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Exquisite Love Philippe Lewis is a sex & intimacy coach and his company is called Exquisite Love What is an Exquisite Lover? Are you ready to become an Exquisite Lover?

An Exquisite Lover is a someone who engages with others first with curiosity and creativity. With listening and with expression, the Exquisite Lover dances with their full humanity. With intellectual, emotional, physical and erotic intelligence, the Exquisite Lover experiences who they really are and what they are made of -- their strengths, their limitations, their skills, their experience. With

focused attention, the Exquisite Lover discovers their state, their pace, their desires, their boundaries, and brings them exactly what they have been seeking -- with their consent -- in the form of connection, growth, depth, and exploration

An Exquisite Lover is always learning and growing. An Exquisite Lover is always in service to a greater purpose. An Exquisite Lover always seeks feedback and cleans up mistakes. An Exquisite Lover is, above all else, a person who wants to make a positive difference in the world, both with men and women. Contact me!

This coming Monday in Oakland at Alchemy House for The Somatic Playground, I’m back with my famous sensation play class,...
24/10/2025

This coming Monday in Oakland at Alchemy House for The Somatic Playground, I’m back with my famous sensation play class, with a twist: learn the “moves” with deep attunement to your partner, playing them like a musical instrument where the “sounds” they produce are felt as pleasure in their body and nervous system.

I also still need a demo person for the class. If this is you, please let me know!

See you then!

Cheers,
Philippe

Oct 27 🌟 Philippe Lewis - The Art of Attuned Sensual Touch [Alchemy House OAK]
https://plra.io/m/oct27-philippe

No partner necessary!

Bring an intimate partner to take things deeper!

In this fun, hot and playful class, you and your partner will begin to expand your repertoire of touch skills and role play. First, you will learn simple yet powerful embodied ways to attune to your partner, their heart, their body, and their animal. Then you will learn to interact somatically with others such as caresses, nails, bites/nibbles, light hair pulling, grabbing, kissing, light spanking, pushing/pulling, wrestling/pinning, flirting/teasing, and more.

This practice is much like learning how to communicate with another human in a language of physical touch, pleasure, and sensations. You will have the opportunity to “speak” to each other through the combined various touch skills and will be able to "read" your partner's responses through breath, movement, sound, and touch. And as you become more and more fluent in this language, the result will be greater and deeper ease in communicating through touch and play and better listening to your partner when it comes to connecting with their body, whether for playful, sensual, or s*xual interactions.

Consent/Sovereignty: All skills will be taught in a container of attuned consent to make all engagements fun, safe, and powerfully transformative for everyone.

Who: This class is both for single and couples. Friends coming with friends with the desire to practice these skills is also great.

What to bring/wear: Participants should wear comfortable clothes that allow access to the body and skin.

“It was so great to take your class on attuned sensual touch.... I learned a lot! I really appreciated your dynamism, realness and sense of humor!”

”While at a conference in Hawaii, I was fortunate to attend a workshop facilitated by Philippe. This workshop focused on very light sensual techniques pretty much for beginners although I cannot say that everyone in attendance was a beginner. I certainly was very new to this aspect of play and I found it fascinating. Philippe demonstrated many techniques (biting, nails, pulling hair, spanking and more) — all things that can either be extremely sensual or very scary to the recipient depending upon how they are delivered and the conversation that takes place ahead of time. Philippe was masterful at describing the conversation for agreement and then demonstrated each technique with a different volunteer from class. I thoroughly enjoyed the workshop and found it to be stimulating, sensual and informative. Plus, I was the hair pulling model and I found it to be much more yummy than I anticipated. Check Philippe Lewis out! He’s fun and hot!”
— Laurie Handlers, ISTA Lead Facilitor ~ ButterflyWorkshops.com

Bio

Philippe is a passionate relationship educator and founder of Exquisite ❦ Love. With a mission to empower men and women in making informed and positive choices for themselves and their partners, Philippe guides individuals on transformative journeys to become sovereign beings through the art of connection, trust, consent, intimacy, and love. Drawing from the profound insights of attachment theory, he helps people explore the depths of human connection and understand the dynamics that shape their relationships.

