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27/05/2021

Awwwwkward!!! 😳⁠
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As fun as planning your wedding is, sometimes it feels like an uncomfortable conversation is never too far away. ⁠
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Weddings are very personal and your loved ones become invested in your big day, which is great...until you have a different opinion. ⁠
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Look, I get it. When managing a day with so many moving parts, the last thing you want to do is cause drama. So, backing down from your decisions, or agreeing to EVERYONE's needs sounds tempting. Even if it that does mean allowing your loveable but weird uncle, to bring his new 'friend' to the wedding... No. There has to be a better way. ⁠
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I know I sound like a broken record but the secret to an (almost) stress-free wedding is: ⁠
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💭 Understanding your priorities/vision ⁠
📞 Communication ⁠
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A huge part of planning your wedding is dealing with people - your family, your in-laws, your vendors etc. And as much as I know you would love to, honey you can't please them all. But you can still be grateful and be polite - saying no doesn't mean an immediate 'bridezilla' status. ⁠
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To save you the headache and to spare feelings getting hurt, I've complied a list of potentially uncomfortable conversations you may encounter during your wedding planning, with prompts on how to you can handle them. ⁠
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Have any of these awk moments come up during your planning? 👇🏻⁠
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11/02/2021

From favourite seasons to relationship milestones, here are a few fun ways you can decide on your wedding day.

09/02/2021

The ONLY wedding To Do list: 👀

Get married ✔️
Eat pizza ✔️

Happy world pizza day! 🍕

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03/02/2021

Guest List Anxiety is not a vibe!

When you dream of your wedding day, it's easy to imagine all your nearest and dearest there. But when it comes to the real thing, choosing who you invite can feel icky. Girl I know that feeling and I'm here to help.

This 7 step mini guide will help you conquer your guest list and support you through guest list anxiety.

Anxiety can take over in these situations and convince you that unless you invite certain people, you will cause offence or damage relationships 🙅

It can be tempting then, to put off creating your guest list to avoid that icky feeling. BUT tackling this step early on will have a positive impact on the big ticket items of wedding planning, like the budget and venue selection.

This mini guide will help you make your first draft, set intentions for your wedding day, includes important things to remember and even has a sneaky flowchart to help you decide who to invite 👀

How are going with your guest list? Can you relate to this post? Let me know 👇
Do you have any questions about guest lists? DM me

14/01/2021

"Let me tell you how I got this ring." 💍
So I hear that you got a little extra frosting in your life!
I have collated my top tips to get your planning on track 😘

Your instinct may be to dive straight into planning. BUT DON'T BE TEMPTED. ✋

Before you do anything, really take some time to just enjoy being engaged. Prepare your mindset before taking on such a momentous task, as planning a wedding.

Starter before main. Warm up before workout. Pre's before drinks. 🥂

Just as you plan to only get married once, you're only engaged once, so soak up the experience. Get to start in your own time and when your are ready... Let's plan this thing! 🏁

𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 9 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗱 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗽𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝘄𝗲𝗱𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴.

I do want to point out though, that there is no right or wrong way to plan a wedding. Not everything will work for you. Right now the industry will be throwing out all the checklists under the sun and hundreds of articles on how to play your wedding "the right way". 🙅

Remember to take what is helpful to YOU from these resources. Wedding's are not a 'one size fits all' but these resources generate major FOMO if we don't follow "the rules" of wedding planning. Do fall for that s**t sis.

You do you queen, I've got your back. 💪

11/01/2021

What is your wedding why? ❓❓❓

Since you got engaged have you stopped and thought about why you're getting married? 💍

It sounds simple right?
You're getting married because you are in love with your SO - They are your bestie and fellow weirdo, you got to lock that s**t down.

In all seriousness though, there comes a point in every wedding planning journey were you just want to scream out "WHY ARE WE EVEN GETTING MARRIED!" Decision fatigue, stress, anxiety and pressure can get the better of you, and it sucks the joy out of what is meant to be an enjoyable experience.

This is why it pays to REALLY understand your Wedding Why.
On the occasions that planning feels like it's spinning out of control, your Wedding Why will serve as an anchor. Something that grounds you as you navigate through difficult decisions and stressful days. ⚓

So before you dive head first into wedding magazines and your knee deep in details, I strongly encourage you to take some time to figure out your Wedding Why with your partner.

