A Godly life Partner - Christians Only

09/02/2024

Am 39 years
Native of Ondo State

I need a man between 37-41 as husband
He should be a native of Ondo State
He must be a Christian.
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22/04/2023

To those in Ibadan
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21/04/2023

WHEN WE LOST THE WAYS...

I look at how people handle marriage today especially Christians, we have lost the way.

We don't know reasons we got married and the purposes.

Lots are going on in the marriage that doesn't go with God's will and plans for marriage.

Western life and law doesn't allow Christians to know the will and plan of their maker for the marriage they are going into.

Many social media motivational speakers are destroying marriage and Christians dance to the music.
"Don't marry a poor/broke guy" or when a brother is cooking, doing domestic chores, they told him "go and get marry" lots of those stuff.

Are we getting married because we need a woman to be taking care of our cooking and domestic chores? (Men)

Are we getting married because we want to get out of poverty or want to invest? (Women)

In the marriage today, people lost their ways due to western world that supported female is some countries, and other countries supported male...

God created marriage to be fellowship with family. He created marriage to eat and dine with them. But men lost his way in the garden of Eden

Since then, everyone lost their ways in getting marry. We are getting marry base on our mission not because of God's will.

As a marriage counselor, lots of families kept secrets with me, in some, men has kids outside, in some, women has houses and husband knew not, in some, the first and second kids belong to another father etc...

But everyone smile and laugh with one another. The mission of wife is to fight for divorce and claim man's properties, the mission of the husband is how to send the wife out empty. Hmmm...

We both smile and laugh when we don't know the kind of fire burning under our roof until something provoke the smoke out.

We both lost our ways in the marriage, husband doing what he likes without thinking if it hurt the wife... Wife too doing anything either hurt or not...

No one has an idea of things going on under his roof anymore.

Hakini doesn't know the wife is planning to claim half of his properties, neither the wife know that her husband own nothing in his name until the smoke is out.

"When we lost our ways" evil thinking and acts comes in but that's not the will and plan of God for marriage.

Pastor Emmanuel Elijah O

18/04/2023

For those seeking for godly partner
Listen to Raypower 95.1fm, Ibadan
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17/04/2023

She's working
34 by age
As by genotype, not too short
Yoruba by native
Ready for marriage
Working guy should contact us

15/04/2023

For those in Ibadan, we are here
We don't deal with outside Ibadan for proper steps

15/04/2023

When you're looking for a godly life partner as single, you must be one

15/04/2023

Once you're ready to follow our procedures, we're here to be of help

27/01/2023

TWO SETS OF WIVES

Based on my research we have two sets of wives.
1. Wives with cool money and with little arrogant
2. Wives without money and with high arrogant

But let me talk about only set one.

70% of women (wives) with cool money that are taking full responsibilities of family keeping are with little arrogant.

Do you know why 70% of those wives that take full responsibilities of house keeping are with little arrogant?

Because from the Bible, it is not their duty to take full responsibilities but they are HELPMEET

Helpmeet is to help a man to add with what the man has already, not to take full responsibilities.

If a man can stand to take full responsibilities even when he doesn't has the capacity, those wives in first set do submissive and do those things with love and even reduce their arrogant only if the man has good characters.

The little arrogant is a sign that it is not their duty but the good characters of their husbands eliminate the arrogant in them totally.

But if a man doesn't take his responsibilities and relax since he has a wife with cool money that is taking care of things, the arrogant of those wives will be more high due to the bad characters of the man, though, they wouldn't stop taking the responsibility but the man will be eating from dust bin (Do you know what it means?).

Have it in mind, some female are destined to be rich. They will surely be rich in anything they do.
If you're a man God blessed with a woman with channels of blessing, the reason of using "CHANNELS" of blessing, she may not have the money but has those who can give them which will be of help.

So, if God blessed you with one of these wives, let me first congratulate you to have one.