Philippe's impact in the realm of personal growth and self-discovery extends far and wide. As a co-founder of The Journey to Secure, he fosters a supportive community of like-minded individuals on a shared path of growth and an earned attachment style. Additionally, his role as a coordinator with the International School of Temple Arts, showcases his dedication to fostering open-mindedness and personal exploration.

Over the years, Philippe has been instrumental in founding vibrant communities that tackle essential topics. The Open Relationship Community, the Attachment Community, and the Consent Community provide safe spaces for individuals to engage in emerging discussions, redefining societal norms, and promoting healthier relationship dynamics.

Philippe is also well known for the creation of a vast array of conscious play spaces and playground such as Club Exotica, Love Underground, The Erotic Playground, and the FireLight micro-festival, as well as embodiment spaces such as The Somatic Playground where participants can find and learn about how to relate with each other at all levels.

While Philippe's professional accomplishments are inspiring, he cherishes a role that brings him immense joy and growth - that of a proud and loving father to a 13-year-old teen. This cherished relationship teaches him the invaluable lessons of surrendering to love and embracing life more fully with each passing day.

Philippe's life's work revolves around illuminating the path to enriched human connections and fostering a more compassionate and understanding society, one relationship at a time. His dedication to personal growth, coupled with his commitment to empowering others, sets him apart as a true visionary in the field of relationship education.

Join my Announcements WhatsApp group: www.bit.ly/4fMV38H

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SAVE THE DATE! ✨Dec 31 NYE(and grab one of the few early bird tickets!)Club Exotica PresentsARABIAN NIGHTS 🧞‍♀️“The Sult...
23/10/2025

SAVE THE DATE! ✨Dec 31 NYE
(and grab one of the few early bird tickets!)

Club Exotica Presents
ARABIAN NIGHTS 🧞‍♀️
“The Sultry Wish of Sheherazade” 💃🏻
A playful party, a story of magical exotic lands and creatures!

Evolving Details and RSVP (you know it will be EPIC!) here:
www.clubexoticapresents.com

🫦 Exploring Non-Monogamy with The Boundary Card Game 📆 When: Tuesday Dec 9 - 7-9pm🌟Tickets: https://plra.io/m/exploring-...
10/10/2025

🫦 Exploring Non-Monogamy with The Boundary Card Game
📆 When: Tuesday Dec 9 - 7-9pm
🌟Tickets: https://plra.io/m/exploring-the-boundary-card-game-dec9

Hi everyone!

We’re doing it again after receiving many requests of the people who could not make it in the short notice of the last class!

This class is perfect for you if you’ve had frustration related to having conversations with a partner or lover around each of you playing with other people, together or separately.

The boundary card game is designed not only to help you craft agreements that feel considerate to you and your partners, it will also support everyone in understanding and supporting what matters most for each and create a solid bond between you.

Each participant will also receive a digital copy of The Boundary Card game and receive a discount code to order the physical deck for the price of shipping only.

DM me with any questions!

Cheers,
Philippe

🫦 Exploring Non-Monogamy with The Boundary Card Game
Tuesday Dec 9 - 7-9pm

🌟 TICKETS 🌟

https://plra.io/m/exploring-the-boundary-card-game-dec9

🌟 About the Class 🌟

Join us for a fun online class where you'll get to discover the nature of the bond between you and your partner, and between your partner and you, and how to care for it well as you explore with others (together or separately.

For non-monogamy to work, it's crucial to extend care and consideration towards your partner and the bond that connects the two of you as each of you engage with other people and as they engage back!

In this class you'll:

🫦 Receive a digital copy of the boundary card game (which you can print and use, or you can order the physical deck by paying for shipping only)
🫦 Learn how to use the game to better understand the nature of the bond between you and your partner as well as creating engagements with others with deep care and consideration for each other
🫦 Explore ways to push your and your partner's edge without putting on too much pressure
🫦 Make it easier to speak about what matters most to each of you or what is most scary for each of you without fear, and how to find a middle ground what feels great to both
🫦 Learn how the boundary (the line of what feels okay/right when it comes to your partner playing with others) looks different for each of you (and learn why it's normal and okay)

Come alone or with a partner, this will be a fascinating and captivating conversation about collaborating towards co-creating a non-monogamous relationship that is full of sweetness, playfulness, care, and consideration.

