My Daily Choice

14/04/2024

Parents, if you don't already, watch what your children are watching. Not everything aimed at children are for children.
We have to pay close attention, what they watch is one of many influencers. This is important at every stage of development.

We need to make sure we don't get caught up in life 🧬 that we stop paying attention.

All too often we get caught up in life, work, stress, feelings, drama, our phones and the other bu****it we give unnecessary energy too.

Even though our bodies are present, our presence is still required; it's how we become disconnected from ourselves, our spouses and our children. Know what's going on in their lives. Talk to them, not at them. Ask them how they feel, what they are learning, know their friends and their parents and be involved.

I understand some days this may seem impossible w\all the other things going on, laundry, homework, dinner and self care. In order to maximize our time it's about time management.
You may surprise yourself when you turn off the TV & set the phone down, what you can accomplish.

Remember as great as you are, if you don't inlist assistance, you'll burn out. "It's a village", I do believe is the saying. It's true though, trust in those you have around your children, be it their friends parents around school, family at family functions or extended family. Allow the perspective of others & how they deliver the same information you would to your babies.

If I have my babies around you, it means I trust that you will watch out for them. If I leave you w\them, it means I trust you to care for them, the way I would. It's why I don't leave my children w\or around many. THEY ARE ALWAYS MY #1 PRIORITY!!! Don't let what you think you know allow you to think anything else!

We get offended these days when someone else tries to discipline our children, as we all know though, it's not what you say but most of the time, how you say it!
You being mom & dad sometimes puts you too close to things in order to be objective. Let them help.

We can try to protect our kids from everything or we can teach them what we know, protect from most, help w\what we can't but most importantly teach them how to deal w\those things that make them feel sad, hurt, irritated. We can't keep them from these feelings, we can teach them how to deal w\them in a healthy and constructive way.
Teach them to love themselves, show them what love is, tell & show them what love isn't, teach them how to deal w\those s**t head in life.
Teach them that a title in your life doesn't give someone an ok to treat you like s**t but most importantly, be the example of these things. Be what your children compare all others too, be it friends, boy\girl friends, co-workers, best friends and family. Teach them how to walk away, why it may be necessary and when. Arm them w\the best weapon as they venture this world, knowledge, information and how to obtain them on their own.
Teach them that constructive criticism is a good thing & can help them grow.
Teach them critical thinking skills.
Challenge them in these areas.





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13/04/2024

It's amazing to me how we will punish ourselves for the rest of our lives for one single mistake or decision. We tend to do this when we feel like we weren't punished at all or enough for that mistake\decision. When we feel as if we aren't worthy of the things or people in our lives, at the time of this mistake\decision or those that follow.

The world calls it Self-Sabotage. It's great to have a word\phrase to classify a behavior, however, if you don't realize you Self-Sabotage or realize but don't know why. What good does having a word\phrase to classify it do?!?

11/04/2024

We are going to get to living this year.
Spending time w\family and friends. We are going to get out of our phones & TV's this year; jumping into amazing conversations & experiences w\those we love & care about. Get back to pruning gardens & coming together outside of only funerals, weddings & birthdays. I understand if you love outta state but we need more of each other in our lives.

Our battle cry,

Our coat of arms is coming soon.

11/03/2024

Woman, I come in challenge of whether your actions match your words.

I am sure however that this will irritate a little bit of everyone though.

However, if you're open minded and willing to have your line of thinking, reasoning, and perspective challenged; sit back, join the DISCUSSION
and keep it mind this is not a one stop shop.

This discussion will offer everyone to voice their thoughts, experiences, reasoning, perspective and opinions. Remembering we are all different, this discussion is meant to encourage those differences.

Any that decide to join this discussion understand it's in our differences we can learn from each other.

If you are challenged to a point of uncomfortability and can not refrain from being mean, ugly or nasty; please remove yourself from the discussion.

I hope all that decide to join this discussion are grown and not just adults, able to make the decision to remove yourself if necessary.

Each question asked will be offered up for 48 hours before the next question is asked.

Here it goes.

Definition of Submissive: ready to conform to the authority or will of others.

Definition of submission: the action or fact of accepting a Superior force or authority of another person.

All that said, let's begin and get back to basics.

The only way to solve a problem is to determine exactly what the problem is.

Best place to start is at the beginning;

Do you serve the Government of the Lord?

I know and understand this is a tricky question.
Many believe in a higher power but not necessary a God\Lord. Call it what you want, Energy, the universe, Lord, God; this is not the debate but rather when required to make a choice; will it be based on what you believe or can see.

Or do you serve the Government of the Land?

A good friend recently described the word belief to me as, having doubt.

Maybe the real question should be;
What do you believe and what do you know?

Depending on how you answer these questions will move us on to the next question necessary.