All you need to do are very few;
1. Love her totally
2. From her money take her out and spoil her
3. Let her feel like queen she wanted etc

Yorùbá says *"Ẹni tó l'ẹrú lo l'ẹrù"*
_*He who own slaves, own her properties*_

This can only work if a man has good characters

To any man blessed with any of these wives, don't because of her arrogant put her out, you man put your benefactor out forever.

Her arrogant will be eliminated only of you manage her well with your good characters or her arrogant increases when you're trying to rule her like a king with bad characters.

Do not judge this post based on what is happening in your home, so you wouldn't be thinking am giving your wife more power to be more arrogant.

I make this post based on my research and how to manage such wives and makes them feel like queen they wanted.

Your view as a man will determined how this post will work for you.

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Pastor Emmanuel Elijah O

25/01/2023

My regret as a Marriage counselor.
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This is my most painful experience in the journey of 12 years in the marriage ministry.
Though people don't tell their failures in life, but if we don't tell people our mistakes but only our success story how can another lean?
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The ministry started in January 2, 2011, so I begin my counseling, people do came to me or called to meet a family.
But in 2013, 10 years ago, there's a particular couple, I have counsel them times without number just to keep the marriage going.
They will settle and fight again
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Within me, I know the marriage cannot work again, but I don't want people to crucified me that I gave them advice to separate. So I continue telling them to continue patching.

In short story
The marriage has become a cinema house where people came to watch and go.
One day, someone rushed to my house that the same couple are fighting but before getting there, it has gone beyond control, the husband beat the wife beyond normal and she was rushed to the hospital but the husband run away.

Days after, the wife couldn't survived it, she died and left 4 kids, the husband was arrested at "Igbó Ọrá" (a town in Oyo State).
The case was in the court till final judgement, and the man was sentence to life imprisonment.
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This has become pains in my heart that I support the dead of the woman indirectly, she has been telling me, Pastor, "Am tired of this marriage, this man will kill me" but I remembered I said "Will you divorce him after 4 kids?, How will you co-op with 4 kids alone?
Now the woman died 10 years ago, and the 4 kids are plus 10 in age, who is taking care of the kids till today even when father is in the prison? (My very painful question)😭
What if I listened to the woman and advised to run for her life, maybe she will still be alive today? Though am not sure.
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This is a painful memory of me in the journey of 12 years in Marriage Ministry.
My conclusion, I will never support any partner to continue in a violence marriage.
My advice to Pastors, we should not continue to match unmatchable again, lives has been lost in the homes in the name of religious.

Divorce is allow, don't be deceived under religious only to stay single or reconcile years after as soon love is back (Read and study 1 Cor. 7:1-end by yourself)
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What's your views?
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The picture below is 10 years ago

Pastor Emmanuel Elijah O

25/01/2023

I STAND FOR PEACE
AM AGAINST ABUSIVE MARRIAGE 100%
I WILL NOT SEE PEOPLE LOSING LIFE JUST TO SAVE MARRIAGE

When talking about abusive marriage, people focus on man beating a woman, no.

Abusive marriage is a marriage where a partner failed to work on his or her weaknesses that is now hurting the other partner beyond normal.

Many wives hurt their husbands to the level of beating them when they cannot take it anymore, but immediately the man beat the woman people focus on the man been mad but neglected the source that pushed him to it.

Many husbands go crazy in becoming drunkard just to avoid beating his wife because of the abusive characters.

Many men begin to go out with another woman because of the abusive characters from his wife.

Many men begin to stay office extra time or decided to play with his friends till late hour just to avoid his wife's problems.

Many men has gone to early grave just because of abusive marriage experienced from his wife.

Abusive marriage is not men beating or tormenting his wife, abusive marriage is also when a wife been selfish and arrogant or other bad silent characters that can make a man go crazy.

Many women love been alone (single life) even after married and fail to learn how to live with a man.

Everyone has his or her weaknesses, the weakness you fail to work on that is hurting your spouse even emotional has turn the marriage to abusive marriage which can lead to one of the partner's total damage one day.

The weakness you fail to work on today will walk on you tomorrow and can cause a heavy damages to a precious partner.

