
12/08/2025
I have so much I want to say, but I keep deleting because I feel obligated to keep this account somewhat professional, so I’ll keep it at this:
When we started doing weddings, gay couples could only marry in certain states. Back then, I was proud to live in a state that celebrated love instead of debating it. But even during those times, it wasn’t enough.
When I came out to my mom, it was an emotional experience for me: when she asked why I was crying, I told her I felt like I had let her down.
“I won’t have kids of my own… I can’t even have a real wedding, only one that’s recognized by the state” I explained. She rebutted with the simple fact that Elton John had kids and assured me that state weddings were only the beginning, and in due time, “gay weddings won’t even be a thought… they’ll just be weddings. Think positive thoughts and good things will happen!”
When she passed, one of the last things she told me was to remember to always think positive thoughts. It’s not easy right now, but if you identify as part of the LGBTQ+ community, or if you’re an ally that’s struggling with positivity right now, I want you to know:
Your love is valid.
Your story needs to be told.
Your relationship ought to be celebrated.
We will never not honor and respect your wedding or your marriage, and we will celebrate you with pride.
Photo from David + Donald’s Provincetown wedding by