01/05/2022
I was a HUGE people pleaser & if self sabotage was an Olympic sport I would’ve one gold every time.
Over the years I had all sorts of amazing opportunities offered to me, each one I turned down as I talked myself out of them.
Some of the thoughts that would pop up would be:
💭 They are just taking pity on me, they don’t really believe I can do it ( in truth I didn’t believe I could do it)
💭 What if I say yes to the opportunity and they discover I’m not what they thought ( I didn’t believe I was good enough)
💭 If I say yes then fail, what then? ( I didn’t think I would cope with the rejection)
💭 What if I went for it and no one liked me ( I didn’t believe I was lovable)
I had a lot of inner child wounds that were created by trauma in my life that was too painful to deal with at the time so my body would find ways to protect me so I didn’t have to deal with them in the form of self sabotage
Not only did it affect my work it also affected my personal life too
You see I believed :
I was unlovable
I was unworthy
I wasn’t important
I wasn’t good enough
I carried these wounds around with me for years
😑 Feeling unloveable I became a people pleaser to get the feeling of being loved
😑 Feeling unworthy & not important I let others take advantage of me to get the feeling of being worthy and important
😑 Feeling not good enough I listened to what others opinions about what I should do and along the way I lost who I was
Our bodies are wonderful at protecting us we have parts that come up to distract us ( ie self sabotage, procrastination, emotional eating, people pleasing to name a few) when our bodies feel it would be too painful for us feel that inner child wound.
If you can image you have a physical open wound if someone tried to poke it you know that would hurt so you would protect that wound & that’s what our parts that come up for us do.
They distract us to something else that yes maybe painful but less painful than dealing with the open bleeding wound.
Having research and done courses on trauma plus loads of therapy & coaching on my own inner wounds, I now understand why I used to self sabotage & people please so much.
It was my bodies way of protecting me and it did a great job as I survived & I’m here today but not just surviving
I’m thriving!
Now I have the privilege of helping other amazing women to discover why they self sabotage & people please so they can stop hurting & heal those inner wounds so they can thrive too
I’m on a mission to help as many women as I can to feel amazing about themselves from the inside out rather than them waking up wishing they were confident and having to wear an emotional mask of confidence & spending their time worrying about if someone is going to see through that mask
I’d love you to join our amazing community where there’s loads of tips, techniques, help and support to be confident to be you to be seen, heard & have fun
I’ll pop the link to the group in the comments & I’ll also pop the link to a free 5 stage guide to help breakthrough the self sabotage cycle 💜x