If you're not feeling living with him or her due to reasons known to you, it is advisable to separate and reconcile after than using your silent bad characters to be tormenting him or her so she so people can see him or her as violence person.

Don't lose him or her before you realize your mistakes, it can be too late then.

Am not in support or divorce but instead to become mad or commit murder or become something else that can become dangerous, separate and give space... Time will heal, then reconcile and start a fresh love.

I say No to marriage without joy and peace.
I say No to violence marriage
I say No to emotional damages

Am against to die in the marriage in the name what people will say
Am against losing lives just to save marriage

I stand for peace
I stand for love

This is all about what I stand for

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Pastor Emmanuel Elijah O

25/01/2023

Marriage get bored when you get bored
Marriage is active when you're active

Nothing will happen in the marriage if the partners in the marriage doesn't make it happen

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Pastor Emmanuel Elijah O

25/01/2023

SORRY IS GOOD BUT CANNOT HEAL...

Sorry mean a lot, but sorry doesn't heal.. why?

When you continue offending your spouse and coming to say sorry, even sending people to say sorry, it is very good but the truth is; sorry cannot repair the damages done.

A man that always beat his wife and come to say sorry, very fine, but what about those marks in her body through the beating?
What about the broken arms through the beating?
What about the bruise in the face?
What about the inner wounds that now affecting her health through the beating?

Buy car after to say sorry is good but her health may not be restored which has lead many women to run mad or die sudden... We listen to news daily.

A wife who continue offending her husband and come to say sorry is good but the sorry may not heal some wounds caused through those offenses.

Many offense has turned some men to drug addict, some s*x addict, some drunkard even some lost their two sights and the woman come for forgiveness etc

How can she restore the man from drug addict, or s*x addict or restore the two eyes that has gone?

My research reveal that;

It pains a man who love his wife so much when such wife continue to make him not happy and the wife turn not a new leaf, this has make them going crazy.

A woman who indeed love her husband do run mad or become something else when the man do return evil for good.

I have met different people telling a very deep secret (inner problem) the offenses from the spouses has caused, how can they be restored?

This is the reason of advising couples, each partner must work on their weaknesses, this will limit the misunderstanding and help them to live in peace and harmony till old age.

It is better to do the right thing than coming to say sorry after you have destroy many physically, emotionally or spiritually.

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Pastor Emmanuel Elijah O

09/12/2022

FROM MY INBOX (PART 3)

If you haven’t read part 1-2, get it on our page.
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“Sir, is it good for a man to be planning or thinking about future alone without his wife?”

Dear wife, in a straight word; the answer is no but there may be many factors that can make a man thinking or planning alone.

70% of men plan and carry out their planning alone but why?

May be because the first man (Adam) followed his wife’s words and thing went wrong (Genesis 3:17) and Abraham the father of faith followed his wife’s words and things went wrong as well. Their DNA may be running in men’s life that is why 70% don’t listen or ask their wife anything. I only think but not sure anyways.

Let us check the reasons below

1. Many wives are too loose. You better go to CNN to announce your plan

2. Many wives always agreed with whatsoever their husband says without adding better one, so such man wouldn't worry to plan with her only to announce his plan when time comes.

3. Some men don’t know it is bad, they thought it is normal to be planning alone.

4. Some men prefer to plan with their mother or relatives.

5. In a home where there’s constant misunderstanding, men plan alone even the wife’s too.

6. If wife is too proud, men plan alone. And so on.
In your home; ask your husband what makes him to be planning alone, his answer can be of help to you.

May be you talk too much, once you hear plan, you broadcast it immediately.

Or you don’t contribute positively. Someone like me, if I come up with a plan and discuss with you and all you could do is “IS OKAY”, I will make another plan with you again, and if you always come up with “IS OKAY” mean all I have says are accepted by you, then I will consider you not useful in planning, but that doesn’t mean you’re not useful in other aspect, all I will be doing is to plan alone and just announce to you when it is time.

But if a man share his plan with you and you added positively with submission, he will love to share another with you.

You may ask “added positively with submission”, how?

