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The wedding is not about the brideIt’s about the couple ❤️Today I interviewed my husband on HIS wedding planning experie...
01/10/2020

The wedding is not about the bride
It’s about the couple ❤️

Today I interviewed my husband on HIS wedding planning experience
It was fun and interesting at the same time because a few of the questions I asked him, I never asked before.
Not sure why 🧐
Maybe because afterwords it was all about the wedding itself and never about the wedding planning experience.
It was definitely interesting getting his perspective.
How he remembers the planning period and what learnings he took from it.
He also shared great views about how it is for men to be involved in the whole experience.
It was a great experience and definitely useful for all husbands to be. Even for wife’s to be to get their husbands perspective.
Watch the whole Q&A ‘Let the groom talk’ in my group.
DIY Brides - Plan a Stress Free Wedding
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// Thursday is Q&A Day //Vicky and Adam from  have an amazing philosophy behind their Instagram account.Education! 🤓Actu...
22/09/2020

// Thursday is Q&A Day //

Vicky and Adam from have an amazing philosophy behind their Instagram account.

Education! 🤓

Actual knowledge sharing of how they plan their own dream wedding during COVID. 😷

They show you the real story.
Unfiltered and honest.

And while they do that, they support other small businesses to stay alive during these crazy times.
👩‍💻👩‍🍳👷‍♀️
What I love most is Adams videos.
Sharing his side of the journey.

On Thursday I will be interviewing them about
✅their journey,
✅their struggles,
✅views
✅and how they are managing life, work, a pandemic and their relationship while wedding planning.
☀️☀️☀️
Full interview will be live in my private free Facebook group
DIY Brides - Plan A Stress after Wedding.

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I am NOT selfish just because I take care of myself
When I grew up, I have been told that I was thinking too much about ...
21/09/2020

I am NOT selfish just because I take care of myself

When I grew up, I have been told that I was thinking too much about myself.
That I was selfish
That I was egoistic
….

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When you are young, and you hear all these negative descriptions of your behaviour, you associate it with negative thoughts.
So I stopped thinking about myself and started to think about others more. 
And don’t get me wrong. I was helpful, caring and always there for my friends and family. But I always put myself first.
So, I started to put the feelings and needs of others before mine. 
No matter how I felt about it.
No matter my believes and values.
And after years and years of constant pleasing, I was drained.
Who was I?
I lost the ability to take care of myself.
Only when I reached the bottom, I was able to see how much I had neglected myself.
Mentally and physically.
So I started to take care of myself again. 
Focussing on understanding 
who I want to be, 
what my values and beliefs are 
and what I want to do with my life.
And some people did not like that and restarted telling me how selfish I was.
But now, I am older and stronger, and I know that I am not selfish.
I am taking care of myself.
If not me, who will?

What are you grateful for today?Reminding ourself of the good things that are happening around us is a good exercise in ...
20/09/2020

What are you grateful for today?
Reminding ourself of the good things that are happening around us is a good exercise in thinking positive.
Positive thoughts bring positive feelings. And if we have positive feelings our body can relax and de stress.
I am grateful for
❤️ my husband
🤓 my drive to constantly wanting to improve myself
☀️the sun
☕️ my morning coffee

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What drains your energy? 😷While we go through our daily life, we have different energy drainers we are not aware of.Whic...
18/09/2020

What drains your energy? 😷
While we go through our daily life, we have different energy drainers we are not aware of.
Which of these 15 energy drainers do you recognize in yourself?

