11/30/2021
Dear Sorry But Not Sorry : Uncomfortable conversations are the worst! 👎🏾 Especially in a setting such as church. If we could avoid them, WE WOULD, but unfortunately in this life, they are inevitable 😔⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
During your wedding planning process, you will need to PRIORITIZE protecting your upcoming sacred union OVER protecting peoples feeling’s that are rooted in false expectations.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Key DON’Ts:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
1. DON’T apologize. There is already enough stress in the process, no reason you should add on unwarranted guilt.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
2. DON’T lie. Maintain your character.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
3. DON’T succumb to societal pressure. If you have been reading that bible, then remember Matt 5:37.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
4. DON’T discuss your special day in common areas. Remember your wedding is NOT a church sponsored event, it is a private event!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Key DOs:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
1. DO keep the conversation brief so you avoid explaining yourself and get caught in a trap⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
2. DO acknowledge their best wishes for you⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
3. DO remain a united front with your significant other⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Additionally, If budget constraints:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
4. DO remind them that this is just the beginning! There will be other opportunities to support your family (baby showers, birthdays, graduations, etc.)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
5. DO invite them to other budget friendly events IF you have a weekend full of wedding festivities (i.e. traditional cultural weddings, bridal showers, dinners, brunch, Zoom get-togethers).⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If shallow relationship: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
If they care more about coming to an event than actually improving the relationship, it’s the very reason they weren’t invited in the first place!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What additional advice would you give? Tag your friends below!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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