09/06/2023
I have a lot of what ifs and maybes in regards to my past relationship to (C), what if I tried harder, what if I'd put more effort into my appearance like he asked, maybe he'd have fought for us like I used too, if I'd just given him time, what if I didn't let him get away with things, what if I hadn't cared so much, what if I'd stood up for myself more often, maybe I shouldn't have bothered him so much, maybe I shouldn't have kept taking him. They are just a few, ultimately I still love him, and I always will, but that doesn't mean I want him back, doesn't mean I loved him any less. And it'll never change who he was/is, he was a narcissist and abusive, it would never have stopped him telling me how he hated me, accusing me of cheating, dragging me by ankle from his kitchen to front door, wouldn't have stopped him from screaming at me, telling me I'm incompetent or stupid or that I don't think, or that I was too heavy at just under 10 stone, it wouldn't have changed the fact he'd allow his friends to call me names and be horrible to me, or how he'd belittle me or the crap his own mother gave me, wouldn't have stopped him from leaving repeatedly, or that he's glad I miscarried his child, or that he called me a ho**er for drugs. Nothing can change those thing, at the end of the day, I spent most days suicidal and wanting to self harm not just because of how bad our relationship had become but it was a factor, I spent nights crying myself to sleep while he laid there not caring, telling me to quit it, doesn't change that I felt I was too fat for him, that he hated me, that I wasn't enough, that one night he raised his fist to me and I was the one who spent hours comforting him. Most importantly it wont change that I saw myself marrying him and having a beautiful family but it did change me, no matter how many days I think about him and the what if's or maybe's, I'm better without him, I don't have someone else who is constantly disappointed in me.