                                                 

🖐Why I Took A Break Last WeekThe past few days I have not been active on social media.I have been inactive in my group c...
16/09/2020

🖐Why I Took A Break Last Week
The past few days I have not been active on social media.
I have been inactive in my group chats and social groups.
I have been absent from work.
When working on complex projects or when you feel that you have too much to do, it is easy to convince yourself that you do not have the time to take breaks. 
I did that my whole life.
Thinking that if I take a break I am giving up, I am not good enough, weak or not capable.
So I pushed through.😷
However, research has found that taking a break can be very beneficial for you, your mental health and your wedding planning. 
Studies have found that breaks can reduce or prevent stress, help to maintain performance throughout the day and reduce the need for a long recovery.
Relaxing and social breaks have been found to be particularly helpful.
A relaxing break can help recovery, by returning your mental and psychical functional systems to their baseline.
Also, a relaxing break can help to reset your mood, thereby promoting positive wellbeing and reducing stress.
Social breaks, such as chatting with your peers, have also been found to be beneficial.
Taking breaks has been shown to be important in recovering from stress, which can, in turn, improve your performance.
Recovering from work stress can restore energy and mental resources and decrease the development of fatigue, sleep disorders and cardiovascular disease. 
And if you see your wedding planning as work, you get now why you are so fatigued …. You took on a second job.
So I took a break from everything.
To recharge 💪
Think clearer 🤓
Have more energy🤩
And enjoy what I do.❤️
Because if you push through, at some point, you will start hating what you do, resent jour choices and people and even give up on your big day.
If you feel exhausted, stressed, anxious, overworked, tensed, sleepless, fatigued,
‼️THEN TAKE A BREAK‼️

FREE 5-Day DIY Wedding Planning Workshop ☀️It’s almost time! This Sunday 30th of August I will start the first of 5 work...
28/08/2020

FREE 5-Day DIY Wedding Planning Workshop ☀️
It’s almost time!
This Sunday 30th of August I will start the first of 5 workshop days on
“Setting the Base Plan Priorities”
Every day I will go live with a different topic.
And every day you will receive worksheets to immediately apply the new acquired learnings.
❤️1 hour one live ❤️
Are you a bride to be or do you know one that could benefit from this workshop?
Add them to the Facebook group in which I will host the workshop.
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Every bride that adds an other bride to the workshop will not only get my
Day of the wedding planner for free
But will als have the chance to wind the big big prices!
I am so excited to get you guys ready and stress free to your wedding day❤️

It is almost time to get the workshop started. 😱That is why I want to share a few details with you:➡️ The workshop will ...
27/08/2020

It is almost time to get the workshop started.
😱
That is why I want to share a few details with you:
➡️ The workshop will be LIVE in DIY Brides - Plan A Stress Free Wedding
➡️ Every day I will go live for 1h for a workshop session
You will get all the worksheets directly
➡️ Every session was designed to get you through the next day’s session to get 💩 done
➡️ The workshop is for brides to be.
If you are or know someone who is getting married, share this with them.
Wedding Stress is real and they will thank you for it
➡️ Day one starts Sunday 30th of August
11am PST/ 1pm CST / 2pm EST / 8pm CET
How confusing with all these time zones right 😝
I can’t wait to see you all there.
If you need more details comment below ❤️
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20/08/2020

Planning a wedding is no joke.
It is also not the pink fairytale bubble people make us believe it is.
It is not that perfect Pinterest board you created.
It is hard work.
It is also adding up to the responsibilities you already have in your life.
Your job, your family, your goals and especially your relationship.
Wedding planning is taking away precious time off off your private time with your partner.
So how do we keep the balance?
Together with Sarah and Raphy we talk about how to keep the balance between wedding planning and the relationship.
Want to see the full video and more great expert talks?
Click the link in my Bio

🌟 FREE 5 Day Workshop 🌟How To Plan Your DIY WeddingGuidance and solutions.This is what I needed when I was wedding plann...
18/08/2020

🌟 FREE 5 Day Workshop 🌟
How To Plan Your DIY Wedding
Guidance and solutions.
This is what I needed when I was wedding planning my wedding.
And that is why I created this workshop for you.
A crash course to get you started on your wedding planning journey.
This Workshop is LESSON and IMPLEMENTATION focused.
You will not just be listening to me talking, no you will get s**t done!
You will get worksheets that will help you with your planning.
What is the outcome of this workshop?
🟡 To save money & time
🟡 Have an actual action plan
🟡 How to remove overwhelm
🟡 Create a dream Guest List
🟡 How & what to communicate to suppliers, friends &family
🟡 Create a life, work, wedding planning balance
🟡 And most importantly we’ll have FUN
Let’s me know if you want the details 🖊
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Exciting news everybody! Thursday I will have a Q&A session with  She is an amazing wedding photographer based in Wiscon...
09/06/2020