Do you want your wedding to serve as a way to introduce your families?
Do you want your wedding to celebrate your culture?

With your partner, find your purpose and craft a mission statement for your wedding. This bad boy will be your backup when the planning begins because the wedding industry is FULL of distractions. Anything that doesn't fit in with that mission statement, doesn't get your attention and goes in the F**k It Bucket. Only good vibes here!

Was this helpful? What is your Wedding Why? 👇

06/01/2021

Did you say "Yes" this Christmas? 💍

It seems that Santa isn't the only one surprising us on Christmas day. Statistically, most engagements in Australia happen between Christmas and Valentines day, with Christmas Day taking the top spot for the most popular. 🎄

If you recently got some extra Christmas sparkle then let me first start by saying a massive CONGRATULATIONS! 👏

The engagement journey is a precious experience. Queen B, wasn't messing when she says Drunk in Love. I encourage you to seriously SOAK that s**t up!

This month WEDitate is all about engagements and I am going to show you:
📍 How to get your wedding planning started.
⚒ Give you tools/resources
🤘 Be your hype girl and your wedding wellness advocate.

Who's ready to plan a wedding? 👇

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05/01/2021

2020, that's a wrap 🎬

Hello my love and a very happy new year to you. With 2020 finally in the rearview mirror I wanted to start the year off right and send this message to you. SWIPE to read. ⬅️

Thank you to everyone I have worked with this year. From clients old and new and to all the incredibly talented vendors I've worked and collaborated with. I am so incredibly grateful for you all. Your support and faith has been a crutch to me this year that I have leaned on heavily and I will not forget it. 💕

The world of weddings will look a little different this year and I'm excited for this new chapter.
Here's to 2021! 🥂

16/12/2020

11/12/2020

WEDDING PLANNING BURNOUT🔥
Are you feeling the burn?

We need to talk about wedding planning burnout. To-be-weds who are struggle with the very real and demanding stress that comes with planning a wedding, run the risk of burnout.

Wedding Planning burnout is a state of emotional, mental and often physical exhaustion brought on by excessive and prolonged stress. If you've spent countless hours planning your wedding, feel you have taken on too much or your wedding has been affected by Covid, you may be feeling sapped of energy and completely deflated. Babe, you're not alone.

Whether you recognise the warning signs or are already past your breaking point, trying to power through will only exacerbate exhaustion and cause further emotional or physical damage. And sis, I love you but your wedding just isn't worth that!

The good news is there a small but affective steps that you can take to help you overcome burnout and get you back to your healthy and positive self again! ⭐

Now, before we get into it, I just want to remind you to be patient with yourself. When you're burned out it can be difficult to muster the energy to care and outlooks can look bleak. Be kind to yourself and remember you have more control over stress than you might think.

The best way to approach burnout is to remember this
"𝗧𝗵𝗿𝗲𝗲 𝗥𝘀" approach:

🧐 Recognise - Look for the warning signs
⏪ Reverse - Undo the damage by seeking support
💪 Resilience - Build resilience by prioritising your mental and physical health.

If you would like some extra support, want to vent or have any questions, please don't go it alone. I know you're a fierce queen but we all need a little help sometimes. DM me anytime, I would love to hear from you.

30/11/2020

📣🎊 [ G I V E A W A Y ] 🎊📣

I am so excited and proud of my absolute faves who had now officaled launched SA's first Essential Kits!

The kits are filled to the brim with everything couples could need on their wedding day such as eco-friendly straws, locally sourced lip balm and hand cream, sewing kits and even spare 🧦.

To celebrate the launch of this gorgeous little kits, myself and some other gorgeous SA vendors have banded together to create this incredible giveaway!

💍THE GIVEAWAY INCLUDES:💍

🔸2 Ultimate Essential Kits (your pick of the men’s or women’s)
🔸 20% off any of our Elise Mae Events Celebrant Packages
🔸$250.00 voucher - For all your wedding invitation and stationery needs
🔸30% off HIRE items at
🔸15% off their amazing wedding gowns
🔸3 Complimentary Brow sessions with .com.au (valued at $175)
🔸A complimentary hair trial at
🔸1 hour 1:1 online wedding coaching session with

This is over $1,000 worth of value 😍

How to enter:
1️⃣ Make sure you are following all of the vendors .com.au AND our gal pals over at

2️⃣ Like this post
3️⃣Tag your friends, your neighbour, your co workers, someone who just got engaged, your fiance or even your mum.

