03/09/2024
Keys, we see them mentioned regarding the passing of the household keys to the bride during the marriage ceremony, but why?
We first see the imagery of keys associated with women in Þrymskviða when Þór disguises himself as Freyja after Mjolnir is stolen:
Keys around him | let they rattle,
And down to his knees | hung woman's dress;
With gems full broad | upon his breast,
And a pretty cap | to crown his head. - Þrymskviða 19, Bellows Translation.
The emphasis of mentioning the keys in regards to Þór dressing as a high-born woman suggests that the wearing of keys was not usual for men, although the link to it being associated with marriages is tenuous as the keys are worn before ór’s arrival at the ceremony.
We see the key being associated with the dress of a woman during a wedding in Rígsþula in regards to Snör:
Home did they bring | the bride for Karl,
In goatskins clad, | and keys she bore;
Snör was her name, | 'neath the veil she sat;
A home they made ready, | and rings exchanged,
The bed they decked, | and a dwelling made. - Rígsþula 23, Bellows Translation.
Again, we see Snör described before the wedding to be carrying keys. So where did this assumption that the key was passed to the bride as a signal of the beginning of married life? In terms of literary sources I CAN NOT FIGURE IT OUT. Dr Mary Wilhelmine Williams points to Corpus Poeticum Boreale for reference of the wedding being the first time a bride would carry keys, which is again the Þrymskviða reference. Williams argues for the symbolism of the bride holding the keys as her power over the indoor domain:
In spite of the fact that they were, in a sense, sold into matrimony and were the wards of their husbands, the legal wives really hold an honored position; and within their own homes they enjoyed much independence of action. The bunch of keys at the matron's belt was a real symbol of her control of matters indoors. Though the husband succeeded the father as guardian, he, like the former, showed a certain consideration for his wife's wishes, and even consulted her with reference to matters of weight. - Social Scandinavia in the Viking Age, Dr Mary Wilhelmine Williams.
In asserting this, Williams references; The Civilisation of Sweden, which is the repeat of the Þrymskviða reference; and the Origines Islandicae and Flóamanna saga which reflect the relationship between husband and wife.
Origines Islandicae seems to be an indication of Williams position of the woman's place within the household, though none to do with keys. The section referred to starts with a man seeking her approval to accept guests to over winter with them, to which she consents. Throughout the section, it becomes clear that an outbreak occurs of some sort of sickness and many die, including the hostess whose actions are spoken of by the guest as such:
“In a wonderful way is our hostess behaving now, for she is struggling upon her elbow, and is moving her feet from the bed stock and feeling after her shoes”
While I haven’t been able to secure an English translation of Flóamanna saga in a pdf or book form, the citation may be to do with Þorgils seeking advice from his wife Þóreyja regarding his dream of Þór trying to force his hand to convert, or his impending expedition may well go wrong. Another matter could be asking her if she wants to go to Greenland with him, to which she declines.
What about archeology? While it’s hard to tell with no international database for tumulus finds and contents, a majority of the keys found in grave mounds have been from those containing womens remains, some of which were highly stylised on the bow and chain which suggests one would wear them on display as a possible status symbol. Yet this doesn’t fully cement the idea of the exchange of the key at the wedding.
So what about today? I am not a fan of using two literary sources that are quite vague on the relationship between key and bride, had the sources been more varied or had been more clear of that relationship I would be happier with making certain leaps. But the archeology at least provides at least a physical realness to this possibility. It would also make sense, practically, to give your wife the keys to your household especially if you were one to go on frequent expeditions.
Now, obviously the historian's analysis will look into how Norse society was in the past in a way to try and understand it. This would obviously mean that the outcome would be that they would argue that the wife's domain would be generally domestic. This generally wouldn’t hold up today, particularly with younger generations who have to rely on multiple income sources in order to survive, we see today a general sharing of domestic duties at home.
That being said, what we can focus on instead is a precedent set within the sources cited. The key is not only the symbol of domain over the domestic, but a symbolic gesture that your wife has access to your concerns, trust, plans and secrets. That by giving her a key at your wedding, you will involve her in the decision making process in regards to your household. That should you have concerns over an upcoming life obstacle, you will confide in her.
The symbology of doing so would seem relevant in today's world, to tackle that one must be “stoic” from even the ones you love as it would be deemed “unmasculine” to do so in the eyes of others. That it would be normalised to be open about all matters regarding your oath and bond, that should be normalised once again.