
Whether it’s a book, TV show, or crossfit, odds are, there’s something that your date is currently into. People like to share their interests, and it’s a good way to see if you two share any of the same interests.
5. What are you most passionate about?
People love discussing the hobbies and pursuits they enjoy, If you want to know who someone is, find out what they love.
6. Is there anything you don’t eat?
This one comes up quite easily if you are ordering food. It can produce some really easy conversation and might provide you with some great tidbits.
7. What’s the most embarrassing thing you can remember that’s happened to You?
See if they’re comfortable sharing some of their most memorable embarrassing moments. Talking about our awkward moments shows humility, vulnerability, and a sense of humor — is it important to you that your date can laugh at themselves once in a while?
8. Where's your happy place?
Asking this helps you get to know about what they're interested in, a hobby of theirs, and what feeds them as a person, she adds.
9. What's a typical Saturday for you?
This one may go in any direction, but in general, it will likely provide a space for you to talk about hobbies and interests, along with giving you a picture of their ideal weekend, If you discover you enjoy similar activities, that can also provide future date ideas.
10. Can I kiss you? Only ask this if the date has gone well, of course, but suggests that kissing plays an important role in how we choose our partners. Surveys indicated that both women and men (but especially women) use kissing as a way to test out and evaluate a potential partner. So if you can see yourself having a second encounter with your date, there's no reason not to see if a romantic spark is there when you lock lips.