As you join this discussion, remember above everything, be open minded & remain kind!

See you in a few days.

28/02/2024

As l was getting my day started this morning, I had to stop & remember to be Thankful.

*Thankful for the way you inspire me
*Thankful for the way you make me feel beautiful, w\o even trying
*Thankful for the way you make me feel safe, even when you're not around
*Thankful for the way you see me
*Thankful for the friend I have in you
*Thankful for the way you listen and pay attention when I speak
*Thankful for the way you share your perspective
*Thankful for the way you give yourself before you have time to second guess it.
*Thankful to have you in my life!

18/02/2024

OMG, I wanna read my book, so bad but am soooooo tired. Headed to bed & will be resume while the babies are playing outside in the am. Happy Sunday

18/02/2024

It's amazingly beautiful how great you can work in someone's life when you move & do in love.

It's amazingly beautiful how people work in your life when a relationship(not just romantic) is grounded in love.

Sometimes it doesn't get seen until much later, sometimes the changes are seen in you, by those around you.

18/02/2024

Foolishness is defined as; lack of good sense or judgement.

Love can be foolish. We can lack any good sense or judgement.

My GOD, My GOD!!!

How amazing we are when the right love that comes into our lives is for us, though.

Unlike when we are children & love openly & completely, we become an adult and we love & sometimes we lose.

Some lose a little, some lose a lot & some lose things & people they can never get back!

Many move in life w\little to no fear about what's next or how they will get there.

OOOOO, when it comes to love & the affairs of the heart, they clam up tighter than a pair of ass cheeks trying not to s**t themselves.

To Love after hurt, pain and loss is NEVER easy but my GOD, my GOD. When we see our mistakes and how they can be corrected. When we are willing to make the necessary changes. When we find someone that is genuine to support is. When we are both filling & pouring into each other, neither of us are alone or empty.

More importantly when we we allow ourselves to be saved, loved and more importantly forgiven; first by ourselves then loved by those that don't see is as we were or as we do!

Don't forget in remembering your mistakes, you also need to remember your strengths.

Open yourself up to be loved and most importantly , seen!

I guess, if you're going to be foolish, be foolish but cautious in allowing yourself to be loved. No more fear because all fear does is hold you back from being the best you.

Be love but also be loved!n

14/02/2024

Most, fear loveing someone because making yourself that vulnerable to someone; means you could hurt them!

22/01/2024

Sky full of stars......
Could have been me......
Recently featured in the Sing 2.
If you listen to these songs and think of people that claim to love you; I recommend re-evaluating those relationships.

*LOVE is NOT tearing someone down when you feel bad about your self..... That's misery

*LOVE is NOT disrespecting someone, intentionally; repeatedly.

*LOVE is NOT ugly, mean, negative

*LOVE is honest, open, pure, positive, genuine, willing to teach, communication, understanding, presence, present, and most important NEVER ENDING!!!

Energy is infectious!

I am far from perfect & keeping that at the fore front of everything I do. I want people around me w\my drive & ambition but also my values, my heart, that have lead different lives w\different experiences and different perspectives on those values about the things that matter most, love, family, character.

I don't need anyone that feels the only way to build me up, is to tear my down. That's not how it works & is beyond counter productive. I am not afraid of trying & failing but I don't need\want you in my life or the lives of my children; trying to make me feel bad about my failures because you can't get past yours.

We are half way through the begining of a New, some people & relationships are meant to go through this year w\you; some aren't.

Step to SELF REFLECTION:
1) Make a list of the important people currently in your life.(Leave 10 free lines under each name)
2) The 1st five lines, write things they do you don't like but have ignored\forgiven for whatever your reasons\reasoning. The 2nd fives lines, write things they do that make your heart smile and feel joy.
3) Write how these people, others & yourself through the year have spoken on who you are, how you act & your behavior.
4) Write whether these things are true, your reasoning behind those things and if you could have done them differently.
5) Look at your intentions behind the things you have written down. Were your intentions pure? Did you do the right thing, for the wrong reason? Did you do the wrong thing, for the right reasons?
Did you communicate w\yourself & those around you?
6) Decide whether all the things you have written down & thought about are things\behaviors you're ok w\& can live w\ w\o regret or that wonderful; shoulda, woulda, coulda.
7) Change the behavior you didn't like about yourself, improve the things you could have done different or better and release the rest.
8) don't feel bad for getting rid of those you see don't want anything good for you or their energy is negative.
9) MOVE FORWARD putting this process on repeat as often as necessary.
10) remember there will be people that try to make you feel bad about you; don't let others use YOU, against YOU!!

Quote: Don't find yourself in the middle of a fire you could have prevented because you chose to ignore the red flags!!
By: AMBROSIA M.M.