📣 HOT TIP 📣

*The more tags the more entries.
*1 tag per comment
📆Winner drawn on 12.12.2020

🤞 SHARE THE LOVE AND HAPPY TAGGING. 🤞

**Subject to availability, T&C's apply

Photo Credits .photography

24/11/2020

Family Politics ⚖️

Planning a wedding can really end up being a family affair and can really test your patience, especially if they are helping financially or have their own visions for your big day.

So how do you keep the wedding day you want without causing conflict?

It all begins with open and honest communication. I know you're thinking "Kate I could have told you that for free", but when your goal is to avoid conflict, conversation can get tricky - especially when it comes to our parents.

When we are children, we seek approval and attention from our parents. We also learn that refusing what a parent asks or wants, isn't the way to get it. In fact, the more we refuse or say no usually ends up with a time-out.

Relinquishing some control on your wedding planning to make your parents happy may feel like the best option but this isn't a perfect solution. If you want a wedding that aligns with YOUR vision and values and that starts with communication.

🗣️ Talk to your partner about what is important to you both
🗣️ Invite your parents to hear about your vision. Make sure you're clear and honest so they can understand your process too.
🗣️ Give them a chance to voice what is important to them and why. You never know what their motivation might be until you create an space for you to discuss that.

Was this helpful? Do you have any concerns about family and your wedding planning? 👇

Gorgeous photo: via

19/11/2020

C O L L A B 🙌

I'm so excited to be joining Ashleigh for a live Q&A session about how to beat wedding worries and the importance of . 😌

Bungalow is an online home for you to retreat to, to escape all the stress where you’ll feel focused and inspired. This gorgeous California inspired platform will help you design your wedding through creative workshops, live Q&A's and their supportive community.

Founder Ashleigh is an absolute wedding planning queen, she is so cool and chic and a fellow Scouser! 👑 I am so grateful to be working with Ashleigh on this session and I can't WAIT to meet the platform members tonight! 💕

11/11/2020

What is Wedding-Worry? 😖

If comparison is the thief of joy then worry is the thief peace.

A wedding worry is anything that causes you to feel anxious or apprehensive about your wedding.

Worries, doubt and anxieties are a normal part of life and to some extent, your wedding planning. It is normal to worry about what your family will think about your choices, about everyone enjoying themselves or falling down the aisle! 🙈

But worry can snowball and start to interfere with your life and make planning your wedding more challenging. Constant worrying or always expecting worst-case scenarios can take a toll on your mental and physical well-being, sapping your energy and leaving major "cba" vibes when ever you approach your wedding checklist. 😴

Worry and anxiety should NOT be a backseat driver of planning and you want this exciting time of your life to go to waste. If worrying is sucking the fun out of your planning, then follow these tips to train your brain to stay calm.

💭 Schedule a worry time
💭 Interrupt the worry cycle with exercise.
💭 Practice daily mindfulness
💭 Talk about your worries

What are your wedding worries? 👇

09/11/2020

MARRY YOUR BEST FRIEND 💜💖

They say dating friends never works, but what do you think?

Where you friends with your partner before you started dating?

Let me know! 👇

👯 Friends First OR 💏 Friends Now

Gorgeous photo: via

06/11/2020

Anxious Thoughts Before Your Wedding 💭

Have you got freaked out by any of these thoughts?
You're already on the edge organising your wedding, your life and now your thoughts too! What's the f**k and what do these thoughts even mean! 🤯

Believe it or not, every one of these concerns are absolutely normal and not necessarily a sign you're making a mistake.

It is common for anxious thoughts to manifest around major life changes, including getting married - but they're still enough to make anyone panic.

These thoughts can be daunting and have you questioning everything. The trick is to not allow yourself to inflate these thoughts, give them false meanings or believe they are a suppressed part of your subconscious.

Remember thoughts are not facts!

Try these tips to combat anxious thoughts:
💭Breathe - Deep breathing exercises centre your mind, release the butterflies and calm your nerves.

💭 Remember your intention - Why do you want to get married.

💭Talk - don't hold your feelings in, talk to someone you trust.

If your thoughts feel like they are coming from a place of a specific concern about your partner or your relationship, I would advise speaking to a couple's counsellor before the wedding.