He ask your advice, it was successful, later you begin to proud “you see, if not the advice I gave, that how you will just waste money like the other day”. My sister, you will not hear next time. Or when you wanted to give, and you said, “if I even talk now you will not do it, let me just say my own”. My sister, you will not hear another plan.

Men love “A VALUE ADDED WOMAN” but they hate advice with pride, they will rather make advice with outsider than wife with pride or without “VALUE ADDED”

In inclusion

Men, always plan with your wife since she is your second half.

Wives, if your man doesn’t plan with you, ask him in love and be A VALUE ADDED WOMAN because you’re his helpmeet, don’t lose your position.
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That's all for today

This ministry (Emmanuel Elijah Olurotimi Marriage Ministry, a.k.a Home of Peacemaker) will be 12 years in January 2, 2023.

What have you learn from us?
Have we affect your home positively?

Feed us back
Also celebrate the goodness of God in us.

Remember, same January 2 is the set man's birthday.

Thanks to everyone who has been supporting us financially for these years
May God continue to bless you all

I will appreciate it more because we still have lots to offer but money answereth all things.

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Pastor Emmanuel Elijah O

09/12/2022

* I love you
* Thank you
* Am sorry
Very simple words, but very hard to do and act
Listen to today Friday Marriage Tonic and be blessed 👇
https://audiomack.com/olurotimielijahayanfejesu/song/i-love-u-pstelijah-eo

08/12/2022

FROM MY INBOX (Part 2)

“Sir, whenever the in-laws ask their son money and he didn’t send, they thought it is his wife that doesn’t allow him to send, why?”

My sister, on behalf of in-laws I say sorry for the pains.

From the part 1 of this post, the man (husband) allows them to think in such way.

This is one of the things I do say, we don’t follow Christian’s pattern in homes from the in-laws, and we still have some cultures that we just have to be managing it.

The marriage Jesus Christ attended were not recorded how the wedding goes in full details but has records according to the Jews manner. Mean there are certain things presences according to their manner.

There some manner in Africa and other tribes we will still continue to be managing in homes.
If the in-laws will be thinking that the wife doesn’t allow their son to send them money whenever they ask depend on how the husband presents his wife to his parents. What he do tell them matters.

For example; if my Mum called, requested for some amount and I said “Mum, please give me some time, I don’t have money now, even my wife wanted to do something about her shop and I haven’t give self…” with this statement mentioning my wife, I have planted a seed into my Mum’s heart against my wife.

If my Mum asked but said “please Mum give me sometime, by God’s grace I will get back to you soon, even the last one I sent to you was borrow from my wife since I haven’t balance in my business, and you know how things be now, just pray for me I will see what I can do, Love you Mum”. With this statement, I haven’t plant any negative seed into my Mum’s heart.

Again, man must not be mentioning his wife or children when it comes to money matters between him and his parents constantly; we have different types of parents.

This is Africa; many parents even killed the wife or kids since they believed that the love their son has for them doesn’t allow him to be spending on them.

Many spiritual battles in the Africa marriage today may come from the in-laws, this is one of the reasons you must strengthen yourself (Wife) spiritually in the Lord as Christian woman. But I didn’t say you should make your in-laws as the prayer point.

If a man will change his parents and others negative thought about his wife, he must be in one accord with his wife, all decisions must be make together but not telling his wife negative things about his parents. He should allow his wife to be send things to the parents, even to visit them at times.
The wife should have a good relationship with them.

Though, this is Africa, most things you do to please in-laws can still be used against you. If you send money most to them or your husband do let them know too much you gave, they may be saying you’re using their son’s glory.

In conclusions

1. The in-laws thought you don’t let him send money because you’re his half. They believed you can influence him negatively

2. They may be thinking you’re using Charms against him and fighting you on his behalf will destroy the Charms. (their thought)

3. Your husband may be talking negatively about you to them.

This is one of the reasons couple should be in one accord to balance in both in-laws. Lots to say but time doesn’t allow.

