24/05/2020
You look at him/her, and smile. MINE – you say quietly inside your head. The “kilig” factor, the butterflies in your stomach, the slow-motion moments, and when time stops with your SO(significant other) - these are priceless moments we would love to always have, experience, and rewind from time to time because it feels so damn good. Right? I know you want this, all the time.
Although let’s be honest, you probably have already disagreed on each other’s opinions, have had different preferences, argued, and fought over petty and major stuff. Was there ever a time you got mad at each other, put down the phone with an unfinished discussion, or just merely rolled your eyes on each other? REAL TALK! All of us may have experienced this one way or another.
Stepping into the next level of relationship, which is Marriage, is a whole new world of all these we just mentioned. It’s a combination of all this and every little thing in between. You think so? We do!!! As real as it can get, let’s look at the whole and complete picture of being married. The key is to understand that however a fairy tale it is (and hey, you should always feel warmth in your heart in knowing that always ), it also entails that there is nothing perfect in this world, not even your spouse, your marriage/relationship, not even yourself.
What we are saying here is that it is both these: the good and the bad, the beautiful and the ugly, the easy and the difficult, and many more. It is understanding the real essence of the word LOVE because the genuine value of love is not just feeling and showing it when things are favorable to you, when you feel good or when things go your way. It is when you have to go out of your comfort zone, to listen before you speak, try to open up yourself to understand and accept your partner as a whole, when you learn to sacrifice and ultimately, to put your SO first before yourself and strive to be the better person you can be. It feels good but it will never be easy, it is not supposed to be easy, because LOVE is valuable and worth it, therefore we need to work hard to maintain and nurture it.
Not everyone understands this concept of love and marriage. Our advice? Before you decide on tying the knot, make sure that before you get carried away with the dream of a wonderful wedding ceremony, prioritize LOVE and your relationship first. The depth, the connection, the high points, the areas for improvement – the whole 360 degree of it. Invest in things that are priceless - commitment, effort, and time in your love/relationship, it will help your marriage work wonders. Keywords: Love, Relationship, Humility, Listening, and Communication.
We get that you want to be the beautiful bride or the dashing groom, we get that you want heartfelt wedding vows and beautiful first dances but believe us, that when you get real and look at your SO beyond the suit/gown and smiles in front of the camera, when you see how he/she yawns when sleepy, when he/she is just wearing a worn-out shirt and oversized short, when he/she is sweaty and without makeup while cooking and all, when you know what makes him/her mad and how to calm him/her – YOU will never look at your SO again the same way before. Because now you will look at him/her as the whole person he/she is, all assets and imperfections, this all is your partner, your LOVE, the person with whom you will spend your life with. And when you do this, you help your partner do the same in loving you, because you ain’t perfect too. Isn’t that awesome?
So when you already understand that entering marriage is loving your SO’s whole package deal and humbly accepting + working on your imperfections too– we think you are ready Ready to see toothpaste tubes squeezed in the middle (slightly annoying for extremely organized people) compared to how you would prefer but yeah, ready to understand this and learn the world together as one, in the union of marriage. Good luck!