Exciting news everybody!
Thursday I will have a Q&A session with
She is an amazing wedding photographer based in Wisconsin!
I will post the Video Q&A exclusively in my private Facebook group:
Brides Planning Their Stress Free Wedding
So if you have ANY questions you always wanted to ask a professional wedding photographer
NOW IS YOUR CHANCE!
Write under this post or if you feel more comfortable just DM me.
Join the group so you will be able to see the video!
I want these Q&A’s to be as valuable as possible to you guys!
I am so excited for this - I love you guys, stay save!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/brides.planning.their.stress.free.wedding/

05/06/2020

We Saved 9k on our Wedding Catering Costs
PART II

Want to know how?

With these 12 tips you can save up to 70% on your catering budget and even have a better service and better food quality on your wedding day

Interested?

Then Join the Private Facebook Group
Brides Planning Their Stress Free Wedding
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     @ Amsterdam, Netherlands
02/06/2020

@ Amsterdam, Netherlands

True or False?
21/05/2020

True or False?

Flowerless bouquets 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 or 7? ❤️                                                        @ Amsterdam
17/05/2020

Flowerless bouquets 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 or 7? ❤️
@ Amsterdam

HUGE ANNOUNCEMENTS!!!I am so excited to share these AMAZING news with all of you.This week I have started my Private Fac...
15/05/2020

HUGE ANNOUNCEMENTS!!!

I am so excited to share these AMAZING news with all of you.


This week I have started my Private Facebook Group called "Brides Planning Their Stress Free Wedding".


This group is not like all the other Wedding Support Groups out there in which the Admins just create the group and don't drop value or share their knowledge. Brides get spammed with 100ts of messages from vendors promoting themselves and not even answering the question of the bride.


Or other brides answer with their own personal opinion without asking the background of the bride's situation or personal preferences.


THIS GROUP IS DIFFERENT:

First of all, it is from brides for brides, so NO VENDOR SPAM

Second I will be helping out with exclusive content about how to reduce stress and how to deal with specific situations.

BUT

Most importantly, I will be dropping amazing video interviews with vendors, live Q&A sessions everybody in the group that wants to join AND sharing sheets and lists on helping you plan your wedding the most efficient way possible!

So basically you will not get an opinion but real constructive help!


AND because I am working so hard for you guys, yesterday I was able to get our first interview in!

The one and only Jennifer Mellies will be interviewed on the topic:

How to lose weight before the big day!


Jennifer is the Reigning Dutch Body Fitness Champion and was 7th in last years European championship.

She is a real power-women!


Do you want to follow her and many many more interviews that I have planned with more amazing suppliers?


Then join the (private) Facebook Group "Brides Planning Their Stress-Free Wedding".

NOW!

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https://www.facebook.com/groups/245831839830222/

What are things that family & friends are “asking” you to do?
09/05/2020

What are things that family & friends are “asking” you to do?

What does it mean participating at the stress free wedding planning mastermind?You will invest time and effort in yourse...
08/05/2020

What does it mean participating at the stress free wedding planning mastermind?
You will invest time and effort in yourself to ❤️ Get full clarity on who you are and what you really want
❤️ Build confidence
❤️ Reduce stress
❤️ Maintain your sanity while planning your wedding
❤️ Get organised/keep organised throughout the wedding planning process
❤️ Achieve wedding goals on time and according to plan
If you are ready to experience the best and happiest time of your life, click on the link now!