FROM MY INBOX (Part 3) will be out soon, just watch out on our page

This ministry (Emmanuel Elijah Olurotimi Marriage Ministry, a.k.a Home of Peacemaker) will be 12 years in January 2, 2023.

What have you learn from us?
Have we affect your home positively?

Feed us back
Also celebrate the goodness of God in us.

Remember, same January 2 is the set man's birthday.

Thanks to everyone who has been supporting us financially for these years
May God continue to bless you all

I will appreciate it more because we still have lots to offer but money answereth all things.

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Pastor Emmanuel Elijah O

07/12/2022

HAPPY WEDDING ANNIVERSARY 💐
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Whenever couple is celebrating wedding anniversary or celebrating another partner's birthday,... I do see lots of good complementaries.

Very sweet words like;👇
"I celebrate my one and only queen/king, my sweetheart, my potatoes, my sugar etc today, as God added another year to his/her year"

"Wao! People of God join me to celebrate my joy, backbone, honey etc as she/he clocks another beautiful year today"

"It's our 10/15/20 years wedding anniversary today, I celebrate my love, my sweetie etc bla bla bla"

The question that always come to my heart is;
Are these people really enjoying the wedding they are celebrating online or is this person really showing his/her spouse those good words she/he shower on her/him online?

Now listen couples
You better stop deceiving yourselves on social media. The good words you say on social media are nothing if your spouse cannot enjoy that from you.

70% couples fight seriously on the wedding anniversary, but one of them, even it could be husband or the wife who always cause troubles will be the one celebrating wedding anniversary on social media when his or her partner is in "coma emotional"

Please, what you're displaying positively on social media about your spouse is nothing if she or he doesn't enjoy that from you.

You cannot be tormenting someone in your closet and be celebrating him/her online,...
She/he only wanted not to disgrace him/herself, if not, he/she could have comment under your post and ask you simple question if you're treating him/her just the way you said on your post.

Marriage is not about what people see or know about you in your place of work, neighborhood or family but what your spouse knows about you matters.

Do you know your problem?
Your problem is "Lack of Commitment"

I will talk about feelings and Commitment soon

But I just drop this post first, don't forget to read "From my inbox part 1" part 2 will be out tomorrow.

Work on yourself and stop celebrating on social media without single joy from you to your spouse.

This ministry (Emmanuel Elijah Olurotimi Marriage Ministry, a.k.a Home of Peacemaker) will be 12 years in January 2, 2023.

What have you learn from us?
Have we affect your home positively?

Feed us back
Also celebrate the goodness of God in us.

Remember, same January 2 is the set man's birthday.

Thanks to everyone who has been supporting us financially for these years
May God continue to bless you all

I will appreciate it more because we still have lots to offer but money answereth all things.

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Pastor Emmanuel Elijah O

29/11/2022

Tuesday Prophetic Declaration For Homes
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https://audiomack.com/olurotimielijahayanfejesu/song/blind-marriage

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26/11/2022

HAVE THIS IN MIND
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Listen couple,
Either you believed you married that person by mistake or willingly, just listen to me.
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Before you agreed to marry the person, remember, you have met lots, they disappointed you or you disappointed them.

Why not married any of them? Why?

You left them or leave you mistakely or willingly because God knows about it. You don't have an idea what could happen if you married them, you're only imagine vain in your marriage now.

Do you know, either by mistake or willingly, God still have a purpose or purposes why he allowed you to married your spouse now?
Believe or not, either good or bad, God knows.

Do you know your problems in that marriage?

Your problems are; 👇
1. You don't work on yourself (your weaknesses)
2. You don't have a person who can talk bitter truth to you but lots supporting even telling you better persons are waiting you outside. How did they know those better persons they cannot find you before? I dey laugh 🤣

3. Your eyes is in vain somewhere. Many of you still going around with ex you failed to love and keep.
4. You believed if you back out in your marriage, you'll be free, laughing, you don't have an idea what will come next. Stop imagine vain.

4. You don't have a sound spiritual man around to show you beyond physical. Or you don't even believe in any man of God.
5. You don't even know your God, if not, you could have see beyond where you are.