The "boundary card game" is actually much more than a game and much more than just about boundaries. Getting a sense of what is "okay" for one partner when they consider their partner playing with others represents a much deeper sense of how they conceive of the bond between them, and this looks different for each partner. This tool allows couples to finally have a conversation about what matters to them (in other words their values) in their relationship, and what both partner can do to support this bond between them even as they engage and play with others, leading to a deeper more secure relationship.

🌟 What is Considerate Non-Monogamy (CNM)? 🌟

CNM goes beyond consent by bringing consideration as a core value of relating non-monogamously. Instead of simply seeking consent, considerate non-monogamy extends one's consideration to other partners by expressing this simple practice: "What matters to you, matters to me!".

We believe that for relationships to work well, each partner has to bring enough attunement, care, and consideration to the mix to support the relationship in being relationally healthy.

This is also how secure relating (from an attachment theory perspective) works; humans consider and include the people that matter to them as part of their decision process, much like parents consider their family--their partner and children--when making decisions that will affect them. Similarly, we believe that considerate non-monogamous people engage and make decisions that consider the impact of their actions on their lovers, partners, friends, and community.

Relationality thus becomes the waters the considerate non-monogamous person navigates and lives in.

🌟 The Story of the Boundary Card Game 🌟

The Boundary Card Game: A Way to Discover Boundaries And Design Healthy Agreements Between You And Partner(s) to create beautiful Ethical Non-Monogamous Relationships

A long time ago, Philippe and Paget made a thing on bits of paper to help them understand the boundaries they wanted for each other when it came to connecting with others.

They called it The Boundary Card Game

For many years this thing lived as a doc and they would send it to people and clients who wanted to have the same conversation with their partners and lovers.

And now it finally exists as a real physical thing, and it's been upgraded to help people design healthy rules and agreements to reflect the healthy boundaries, needs, pace, and desires they have for themselves and in their relationship, especially in the context of playing with others at play parties and "temples" (a spiritual version of a play party)

If you've had a difficult time or have felt frustrated with having a conversation with a partner about what is okay or not okay for them when it comes to you connecting with others, or the other way around, this is a game changer. Also if you're a therapist or coach and would like to get a deck for yourself to possibly recommend as a tool for your clients, please let us know!

🌟 About Philippe & Paget 🌟

Philippe and Paget have been together for 21 years, married for 17. They have a beautiful secure open nesting co-parenting best-friendship partnership. Out of this relationship they call "Afthonia", greek for abundance, they created an amazing secure creative human named Phoenix who is now a 14yo teen boy. Together they are "Three P's in a Pod" as a sweet family living in North Oakland, California where they each pursue and support each other to explore what fascinates and captivates each of them!

🌟 Testimonials 🌟

”I wanted to share about my experience playing the boundary card game with my partner (this is my first time navigating an ENM connection). The game was a really beautiful way to learn more about each other espiespicallyce we had freshly come out of a space of mending and it helped us to reconnect. The cards gave us a framework that supported dropping into a deeper level of intimacy than usual for us because we didn’t have to think about the questions to ask. We had space to explore our feelings instead of searching for structure to prompt intimacy. For my partner, sometimes being asked direct questions sends him into a more logical framework. With these cards, we were able to share our stories and get to know eachother at a deeper level. Thank you Philippe & Paget for the transformational and insightful game! 🙏”
~ Adrienne

I USED TO BELIEVE I WAS SECURE, AS MANY PEOPLE DO... 😌But as I started to look more deeply into my own emotional body 11...
05/07/2025

