13/04/2024
You know ever since Covid when, because of transmission scares, -we all had to delay memorial services or have it strictly contained to immediate family …standing apart -so as to not infect each other.
I remember my own Mom’s funeral-after she died from Covid. It was right at the height of Covid, and everybody was terrified, not really understanding the transmission process.
But because my Mother grew up in the funeral business (it was a family business that just closed a couple years ago after 136 years) … it was important for us to honor her wishes. And we did.😉🙏🏻❤️
Luckily, for us, we were actually able to have an outdoor ceremony where, to our relief-we didn’t really have to worry too much as far as spreading cooties. We all stood around in family groupings.-our safety zones.
But since Covid has now passed, I’ve noticed the trend to hold off having funeral services … continues. And I don’t quite understand why.
I mean a lot of my friends parents have passed and they wait a good amount of time (normally warmer summer months) to have a funeral/Life Celebration .
Being a Life Celebration myself I continue to question. Is it good for those of us who have lost lot ones to delay and, in fact, put off having some kind of memorial service? What does that do to us? is it supportive by not having a funeral service or can it actually unintentionally slow the grieving process in the healing process????
I’ve come up with a list of reasons why you should have one immediately instead of delaying . I’m going to list below my reasonings and would love to hear what you have to say about them. WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS???🤷🏻♀️
Having a funeral immediately after a loved one's death can provide several benefits, including:
Closure: It allows for an immediate acknowledgment of the loss and provides closure for family and friends.
Support: It brings together loved ones who can provide emotional support and comfort during a difficult time.
Ritual: Funeral rituals can be important for honoring the deceased and providing a sense of continuity and tradition.
Expression of Grief: It offers a structured opportunity for expressing grief and sharing memories, which can be cathartic.
Community: It helps create a sense of community and solidarity among mourners, reinforcing the support network during a time of loss.
I missed the opportunity to support people when they’ve lost a loved one when they’ve decided to hold a service much later.
When funerals are eminent, you know you can stop by the house… drop off a dinner for them and check in on them -but when you don’t have a funeral, it feels like you’re injecting yourself into their lives. IMHO
WOULD LOVE TO KNOW WHAT YOU THINK ! 😉🙏🏻❤️
In honor of my Mother, Gail Hobert Tyler 😇💐❤️
