Trisha's Wreath & Pastry

22/06/2023

10/02/2023

I grew up Old School. We got licks for anything and everything. Sometimes for nothing. Being yelled at was normal. Our parents meant well. And it did us some good. But I wanted to break that way of parenting with my own son. Without spoiling him. I don’t know how but I was determined. Determined to seperate discipline from punishment. Punishment from licks. I found ways to reward and punish without licks. I found ways to make sure he understood what was expected of him and why. Because my job had irregular hours we had clear rules. I got him to agree to do what was required and to agree to the consequence if it was not done accordingly. I remember the first time I told him he could not go to rugby because he didn’t finish writing his work in school. He cried as if he got licks. My heart was hurting but I didn’t give in. He was about 6 or 7 years old. After that he knew I was serious. So whenever I said “If you don’t finish your chores before I get home no ipad for the entire weekend” he know that I meant business. I explained to him that mummy works hard so you could have a better life and he needs to respect his grandmother when I’m not there. He needs to go his chores without someone being over him with a big stick because everybody else was not mummy and granny will cross you with two belt! I wanted him to understand that it was his duty to do chores, not a punishment. Doing laundry, washing dishes, ironing clothes, making a meal, not just for yourself but offering anyone in the household at the time. It was preparation for life itself. And the more responsible he is the more privileges he can get. That you will not be rewarded for chores because you live here. Sure he get some cut skin from me already. In the early days. But I’ve grown as a parent. And I’m grateful for it. So yes you can spare the rod without spoiling the child. But you can’t spare discipline, responsibility, firm rules and consequences to actions. Just my take

25/01/2023

25/01/2023

01/01/2023

I just got the news that , my book with Dr. Bruce Perry, has sold a million copies. I’ve learned that understanding what happened to you and those you love is vital to moving past old hurts and stepping in to a better life. When I look back at my young girl self, I marvel at the dream God had for me. It exceeded any dream I could imagine. Thank you to everyone who bought the book or listened to the audio. I hope it helps you shift your paradigm of what’s wrong with me/him/her/them to what happened?

The book is available wherever you buy or download your books from 📚