22/01/2025
To be a wedding planner is to be a border dweller.
No, I don’t mean that in some sort of controversial, political, or out-of-touch way. I mean that in the same way Safi Bahcall did when he wrote the book, ‘Loonshots.’
As a wedding planner, it’s imperative I consider myself the “leader” on any given project. I might not be making every single decision, but I’m providing insight and advice, gently steering people in the direction I think is best, based on experience.
But as any leader or manager knows, it can be painfully difficult to unite people under one common goal.
So back to the border dweller thing- where does that come in to play, exactly?
As a planner- a leader for my clients and the vendors we choose to work with- I must “equally wear and love” the two competing values of ‘Innovation/Creativity’ and ‘On Time, on Budget, on Spec.’
As Bahcall states, if a leader signals that one of these is more important than the other, it will de-motivate the other group.
Are you and your fiancé finding yourselves in a constant battle of wills? Or maybe your parents are generously providing funding for your wedding, but you’ve found it’s with strings attached?
It might be time to involve a planner. A third-party leader, negotiator, and mediator, perfectly poised to find the common ground between differing opinions.
Heres the thing about opinions, as I’ve come to believe, anyways- there’s almost always a little bit of truth in all of them, if you dig down deep enough.
Planning a wedding can be (usually is?) a tight rope balancing act. But you don’t have to do it alone. 🤍
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