10/09/2024
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I don’t know who needs to hear this, but in a healthy relationship, your feelings should never be a debate. If something hurts you, it matters. Your partner’s role isn’t to argue about whether you should feel a certain way or to dismiss your emotions. Their role is to listen, to understand, and to do better in the future.
Healthy love isn’t about being right all the time. It’s about being kind, compassionate, and learning how to care for each other in ways that make you both feel valued and respected. If your partner is only interested in defending their actions or minimizing your experience, it can make you feel small, unheard, and alone, even when you’re together. That’s not how it should be.
In a real, loving relationship, your partner will "want" to know what bothers you because they’ll care about your happiness. They’ll listen because they respect you, and they’ll work to grow alongside you. And yes, sometimes they’ll mess up, but the difference is—they’ll own it. They'll acknowledge when they've caused pain, and they'll make the effort not to repeat it. Because in love, making each other feel safe and understood is far more important than being “right” or winning an argument.
Remember, love is not a battlefield. It’s a space where both people should feel seen and supported, not where one has to constantly defend their emotions. A good partner doesn’t gaslight you into believing your feelings are invalid; they stand beside you, ready to face the discomfort and work together to build something stronger.
If you’re in a relationship where your partner listens, values your emotions, and tries to avoid hurting you in the future, hold on to that. That’s what a healthy relationship looks like. If not, maybe it’s time to reflect on whether you’re being honored in the way you deserve. You are worthy of love that doesn’t dismiss your heart. You deserve someone who cherishes your feelings, not someone who makes you question their validity. Keep that in mind, because at the end of the day, love should always feel like a safe place to land.
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