Ojulu G Damene

05/11/2022

This world is getting crazy, everyone acting holy and pointing fingers at others who make mistakes. We forget that we are here today because of the second chances we are given. We all make mistakes and we should give people second chances as long as they learned from their mistake!!

03/11/2022

Dear community members,

As a family and as a community, we need to start teaching “empathy” to our people so that when something happen to one of us we should put ourselves in their shoes and feel their pain.

Insulting each others, bullying each others, and dragging each others will never make us better citizens. No winner between those who are insulting others and those who are being insulted but only embarrassment. Embarrassment to our partners, embarrassment to our children, embarrassment to our family and embarrassment to the world.

I would encourage people to use legal process to resolve issues or use cultural methods of resolving matters. But this Facebook thing will never help but it will make all of us look terrible in the eyes of God!!

Moreover, with this behavior We are teaching our children that it’s okay to insult, bully and disguise another fellow human being. Brothers and sisters, it has never been a sin to be kind and humble citizen. I’m NOT saying people should NOT respond to what they are being accused of but when we respond we should respond without using derogatory words. Let’s learn how to maintain our emotions. We should never allowed our emotions to drive us crazy and say things that we will regret the next day.

Lord have Mercy on my people!!!

30/10/2022

Have you ever sit down and say Mmm, “I think I contributed to that mess, I failed to address the issue properly. Instead of addressing how I feel about what happen, I was accusing my partner, next time I need to do better and improve my communication skill and address how I feel about the act”.

When you accused people, you are making them to be agitative and defensive. But if you are expressing how you feel about their act, you will be influencing them to put themselves in your shoes and experience your pain.

Such type of people who take ownership and work on themselves to be better citizens will be seen grow and standout different in the society!

Words choice matter in communication!!!

28/10/2022

Recent survey conducted on 7000 of Facebook users revealed that most of the post we share and most of the video we share reflect our true color!
Not me but the out come of the survey!!

15/10/2022

I would like to share the personality trait that psychologist studied over the years. These personality traits are known as Big five personality traits. One thing we need to remember is that the Big five do not capture every aspect of human personality. For example; the self-views, motivations, unconscious drives are not captured in Big five.
1. Neuroticism
2. Extraversion
3. Agreeableness
4. Conscientiousness
5. Openness to experience.

To day I will walk you through neuroticism.
Neuroticism is describe as a tendency toward anxiety, anger, depression, self-consciousness, immoderation, vulnerability and other negative emotions. Neuroticism exist in all of us but some people are much more than others.

Some neurotics people are outgoing and too friendly when you first meet them. Do not be fool by first impression. These will rapidly change in couple days but most of the time their actions are ignored by his/her friend. When you become friends with them, they don’t want you to be friend with other people. They will always play victim in a relationship. They say different things and act different when they are out of your sight.

In relationships, when their mistakes is noted by their partners and their partners start talking to them they will start crying so that their partners can stop engaging in a discussion. That’s one of the methods they would used to avoid you challenging their mistakes. They will never accept their mistakes, to them they are always right. These people always want to be dominant and control others. They don’t like when they see other people happy(they will act as if they are happy but not genuine). And you can’t understand them unless you pay attention to their action because they are manipulative. Some neurotic individuals are too quiet, looking like an angel, please do not be fool by their silent.

Please take time to learn and learn more about people you want to bring into your life. Just follow me and I will try to explain each Big five personality traits every day for the next 5 days.

09/08/2022

Peace and enjoyment are two different things. There are things that we love and enjoy doing but those things doesn’t mean they can give us peace. We only do it because our flesh want it.

For example, sleeping with another person partner. And drinking alcohol and the use of other substances. We only do those things to enjoy ourselves but it doesn’t give us peace at all. I know it would feel good at the moment when we are doing it but that doesn’t mean it’s good practice that can give us peace.

Church leaders continue to uplift our people and preach love for people to see things that are not visible to them.

05/08/2022

To my beautiful sisters,

There are ladies who are going through so much pain in the relationship but they can not leave because they think they have invested their whole life in that relationship and they don’t want to start over.

Please If you are one of these ladies who are experiencing this type of FEAR, be advise that you are still beautiful and smart and you can still start over and find a man who can treat you with respect and grace. I know that ladies who are stuck in the dark of a relationship sometimes have hard time to find where the door is. Please make sure you know where the door is eventhough you don’t mean to use it. Just find where the door is.

Never pretend as if all is well when it’s NoT. Do NOT afraid about what the community will say about you because what they usually hear about you and your household is great things. My sister you are NOT the community, you are NOT your family, you are NOT your friends, but you are you. Remember, you can NOT control other people from gossiping about you but you have full control of your behavior.

My sister, worry about your mental health and your well being. Mental health is real!!!

19/06/2022