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https://maria-cristina-beima-30539.mindmint.com/landing_page_5acwkubg1sg0000000000

07/05/2020

This Mastermind is for YOU
The first-ever Stress-Free Wedding Planning Mastermind in the World
I am so excited to share the news with all of my beautiful friends out here on Facebook.
A year ago, I believed that I was the only one that had major problems planning the big day.
The indecisiveness to choose the right location
The budget allocation
The "omg, have I forgotten anything."
The hours and hours of research for just one stupid item
And above all the extra stress that came with the opinions of people that told us how we were supposed to have our wedding.
After sharing my wedding experience with people, all around the World I found out that I wasn't the only one. It gave me comfort that I wasn't "crazy' to want our wedding our way and that the decisions we took were right for us.
BUT it also saddened me to see how many ... especially women ... have the same issues when planning their own wedding.
It shouldn't be that hard, right?
The issue I had while wedding planning was that I wanted to plan my own wedding. I mean, you only get to do it (hopefully) once in your life. I wanted to be proud of having it done all by myself.
But I also needed guidance, some help, that could lead me to the right direction on what to do first, second, last and also guide me through difficult situations with vendors or even family and friends.
I was NOT able to find it. It was either, "do it all by yourself' or "hire a wedding planner".
There was no middle way. NONE.
So I took it as my mission to write down all the learnings and lessons I had in the past 4 years of self-improvement and confidence to help brides stand their ground on wanting and realising their own wedding.
And I created a system to plan a wedding efficiently. Fast.
After hours and hours of talks with future brides about their needs, sketching, planning and rearranging and list creations it was finally done.
THE SOLUTION. The Stress-Free Wedding Planning Mastermind that solves not only the problems on how to plan a wedding efficiently by yourself but that will also give you the confidence to tackle the problems in a positive, healthy and empowered way.
It is not a pre-recorded course that will tell you very broadly what your to do's are or standard PDF sheets that are not actually having all the information you need. NO!
It is a live event in which YOU will be able to get clarity on how to plan your dream wedding.
You will be able to ask questions and get direct solutions to your issues.
You will be able to customise your to-do list to make it as efficient and personal as possible.
And you will be able to help other brides solve their solutions. Because you may not realise it, but you have something that another bride desperately needs.
This is a Mastermind that I created for YOU to help you not fall into the same traps that so many other brides fall into.
The "bridezilla"-Trap, the Regret-Trap, the "I wish I would have done"-Trap.
I want, that there are more future wives out there, telling the World that they had their dream wedding with no stress, no drama and most importantly no regrets. So they can share the positive news that the Wedding Planning shouldn't be as stressful as portrayed everywhere on billboards, Reality TV shows, Movies and what not. And that they were actually able to enjoy their engagement period fully.
Are you ready to take matters into your own hands and not only live a stress free wedding planning time but also change your future?
Then click the link below!
Sign up for 1 of the first-ever spots of this Mastermind that was created just for you.

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https://maria-cristina-beima-30539.mindmint.com/landing_page_5acwkubg1sg0000000000

𝙒𝙝𝙮 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙒𝙚𝙙𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙋𝙡𝙖𝙣𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙎𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡Stress is not something that comes from external but stress comes from intern...
06/05/2020

