
14/08/2025
I want to share a conversation I had about a year ago with my physical therapist. It's about trust.
She told me she was going out of town to celebrate her wedding anniversary, so I asked her to tell me about her wedding - the planning, the ex*****on, the day itself. She said it was a wonderful day. It rained, they were sad but they embraced it - it was April in the PNW after all. It was a lot of work, they didn't hire a few specific vendors including a Wedding Coordinator. And to that, she said something that got me thinking about this very important topic of trust. She said:
“In hindsight, I now see how I should have trusted that, as professionals, you really know what you’re doing. We didn’t hire a Wedding Coordinator because I thought it would take more time to explain to them what I wanted and what I had planned than it was worth. But no! You are professionals. You know soooo much more than us brides do, even about our own weddings, because you’ve seen it a hundred times.”
She captured everything I have ever wanted to say. When you hire your vendors, yes, you are paying them to execute what you ask for, but you are also paying for their expertise and professionalism. The bottom line is we know more about weddings than you do - yes, even your own. And we know how to do our job better than you do - sorry not sorry🤷🏼♀️ We know what's a good idea, we know what's a bad idea. We know the 5 steps that will happen before and after everything you want to do. We know how to execute what you want done, and perhaps the journey to making it happen looks different than you expected but that's where the trust comes in. It all falls apart if you don't trust the professionals to do their job. We aren't in this business for selfish gain - we are in this business because we genuinely want to see you happy on one of the biggest days of your life.
Please only hire vendors when you're ready to trust them with that part of the day fully and completely!