Was this helpful? I'd love to hear from you 😍👇

04/11/2020

G U I D A N C E

Everything I do starts with you! 😍
I love meeting awesome people and hearing about their love story. You all keep me so inspired and make me love my job even more.

Thank you to Meghan and Jake for such a lovely experience and kind words. You were an absolute dream to work with and it was such a pleasure to guide you on your wedding journey.

I love my job! 💕

03/11/2020

S E A S O N F I N A L E!

I'm so excited to share this final episode with you before The Tea-Brief takes a tea break. ☕

The gorgeous Rebecca from .me will be joining me to show you how practicing meditation can bring you wedding planning bliss. 😌

Rebecca has over 10 years experience in the wedding industry and understands the anxiety felt by overwhelmed to-be-weds. Rebecca will be sharing her knowledge in this live Q&A session.

This live session will cover:

🧘‍♂️ What is meditation and mindfulness
🧘‍♂️ The benefits of meditation during wedding planning
🧘‍♂️ How to get started
🧘‍♂️ Meditations for anxiety, stress and busy schedules

Join us in Instagram Live on THURSDAY 5th Nov @ 8pm (ACDT) | 8:30pm (AEDT)

29/10/2020

Wedding Decision Anxiety 😣

Do you feel like you can't make another decision without losing your mind?
Are you worried to commit to one in case you're wrong?
You may be experiencing decision fatigue. 💤

The average person switches from task to task more than 300 times during a work day, now throw in the juggling act of planning a wedding and that number sky rockets! 🚀

This much task-switching decreases your focus and impairs your cognitive capacity to emotionally regulate your decision making. Worse still, when you suffer from anxiety you don't want to commit to a decision without knowing for sure you are making the right choice. 🤷

So, how do you avoid decision fatigue as tick off your wedding checklist?

Next time you are stuck on a decision, ask yourself these 3 questions.

1. Does this align with my vision and values?
2. Does this feel like obligation?
3. Who am I really doing this for?

Was this helpful? What decisions are you struggling with right now? 👇

20/10/2020

EPISODE 7 ☕
It's going to be a good one!

I've spoken about how to manage anxiety/stress during the planning phase, but what about on the wedding day?

I am all about "sisters doing if for themselves". You know your girl loves seeing you thrive and being a total boss babe. BUT, I love seeing you enjoy your wedding day even more! 💕

On your wedding day, you should be completely stress free, savouring every moment and finally ready to hang up that wedding checklist clipboard for good. Your only job on your wedding day is to enjoy this new chapter of your life, that's why I am a huge advocate of having an on-the-day coordinator.

On the next episode of The Tea-Brief, I will be joined by my very dear friend and founder of Christine Kerr Ligthart. We are going to be chatting about how an on-the-day wedding coordinator can take the stress and heavy lifting out of your wedding day, leaving you to enjoy every moment with peace of mind. 😌

JOIN US LIVE for this special Q&A on: 🎙
Wednesday 21st October @ 8pm (ACST)

If you have any questions drop them in the comments and Christine and I will answer them in the session 👇

19/10/2020

A N N I V E R S A R Y 💍 💖⁣

Happy 1st wedding anniversary to the beautiful Meghan and Jake.

Meghan, Jake and Meghan's mum Sue contacted me last year looking for an intimate outdoor venue for their ceremony. The gorgeous was a perfect match!

I clicked with Meghan and Jake straight away, I loved their low-key and easy going attitude. The couple wanted their wedding to be simple but have lots of personal touches, including a memory table to honour their grandparents and Meghan repurposed her mum's wedding dress! 👗

I hope you both have enjoyed your first year as a married couple Meghan and Jake 💕

15/10/2020

Let's be real. How many times have you seen a picture of a stressed-out or unhappy bride? 🤔

I bet it's close to never right? We are bombarded with idealised images in the media. These beautiful images of gorgeous brides-to-be, beaming with confidence as they boss babe their wedding checklist. ✅

Seeing this image has trained us to think planning is effortless. No one prepares you for the emotional and mental juggling act that is wedding planning and when we start to feel overwhelmed, we feel inevitable guilt.
These images also present an incredibly high standard of wedding as the norm, which perpetuates our fears of being judged if our own wedding doesn't look like ones in magazines and as a result we start going above and beyond to impress our guests.