𝙒𝙝𝙮 𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙒𝙚𝙙𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙋𝙡𝙖𝙣𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙎𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙡
Stress is not something that comes from external but stress comes from internal feelings that YOU have.
First things first, you have to understand that stress is not real, but danger is.
Stress is something you create in your head out of a situation that you have because you don't know how to deal with it.
Danger is real. Danger is a situation you can not control and have no chance of dealing with it.
Danger is a virus that can hit you any day. The economy is collapsing, an alien attack, a new world war.
You can't control what is out of your hands. Like if people go out and are just reckless with their lives and the lives of others. But what you can control is what you do with your life and your actions.
So to understand better, why stress even happens, we have to understand our brain and how we absorb information.
𝙄 𝙨𝙬𝙚𝙖𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙞 𝙗𝙞𝙤𝙡𝙤𝙜𝙮 𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙤𝙣 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙗𝙡𝙤𝙬 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙙. 𝙅𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙢𝙚 𝙖 𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙪𝙩𝙚.
Your brain basically has 3 layers. I will tell you the Scientific terms and my terms:
1. The Crocodile Brain - 1 million year old brain
2. The Mid Brain - The Rational Thinker
3. The Neocortex - The Problem Solver
The Old Brain is responsible for the initial, the first filtering of all incoming messages. Here is where our survival mode is attached—our fight or flight response and where strong and basic emotions appear.
THIS is where the stress happens.
But when it comes to decision making, this part of the brain is useless.
Because you are in such a primal and unreasonable state, making rational and calculated decisions here is impossible. This part of the brain does not understand logic or reason.
It basically is super useful when we get into a zombie apocalypse, to keep us alive.
But when we have to deal with stress, so situations that DON'T bring us in danger, this part of the brain is only making us freak out about nothing .... thanks brain.
The Mid Brain, which is a layer above the old brain, determines the meaning of things and social situations.
Basically, if you are out of the first reaction of your old brain, your mid brain is starting to make you think straight. Stress is not taking over your every response, but you know how to control it and put things into perspective.
You are able to ask yourself reasonable questions like: "What does that mean for me?"
"How can I deal with that?"
"What does this mean for my community, environment, family and friends?"
"Is it really that important?"
The rational thinker will analyse, how important a task, a subject, a situation, a problem really is and will filter it out of your brain.
The Neocortex - The Problem Solver is the part of the brain that will help you find the right solution for your problem.
It is the part that is doing all the heavy lifting. It forms ideas, putting them together, giving it structure, making a plan and putting it into action. It is basically your Wonder Women phase. Nobody can stop you now.
But for a lot of people, staying stuck in the old brain is just comfortable. They don't want to or don't know how to ask the right questions or how to sit down and solve a problem. It is too confronting. That is why they stay in a comfortable position of only nagging.
Yes, you read it right. Some people find comfort in staying stuck in a stressful situation because that is all they know.
Our brain though, is designed to go through all the stages.
From the old brain to the rational brain, to the problem solver brain. The only thing that is keeping you from going through all 3 stages is yourself.
So, how can you get out of the old brain?
First of all, take 10 deep breaths.
You will get some oxygen into your brain. And what does oxygen do? It is like you go to a gas station and fuel your car. Or you put your phone on the charger. You recharge your brain.
Then maybe count to 10 and the FIRST question you ask yourself is:
"Is it really that bad?"
"Can I control it?"
"Can I do something about it" - and don't go into Domesday mode again, like really be realistic here.
"How can I solve it? Who can solve it for me?"
And before you know it you are thinking in solutions rather than problems.

This   in the woods is just next level magical.Who needs much decoration or flower arrangements, if you have the whole f...
03/05/2020

This in the woods is just next level magical.
Who needs much decoration or flower arrangements, if you have the whole forest to your service!
Pro tip for out there: find a wedding location in the nature, that way you can save on
1. Location fees
2. Flower arrangements
3. Decorations
Depending on your taste and focus, this can save you up to 70% of your wedding budget!
Say what!

If we want to keep focused and healthy for every single part of our lives, doesn’t matter if you are planning your   or ...
22/04/2020

If we want to keep focused and healthy for every single part of our lives, doesn’t matter if you are planning your or dealing with the corona crisis.
The most important factor of staying motivated and on track of your goals is to have .
You must have heard this a million times but why are daily habits important?
Our brain is a muscle. If you want to make a muscle grow, you have to train it. And if you want to keep it growing, you can’t just let it go. The muscle will deflate.
Your brain is the same. If you want to stay healthy and positive, you have to train and keep on training your brain to stay on that level.
It is not a one time thing that you do and then you will stay positive forever.
Daily routines keep you on track and going.
What are your daily habits?

ᴡʜʏ ᴍʏ ᴍᴏᴛʜᴇʀ ᴡᴀꜱ ɴᴏᴛ ᴀᴛ ᴍʏ ᴡᴇᴅᴅɪɴɢ ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ᴀᴍ ᴏᴋ ᴡɪᴛʜ ɪᴛIt took me a while to get the courage to write this part of my we...
21/04/2020