I USED TO BELIEVE I WAS SECURE, AS MANY PEOPLE DO... 😌

But as I started to look more deeply into my own emotional body 11 years ago--three years into fatherhood--I started to notice how my nervous system would go into fight, flight, or freeze when I would run out of emotional bandwidth. 😰 And while I later realized that the crux of this challenge began when my son was born, and this birth creating an attachment trauma in me (my first real trauma, if you can believe it), pushing me further and deeper into the avoidance that already existed. 👶💔

This began my journey to understanding myself and what caused me to need "space" to find my emotional balance (to auto-regulate) while Paget would simultaneously need me to be close to her. 🔄💕

As you can imagine, it brought many challenges to our relationship, but we were stubborn 💪 and kept at it, knowing and believing we would eventually pierce through to the other "side". 🌅

Truly, the solution to being a better, more authentic human in relationships where mutuality, emotional balance, and love are present was to become more secure ourselves, but at the time, this wasn't available to us. 🌱

This, indeed, is often a multi-year long journey with many pitfalls, challenges, and difficulties. 🗻

A journey of 1001 steps. 👣

What I never realized is how the pressure cooker of the pandemic would *finally* force me to be with my avoidance and feel the presence of my family and home as a regulating force. 🏠❤️

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How I learned to become a Secure Attacher 🔐💝

When I was first introduced to Attachment Theory by my friend Trevor, my reaction to his statement that I was "avoidant" was one of immediate dismissal. 🙄 Ironic of course, considering that avoidant attachment is also often called "dismissive-avoidant." Paget and I were engaging in the classic anxious-avoidant dance. 💃🕺

This journey eventually brought us to develop skills around self-regulation, self-care, and self-resourcing. 🛠️✨ From awareness of our own nervous system and emotional body, its strengths, its weaknesses, and its superpowers, we developed the ability to regulate and ground ourselves more and more easily over time, the ability to take care of ourselves better and better, and the ability to get the help and perspectives we would need to understand and face the challenges and difficulties that would inevitably come up time after time grew significantly. 🌳💪

(see the graphic of the 4 stages of the Journey to Secure) 📊

This is how we journeyed from Stage 1 (unconscious/insecure) 😴 to Stage 2 (conscious/insecure) 👁️ to a fairly deep Stage 3 (conscious/secure) 🌟 where we are today, in our current (poly/open) family configuration. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦💕

And, it's a balance we are constantly maintaining, refining, deepening, and building together with our loved ones in our lives. ⚖️🌱

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The Stages of the Journey to Secure 🎯

The journey to an earned secure attachment can be seen both as a journey of awareness (becoming aware/conscious about our insecurity through our coping mechanisms) 🧠💡 and a journey of developing skill (learning to engage with our insecurities, dysregulation, coping mechanisms, and emotional resources). 🎨

It follows the Conscious Competence Ladder which explains the process of learning and gaining competence in any area of growth. 🪜📈

Here's what it looks like: 👇

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**The Three Areas of Growth of the Journey to Secure** 🌿

As we go through the stages of the Journey to Secure, which takes time, effort, attention, and practice, we learn and grow in three main areas: ⏰💪🎯

Self-Regulation 🧘‍♂️

Self-regulation is the ability to better support a regulated nervous system for yourself when challenges arise and coping mechanisms such as fight, flight, freeze, or fawn come up, generally expressed by an insecure attacher as either anxiety or avoidance. 🌊 Learning to self-regulate can look like the avoidant attacher's usual "auto-regulation" (the need to regulate alone), co-regulation (the need to regulate with another human or mammal) 🤝, or anything in between. A secure attacher can more easily draw from what is available at the moment of dysregulation in order to bring themselves back into a grounded regulated state. 🌳 Learning to do this can look like breathing techniques 🫁, movement techniques 🏃‍♀️, mindfulness techniques 🧘, connection to nature 🌲, and more.