It is so easy to put the needs/wants of your wedding guests before your own. You want everyone to be happy and enjoy themselves, I get it - because you're a gorgeous person that is always thinking about others! But please remember you're a priority too and your well-being matters. Wedding planning is notoriously stressful without adding more pressure on yourself.

Be kind to yourself and to your mind. 😌
It's not always about keeping the stress out of your planning but finding the joy in it too.

Giving yourself permission and being in tune with what you need will keep the process enjoyable and will have you feeling excited for your big day. 💍

13/10/2020

Testimonial

Thank you to Sarah and Claudius for this lovely feedback.
It's the best feeling in the world knowing my couples were relaxed in the moment on their wedding day.

2020 couldn't stop you and I'm so happy for your new chapter to begin. Starting with adopting your new kitty cat 🐈

Congratulations to you both. C H E E R S

12/10/2020

Mondays are easy when you look this FABULOUS!

Hiya Queen! I've missed you.
I had a little break away this week but I'm back at my desk, coffee in hand!
I'm working on some exciting little projects this week which I'm excited to share with you all.

What goals are you working on this week?
Are you determined to find your photographer?
Sending out Save the Dates?
Or making sure the dishes get done.

Whatever you're working on, let me know in the comments.

02/10/2020

Do you want your dog at your wedding? 🐕

if you can imagine not having your fur baby with your on your special day, then this is for YOU!

Dogs are integral part of the family so why shouldn't they attend the happiest day of your life. Having your dog can also be a great source of support when experiencing on the day nerves.

☕ On the next episode of The , I will be joined by veterinary nurse and founder of Emily. We will show you how to include your doggo on your wedding while offering you peace of mind.

🔖 SAVE this post and JOIN US live on Wed 7th OCT @ 8pm (ACST)

01/10/2020

Fancy a coffee? ☕
Happy International Coffee Day queen!

I've really found my love for coffee since living in Australia. Don't get me wrong, I'm still a tea girl at heart and I always start my day with to give me that taste of home 😭

I love having a catch up with my couples and coffee! It's one of my favourite things and a great way to get to know them.

I want to get to know YOU and see if I can help you get started with your wedding planning so to celebrate I am offering FREE 15 minute video/phone consultations.

Do you have any questions about your wedding planning?
Are you worried anxiety is going to ruin your wedding day and want some personalised tips on how to manage. LET'S CHAT ABOUT IT. ☎

To claim your freebie - DM me with ☕ to book your time slot!

30/09/2020

D E C I S I O N S 🤔
Does anxiety affect our decision making?

Are you getting stuck when making final decisions in your wedding planning? Anxiety may be the problem.

Anxiety sufferers and people planning weddings have something in common - they tend to have perfectionistic tendencies. They want to make sure they are absolutely certain before making a decision and so they might over-analyse all the possible options and outcomes or worse, not make ANY decisions at all! This is called "paralysis by analysis". 😵

When we are feeling anxious our limbic system fires up
- this is the part of the brain responsible for emotional responses, memory and motivation. 🧠

At the same time, our "thinking brain" the pre-frontal cortex (PFC) tries to come to the rescue, to weigh up consequences and process.

What happens next is the limbic system and the PFC fight it out for your attention. The limbic system cycles through a series of scary possibilities and 'hijacks' the wheel, while the PFC has lost control of the vehicle all together.

In short, YES anxiety interferes with our decision making. So no wonder you feel all over the place and unable to feel confident in your choices. 🙈

24/09/2020

W E D D I N G W E L L N E S S
Is anyone else over 2020? 🙄

I'm spreading some positive energy and mindsets, to try and get through this. If I've learnt one thing about myself this year is that I hate being in limbo. Not knowing what to plan for, or how to organise myself is really draining! And it made me think of you who are trying to plan your wedding during this limbo land.

My heart really goes out to you and I wanted to remind you YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS. 💕

When we are feeling anxious and frustrated, it is important to check in on ourselves and pay attention to our thoughts and behaviour.

17/09/2020

Are you dreading stepping in front of the camera on your wedding day?

Beautiful wedding photos sill top the list when it comes preserving our special day, but what if you really hate getting your picture taken? I've got you covered!

Learn:
🔎 How to find the right photographer for you.
💅 How to find your confidence.
😘 Feel good as hell!

Honey you will be giving us more Awe and less Awkward.

Read the full blog post 👇

https://weditate.com/rock-your-wedding-photos-with-3-simple-rules-to-camera-confidence/