23/11/2022
Marrying Right!
I have been struggling with this piece since yesterday. I spoke with my husband this morning and He gave me the go ahead to write on it. It's a personal experience for me. This is for us the ladies and I hope this means more to you as it has been for me.
Truth is, you may never be right all the time. Hormones get in the way, emotions could even cloud your judgement and at that moment, trust me, scriptures could be so far away from you. You didn't do anything wrong, it's just that at that moment, you just can't explain yourself.
Sometimes everyone just irritates you, even your husband! You didn't mean to raise your voice but you did! You see him feel so bad yet those hormones just wouldn't let you rush to him to apologize. Halfway into the day, you feel a bit relieved but a lot of harm has been done! Am I alone or does it ring a bell?
I've been there! I watched my husband stay quiet all through. I could see myriads of questions running through his mind. My husband isn't one that raises his voice or shouts, but his silence can kill you. I felt ashamed going to him, I felt I should have controlled myself better. I kept beating myself up, not knowing he had gone to the kitchen to make dinner.
The aroma of the food was so tempting, yet I held myself. I felt unworthy of his love, Just then he came knocking, saying dinner is ready! He teased me on how I had swallowed all the aroma and my cheeks had added weight and We laughed! I rushed to hug him and off to the food I went. The heaviness and guilt left me. He came knocking even when I felt unworthy! He reminds me of Jesus!
After dinner, he explained that I hurt him but the HolySpirit explained to him what happened. He helped him calm down. There and then I knew Abba heard me. When I was down and unable to face him, I asked the HolySpirit to help me explain to him because he listens better to him and He did a perfect job.
I don't know how all this would have played out if He wasn't Born again or didn't have the fear of God! That is when abuse and violence comes in. He can love you when all is going well, but how would he treat you when he has lost his job or contract? When you both work for the same boss, You both would be loyal to Him just so you can keep your job. Being on the same team is the best decision you can ever make. Team Jesus never fails!
Dear Worthy Woman,
Don't be in a hurry! Get it right in marriage! Let Him be a lover of God who submits to the HolySpirit. You need it! You are human and you are bound to make mistakes. Don't get me wrong, I am not promoting these mistakes.
You will make them, you will learn from them, you will be better, It's a process called growth. But whilst growing, You will need someone who knows you are growing and is willing to help you become all you are made to be. He will scold you, Yes he will! he will correct you; Sometime he will squeeze his face and frown at your actions but He will do all this in love because He is a follower of Jesus. In his bid to correct you, He will not throw your nakedness to the social media. He will hide you in love. He will not punch sense into you but will pray them into you.
Finally, Work on yourself! you cant be having mood swings everyday and talking back at him everyday. Allow the HolySpirit to gain access into your heart. He will teach you all things! He will help you manage your temperament and become a better wife! Your humanity isn't an excuse, Grow up! I pray He teaches you to know that your days are numbered so you can make the best out of the ones left.
To ladies, Marry Right!
Love,
Uforo