Lots to write but time doesn't permit.

I want you to know, you cannot fulfill the purposes you want in that marriage with another. I mean, if you allow your nonchalant attitude ruin your marriage hoping better man or woman is awaiting you outside, you may find a person that will be having s*x with you or having s*x with, but you cannot achieve the purposes with him or her because you have left the person to help you out.

If you work on this today's post, it is not too late to apologize and turn a new leaf. Saying sorry is good, but having positive change is the best.

It will be HAD I KNOW if you willingly allow divorce in your marriage, and those encouraging you will have no power to erase your inner wounds and pains, you carry them up and down. They can only show you cares and hope for a while but will soon tired and leave you to your problems alone. Even, some will blaming you of leaving your marriage saying you're inpatient and forget they encouraged you to do so.

Lots of vain outside, take heed and work on your weaknesses, God will not come down to do so, but put wisdom in you to do so, if you fail now, you'll fail forever.

Thanks to everyone supporting our ministry financially.

This ministry will be 12 years in January 2, 2023.

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Pastor Emmanuel Elijah O

24/11/2022

REPORTING YOUR SPOUSE
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Primary and secondary school is where you can report a student and teacher flog such student especially the students we hate much.

Mostly, when we reported a student doesn't mean what he or she did was so much wrong, even we may be the cause but since we hated such student and we are favoured by some teachers, we continue reporting him or her just to punished him/her and making teachers to see him or her as bad one and would not be loved.

Do you know you're not different from a student causing teachers to hate other students since they are favoured when you're reporting your spouse to your family or people constantly?

Once you nailed him or her bad names, they always supporting you, mostly they will tell you "don't tell me anything about that your stubborn wife/husband, unwise fellow etc" adding abusive words because you have painted him/her black.

You think since you're favoured by people when you report your spouse will give you any gain? Yea, it will give you gain because after they help you indirectly to ruin your home your eyes will open but then, it may be too late to cry when the head is off.

Have you noticed, those students we hated so much then and caused much pains become great today?
But we feared to get closer to them if at all they can be our mates today because our conscience bear us witness. This is how it will look like after they help you end your marriage thinking your spouse is the bad egg, you will be seeing him/her a far but you cannot get closer any more, HAD I KNOW has closed the chapter.

Reporting your spouse constantly will not allow you to find ways of bringing peace to your marriage but continue damaging it.

Lots of unsettled matters between many and their in laws since they had been painted black, their words has no meanings anymore.

Let me advice someone here, if you caused trouble between your spouse and your family (his or her in laws), hmmm... Please find ways to bring peace because it's too dangerous for the future of your home.

Advice to siblings, friends, Pastors and others👇

If someone reporting his or her spouse to you constantly, don't be in haste to hate, or joining him/her to call the spouse bad names, it's unwise to feel that way. Just listen and call the spouse to hear from him/her separately, this will be of help to such home. Remember, marriage belong to God, do not help anyone to destroy his or her own when you have yours, God will judge, how he will judge you is what you cannot tell or know.

Dear wife/husband
Sit your spouse and discuss, I just told someone days ago, if you cannot talk to your spouse and beg him/her until you introduce 3rd party mean you have lost something.

Once you started the journey both of you started in talks, positive talks, then, sit again and talk positively.

As I conclude today's post, stop reporting your spouse to your family, friends or others constantly, you're making him/her losing honour you may not able to get back for him/her. At times, if they are wise, they see you as talkative (Oniranu tu de pẹlu ẹjọ wẹwẹ) they're making jest of you because you have lose your honour and has become unwise that cannot settle his/her home.

My favourite word
"To build love is more honourable than building hatred"
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God bless everyone blessing my ministry in one way or other.

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Pastor Emmanuel Elijah O

23/11/2022

22/11/2022

Follow this link to listen to our Tuesday weekly Prophetic Declaration For Homes
Topic: Lame Marriage
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Listen and be blessed

https://audiomack.com/olurotimielijahayanfejesu/song/lame-marriage