ᴡʜʏ ᴍʏ ᴍᴏᴛʜᴇʀ ᴡᴀꜱ ɴᴏᴛ ᴀᴛ ᴍʏ ᴡᴇᴅᴅɪɴɢ ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ᴀᴍ ᴏᴋ ᴡɪᴛʜ ɪᴛ
It took me a while to get the courage to write this part of my wedding journey down.
Though, the fact that my mother decided not to come to her daughter's wedding was the most intense and stressful part of all.
It hasn't been an easy journey for me, and it didn't start just because of the wedding.
The fact that my mother did not show is a response to many, MANY years of struggle. And honestly rather than writing a short post, I could write a book about all the battles I faced with her.
But I am not here to blow of steam but rather tell you, why I am ok with the fact that she was not present on my big day.
My mother and I always had a problematic relationship, as we both have strong characters and opinions. Already at a young age, I had a clear vision of how I wanted to live my life, which did not fit into her views.
I have to point out that I come from a southern Italian family, where traditions and "respect" are on the highest order. Though, working possibilities where none existent in Italy, my family moved to Germany, were, stating that the culture was different is an understatement.
Growing up in between two cultures, 1. living with Italian rules and traditions at home and 2. seeing the german way outside was very confronting and confusing.
Already at a young age, I questioned these so-called rules and customs I had to live bye.
After meeting my now-husband, it got even worse, as being in a relationship with a man meant to oblige by the rules of the early 19th century.
Not sleeping in one bed together
Not living together before being married
Asking the parents permission to get married
Being obliged to follow the rules of the family when organising the wedding
and the list goes on and on
The fact that he was also living in a different country while we were dating was not helpful.
After two years of a long-distance relationship, I made a conscious decision to live my life with him, in the Netherlands. Living together under one roof and most importantly, doing so while not being married to him.
That meant going against all the rules my mother put on me.
That was the first time, my mother and I had a major fallout.
Me trying to make her accept me and my way of living, just made everything worse.
After a few months, I tried to reconcile with her. It went well for a little while, until the next fallout, and the next, and the next.
After the, I don't know, 10th fallout I was mentally drained by everything.
The effort I put into her accepting me for who I am and how I want to live made me sick. Not only physically but also mentally.
All my focus and energy went into the relationship with my mother, neglecting my health, my relationship and my career.
I was broken.
It took me two years to find myself. To believe in myself, to accept myself for who I am and love myself. To understand that I have not been a bad daughter, a failure, wrong or a disappointment.
I believe that every daughter growing up with "old school" parenting or in between two cultures has the same issue, and I know, that the parents have no idea, with what pressure and doubts we as children are growing up.
We question our whole identity. And no, it is not that easy to figure out and we are not just making it up.
The struggle is real. And the parents pressuring on us doesn't make it any easier.
After my now-husband proposed to me two years ago, I found it would be excellent timing to reconcile with my mother. I was giving us enough time to work things out by the time the wedding would take place (which was 1.5 years later). Also, I was finally in a good place with my health and mental state.
And hey, guess what, it got even worse.
I believe that my mother was truly happy for me when I called her to tell that my husband proposed. But the only thing that she was able to say was:
"Finally; now it is real."
Like the past five years of our relationship up until that point did not count.
She immediately started demanding things from us, that went against our believes and values.
We honestly tried to go and make her happy while not forgetting ourselves, which meant to go and agree to meet in the middle.
It was not enough. For my mother, it was either her way or no way.
Which brought me asking myself, if sacrificing our dream, was worth it having her at our wedding.
After all the discussions, and times I tried to adapt and accept and putting her in the first place, I was done.
I explained to her that we would not be able to fulfil her demands 100% and that we hoped she could accept us for who we were and still come to our wedding.
She decided not to come.
The fact that she did not appear at our wedding did not influence the way I look back at it. I honestly think it was the best day of my life even and maybe because she was missing.
We stayed true to ourselves and created the wedding of OUR dreams.
To come to a close, I have learned so much from this experience with my mother. It was a psychological and physiological journey that I needed to grow as a person.
It helped me understand that no one can undermind my potential and believes in life. It took me years, a wedding and the courage to say no to my mother to realise how much I am worth it and love myself.
"To shine your brightest light is to be who you truly are."
― Roy T. Bennett

