Naomi Gruzelier Independent Celebrant

14/11/2024

Some of you will know I have been working on a very special book, Dora Mary the Mousehole Fairy.

I now have a physical copy of it, and it really is beautiful.

In order for me to judge how many to print in my next print run, I am doing a Kickstarter.

You can choose to pledge without reward, or pledge with reward, which is a signed or unsigned copy of the book.

No money is taken until I reach my target.

If you would like a copy, please make your pledge!

Thank-you!

Welcome to the magical world of Dora Mary. Join her as she goes on adventures with the myths and legends of Cornwall.

09/11/2024

09/11/2024

We remember them 🙏

07/11/2024

It can often be difficult to find the right words when someone is grieving.

Often we say to people 'you know where to find me if you need me' or 'I'm always on the end of the phone'

Saying this puts the onus on the person who is grieving to contact you.

They may feel they don't want to burden you with their grief, or don't know how to start the conversation.

If someone is grieving, pick up the phone or pop in to see them.

Even if you sit in silence, you being there is all the support they need.

🙏

31/10/2024

Such a lovely blessing.

15/10/2024

Tonight is the global wave of light, remembering all those babies born sleeping and taken from is too soon.

For me having lost twins myself, I was able to give the greatest gift to another set of twin parents, when I officated at the service for their little girls.

A very wise Celebrant once told me, you get the services you are meant to get, and this family had been to several funeral directors, before settling on the only one I work for in that area. It was meant to be!

Have your candles at the ready for 7pm and let's light up the world!

👼👼

06/10/2024

October is baby loss awareness month, with a wave of light on October 15th at 7pm.

Baby loss has been in many conversations I have had lately and having lost my own twins, it is something I understand.

One common thing I hear time after time, is the friendships that are lost, as friends don't know what to do or say, and stay away.

To those friends, the only way I can explain it, is like dropping a plate on a hard floor. It shatters and pieces shoot in all different directions, seemingly reaching every corner of the room. Losing a child affects every corner of your life and makes you question your own existence.

Even though you think you have picked up all the pieces of the broken plate, you are still finding bits for years to come.

Every parents tries to put themselves back together, but actually the person they were before can't be put back together, as there are always pieces missing, and so a new person emerges.

It's a bit like the Japanese art of repairing pottery with gold, that a new piece of pottery is made, that's even more beautiful than the unbroken one.

Baby loss parents have a strength and courage like no other, as they work their way through an all consuming grief.

If you don't know what to say, just a message with an angel emoji, let's them know you are thinking of them. It keeps the lines of communication open.

There will be lots of tears and just sitting and crying with them, helps them as well. Tears are the words you cannot speak.

Their child or children will live in their hearts forever, they will be their driving force in life. Not a day will go by, for the rest of their lives, when they don't think of them, or wonder what they would be doing.

Have your candle ready for 15th. Posting a picture on social media at 7pm sends a message out not to just your friend, but the world, those babies are very much loved children and very much missed.

🙏👼👼

06/09/2024

At the end of each week I burn all my scripts of services I've done that week, and not just for GDPR reasons. Read on to find out more.

In spirituality it is believed that writing thoughts and feelings down on paper is cathartic, and it is.

The process of burning helps you release those thoughts and feelings, physically and symbolically, therefore not holding onto anything negative that holds you back in life.

As I burn the scripts, to me this is the final act of symbolically letting the person, go from this world.

🙏

04/09/2024

It's that time of year, where I catch the most beautiful sunrises.

As my son goes back to school after his final summer holiday (will hopefully be working by the next one). On my mornings walk I send love out to all those parents whose children we have lost this year and don't get to start school.

01/09/2024

Hello September and welcome to the first day of the meteorological autumn.

Autumn can become a beautiful metaphor for many stages in life.

Seasons changing reminds us that there are many chapters in our lives, and when one door closes, another one opens.

Autumn can symbolize the inevitable passage of time and the impermanence of things.

The aging of a tree representing the cycle of growth, maturity, and decline.

The Harvest in autumn, a metaphor for reaping the rewards of your labour and the cyclical nature of productivity.

There are so many things that Autumn can mean, but I think the biggest one, is that there is beauty in everything. So make sure you take a moment this autumn, to admire the beauty of nature, take a walk in the countryside and give gratitude for all the positives in your own lives.

31/08/2024

Congratulations to G & H!

Perfect weather for a poolside wedding Shortmead House

With Jolly Boys DJ's - Award Winning Wedding Specialists and Gareth Jones Photography

03/08/2024

And then he turned 7!

Happy Birthday to little boy Blue!

Never quite sure how he makes the years with the typical labrador appetite that he has. This year it was a £300 out of hours visit to the vets, as he was so uncomfortable, being sick, couldn't get near his ribs or stomach. Once the vet had hold of him and poked him a bit, he decided it no longer hurt and was fine!

He wouldn't be Blue without the crazy stories amd adventures. Never a dull moment!

Here's to many more walks and fun times!

Love ya!

25/07/2024

What is the correct etiquette when you come across a funeral cortege?

Many people are unaware, so please spread this post far and wide!

Whilst there is nothing written in road law for this there has been a long standing etiquette that seems to have fallen by the wayside.

1. Give way to the cortege. Don't split the cortege up, that is part of the reason they stay slow, is to keep together, so the family are directly behind their loved one.

2. Don't cut into a Funeral procession. Unless you are able to overtake the whole procession as its a dual carriageway or motorway, then you should stay behind the hearse and limousine.

3. Don't play loud music or beep your horn.

It is just about showing a bit of respect to the deceased and their family. Just by them being in cars one behind the other is comforting to grieving families.

Many years ago I was attending a funeral for a young lad, and I'm not kidding there was about 100 cars following the hearse. We were going to Luton crem and going up the bypass, everyone over took us, which is no problem at all.

Once we reached the crematorium we needed to cross over 2 lanes of traffic. 2 cars at the front of those lanes stopped and held the traffic back for us all to cross and enter the crematorium. That is respect.

Next time you come across a cortege, think before you decide on your next manoeuvre.

Thank you.

19/07/2024

With today being the final day of the school year for many, I am lighting a candle for all those children who didn't get to finish it.

To the mums and dads of those children, you are all in my thoughts today.

🙏

17/07/2024

I am so happy I was part of this couples journey in marriage. It was a really beautiful day. ❤️

16/07/2024

Such kind words.