Self-care 🛀

Self-care is the ability to better support a body, heart, and mind in optimum health, energy, and emotional resources level. 💖🧠 Self-care looks like realizing what needs are unmet in order to better fulfill them such that one can be fully resourced. 🔋 It can also look like learning about these needs such that, over time, better planning and forecasting can occur about them. 📅 A secure attacher can more easily imagine what needs will arise and can better prepare for them so they can be met as soon as they occur and continuously as they occur. Needs come in various categories (Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs is one example), but the main ones that impact our nervous system are physical 💪, emotional 💝, social 👥, and primal needs 🔥. In order to keep our nervous system balanced and in top running condition, these needs have to be cared for and met on-goingly. This can look like learning about nutrition 🥗, communication 💬, relating, connection 🔗, etc. In other words, awareness, techniques, perspectives, and approaches that facilitate meeting our needs (and supporting others in getting their own needs met in relationship). It's the growing of our internal toolbox 🧰 to keep our inner self running well and with resilience.

Self-Resourcing 🤝

Self-resourcing (or, more simply, resourcing) is the ability to seek outside support, perspectives, and resources when our internal toolbox isn't enough to meet the demands and challenges that life throws in our direction and the needs that arise from this. 🆘 Self-resourcing can look like better sense-making through learning various models (such as attachment theory, IMAGO, etc) which leads to validation and understanding of what is happening to us 📚, or better relating and communication tools to engage with partners in order to maintain a good level of relatedness. 💕 It can also look like finding the right people to help us, counsel us, and support us in times of need. 🙋‍♀️ It can also look like knowing who are the people you can cuddle with when dysregulated! 🤗 Self-resourcing tends to be about engagement with the external world in ways that support our internal world, our self-care, and our self-regulation. 🌍➡️🏠

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The Two Roads of the Journey to Secure 🛤️

(see the graphic of the 2 roads

The Journey to Secure is both a journey of awareness 🧠 as someone moves from stage to stage as well as a journey of developing skills 🎯 from stage to stage. These two journeys (often overlapping) form two separate pathways or "roads." 🛣️

The first road is the development of awareness around our insecurities, dysregulation, coping mechanisms, and emotional resources, and as we become aware of them, we learn to catch ourselves in reactions related to them faster and faster. ⚡ Initially, we catch ourselves in the past (ie noticing what happened before, making sense of it, and seeing the pattern for what it is faster and faster) ⏮️, then more in the present (having seen the pattern enough, we can see it happening in real time) ⏸️, then more in the future (knowing these patterns, being able to see the time coming before they show up) ⏭️. And as we become familiar with these patterns and mechanisms, we develop a certain amount of compassion 💕, equanimity ⚖️, and intuition 🔮 towards them (and about ourselves) while we work on them through the second road.

The second road is the development of skill around our insecurities, dysregulation, coping mechanisms, and emotional resources. 🛠️ As we grow our awareness and ability to catch ourselves in the moment, we also slowly learn to do something about them via self-regulation, self-care, and self-resourcing. Initially, the results aren't so great 😅, but with enough practice, we begin to gain ground and skill on how to best handle the patterns while at the same time learning to recognize them and own them as part of our growth process. 📈 Each little step builds on the others as we learn and earn our security and ability to get back into balance more easily, quickly, and with greater resilience. 🏗️

As we do all of this better and better, our emotional resources (which you can imagine as like the muscles and stamina of your emotional body) also grow slowly to allow us to handle life more effectively and with more "emotional bandwidth." 💪❤️

This is how you notice yourself becoming secure: it's not that you never get dysregulated or exhausted or "hangry" or in a difficult emotional place anymore. 😤 Rather, it's that over time you develop the awareness and skill to handle events that happened before and as they occur, and you also learn to plan and prepare for events before they happen. 🎯

This is both a practice and an art you have to engage with for a fair bit of time to become good at it. 🎨⏰

And throughout this practice, you truly get the opportunity to find inside of you and in community 👥, the reference point for what Secure Attachment feels like, in the deepest sense. 🌊💖

This is what Coming Home to Love is about. 🏡💕

Love as the true inner experience of Secure Attachment. ❤️🔐

A bientôt et avec amour,
Philippe Lewis

(PS: Curious to chat more? DM me!)