"ʏᴏᴜ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴡᴇᴀʀ ᴀ ᴠᴇɪʟ. ʏᴏᴜ ᴀʀᴇ ɴᴏᴛ ᴀ ʙʀɪᴅᴇ ɪꜰ ʏᴏᴜ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴡᴇᴀʀ ᴏɴᴇ". "ɪᴛ ɪꜱ ᴀ ᴛʀᴀᴅɪᴛɪᴏɴ ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀɴ ɴᴏᴛ ꜱᴀʏ ɴᴏ ᴛᴏ ᴀ ᴠᴇɪʟ".T...
20/04/2020

"ʏᴏᴜ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴡᴇᴀʀ ᴀ ᴠᴇɪʟ. ʏᴏᴜ ᴀʀᴇ ɴᴏᴛ ᴀ ʙʀɪᴅᴇ ɪꜰ ʏᴏᴜ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴡᴇᴀʀ ᴏɴᴇ".
"ɪᴛ ɪꜱ ᴀ ᴛʀᴀᴅɪᴛɪᴏɴ ʏᴏᴜ ᴄᴀɴ ɴᴏᴛ ꜱᴀʏ ɴᴏ ᴛᴏ ᴀ ᴠᴇɪʟ".
These are just a few of many comments I heard and read about the veil.
Now, if you love to wear a veil yourself, you have absolutely no problem with it and you don't care about the tradition, that is totally fine.
But because I never wanted to have a traditional wedding dress and a veil would have destroyed the outfit as I had a backless dress, why cover it up?
I needed to know THE TRUTH ....
uuuuu MC why so serious
As with the wedding dress, I went into research mode and tried to find out what the tradition behind the veil was.
I mean, if someone tells me "you have to, it's tradition" but can't explain me the story behind the tradition .... how can you expect me to believe you and do what you want?
So buckle up because this one has not just one prequel story but 6
1 Brides wear veils to protect themselves from demons
Wedding veils started being a thing in Roman times when brides were covered from head to toe in a massive red veil called 'flammeum'.
Why?
Because Romans were scared of evil spirits popping into the ceremony to curse the couple. They thought that making it look like the bride was on fire would scare them off.
This belief progressed into dressing the bridesmaids as brides too and using the veil to confuse the spirits. Therefore the spirit wouldn't be able to make their attack as they wouldn't be sure who the bride actually was.
Makes sense...
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2 Brides wear veils to hide their faces
Brides were trying to keep their face a secret from their grooms.
In early weddings, marriages were arranged entirely through fathers, with the bride given away in exchange for money and goods.
Dads giving away their daughters wanted to hide their face until the last possible minute so that a less attractive bride wouldn't spoil the agreement.
How sweet dad.
This eventually got transformed into the 'cute' tradition that men can't see their bride before the wedding. Romantic, huh?
3. Brides wore veils so they couldn't run away
Heavy Veils and trains were used to weigh down the bride and prevent them from running away when they met their new husband for the first time.
So being ugly was a no go for both bride and groom I guess ...
4. Brides wear veils to symbolise their virginity and 'purity'
Agh.
In time they changed those heavy opaque fabrics to thinly tull fabrics that symbolised the fragile, thin h***n.
Veil intact, virginity intact.
5. Brides have their veils lifted as a sign of ownership
Think about it this way: whoever unwraps a present is the owner, right? So through the ages, tradition has stated that the father of the bride must lower the veil on his daughter's face, in order to 'gift' her to her new husband. Once they're about to get married, the husband can then lift the veil, symbolising his new ownership of his bride.
No comment...
6. Brides wear veils to show that their love is more than skin-deep
If you still want to wear a veil purely for the prettiness factor, don't stress. There's another, non-horrifying reason behind the tradition.
In the Jewish faith, veils are meant to act as a public display that the groom isn't just marrying his bride because of how she looks. He's basically saying 'I love you so much, I would marry you even if I can't see your face.'
Aww.
What about you? Were you aware of all these historical backgrounds?
Why do you want to wear a veil?
I am super curious!

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