02/01/2019
It is not good for man to be alone.
It is not good for man to be alone, because he wonât have the help he needs.
Leading and providing for a family is a lot of work, and a wife can help lighten that load. This is why Paul said, âMan was not created for woman, but woman for the manâ (1 Corinthians 11:9). A lot of discouragement can come a husbandâs way, and if he does not receive encouragement from his wife, where will he get it? Yes, there are other resources such as Scripture and relying on the Lord, but if that was all God wanted men to have, He would not have said, âI will make him a helper.â
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It is not good for man to be alone, because he wonât receive the blessing of fulfilling Godâs second command.
In Genesis 2:18 God said, âBe fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it.â Whenever the Bible discusses children theyâre always presented very positively. Psalm 127:3-5 says:
Behold, children are a heritage (some translations say âgiftâ) from the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of oneâs youth. Blessed is the man who has his quiver full of them; They shall not be ashamed, But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.
Psalm 128 contains, âBlessings for Those Who Fear the LORD.â The main blessing is children as verses 1, 3-4 record:
Blessed is every one who fears the Lord, Who walks in His ways⊠Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine In the very heart of your house, Your children like olive plants All around your table. Behold, thus shall the man be blessed Who fears the Lord.
It was a sign of Godâs blessing when He multiplied children âHe will love you and bless you and multiply you; He will also bless the fruit of your womb.â
Blessed shall be the fruit of your body.
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It is not good for man to be alone, because he wonât be able to satisfy the desires God has given him.
God has given men (and women) healthy, sexual desires (Hebrews 13:4) that He wants satisfied within marriage. The desires for intimacy are emotional, mental, and spiritual. People can have great friends, but they should not take the place of a husband or wife. God wants people to have a companion through life, and part of the reason He created marriage is to see that fulfilled.
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It is not good for man to be alone, because he wonât have the benefit of a womanâs influence.
While it is not always the case, it is common for married men to become gentler and more sensitive.
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It is not good for man to be alone, because he wonât experience the sanctification marriage provides.
God accomplishes much of the work He wants to do in our lives through marriage. After Scripture and the Holy Spirit, marriage is the greatest way God teaches us forgiveness, sacrifice, patience, dying to self, and the list goes on. When people remain single they can often develop a greater selfishness as they are able to live only for themselves. Once married they should be living for their spouses, and this is wonderfully sanctifying.
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Proverbs 18:22 says, âHe who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lordâ
This is a nice companion verse to Genesis 2:18. When a man receives a wife, he should see her this way. He should understand he is not receiving something neutral or amoral. To illustrate how much of a good thing a wife is, consider Godâs observation when He finished creating the heavens and the earth: âThen God saw everything that He had made, and indeed it was very good. So the evening and the morning were the sixth dayâ (Genesis 1:31).
Genesis 2:18 God said, âIt is not good for man to be alone. I will make him a helper comparable to him.â