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COMING HOME TO LOVE: A 6-DAY JOURNEY TO SECURE ATTACHMENT

"I've never felt this safe in my life" ~ Retreat Participant

Curious about taking your journey to secure attachment with us? 🤔✨

We have created a retreat specially for you to take some embodied steps on your journey: 🌟

🌟 Steps to becoming more regulated
🌟 Steps to becoming more resourced
🌟 Steps to finding your Secure network of loved ones and friends (like "Finding your Tribe" but even better)
🌟 Steps to understanding where you are on your journey and where to go from here

We created this retreat for you to become secure at a pace that is safe, enjoyable, and in community with other humans like you! 🤗👥

Click here to get more details about 💞 Coming Home to Love: A 6-Day Journey to Secure Attachment 🌅

www.cominghometo.love

And here's a couple of testimonials from last year:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_49bcIsK26k
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MkaavA284mg

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Want to get a sense of how you lean around attachment styles? Use this online Quiz I created: https://www.fyrebox.com/play/attachment-quiz_wdGGqvQpo
(Note: because it's self-reporting, accuracy is limited)

Then you can use the following Google sheet to plot where you are: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1eZis3tPVpSK0pLRvi1kBtjnd5D3QPTdJHedHLVR_tK8/edit?gid=0 =0

✨✨✨EXTENDING EARLY BIRD PRICING UNTIL FRIDAY JUL 4th! ✨PLUS A SPECIAL COMMUNITY DISCOUNT FOR THE NEXT TWO SPECIAL HUMANS...
02/07/2025

✨✨✨EXTENDING EARLY BIRD PRICING UNTIL FRIDAY JUL 4th! ✨PLUS A SPECIAL COMMUNITY DISCOUNT FOR THE NEXT TWO SPECIAL HUMANS WHO REGISTER! ✨✨✨

“I’ve never felt this safe in my body in my entire life.”
— retreat participant

So many of you have seen me in action, engaged in organizing,/producing, ⁠⁠poly relating, ⁠⁠parenting, ⁠⁠partnership, communications of all kinds.

If there’s something you can count on 99.99% of the time (minute the occasional accident and overload), is attuned, caring, considerate, loving presence, from a human who can show up for you with compassion and understanding, and a willingness to make thing work.

✨my relationships and loverships are sweet, caring, considerate, and loving
✨my work is full of deep fulfilling partnerships and projects
✨my engagements and communications are clear and fair

It hasn’t always been this way.

15 years ago, right after the birth of my son Phoenix, I found myself going into trauma and depression, and saw how this pulled me into an avoidant attachment style

It was challenging, both for me and for Paget, who also had her own anxious attachment style to contend with.

We could see the patterns, but we did not understand them.

Until attachment theory popped into our radar (thank you Trevor Getsla).

From there, an understanding of the structure and patterns at play became more and more obvious, and the work of earning a secure attachment began in earnest.

It took some years and dedication, and from there a passion arose to teach other about Attachment Theory and the best ways to take on this journey to secure attachment.

And this Journey is not only possible, it’s a deeply fulfilling one—because once you know the reference point of secure attachment, it becomes easy to orient and continue to move towards it.

And, slowly but surely, from relationship to relationship and choice to choice, your life changes for the better, and your emotional body becomes stronger, healthier, and empowered.

And, you don’t have to do it alone.

Join us on August 5-10 for a unique journey to secure we call Coming Home to LOVE

Because at the end of the journey is, simply, the deep meaningful and beautiful relationships that you want.

Join us, and finally Come Home to the LOVE you’re always desired by becoming the secure human you’ve always been meant to be.

Read on below for all the details.

DM me if you’re curious!

Cheers,
Philippe

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www.cominghometo.love

💞 Coming Home to Love: A 6-Day Journey to Secure Attachment
🗓 August 5–10, 2025 | 📍 Four Springs Retreat Center, Middletown, CA

Heal your core wounds and create the ease, safety, and satisfaction you’ve always wanted in your closest relationships.

You’ve done the work. You’ve read the books. You’ve tried to make it work.
But if you’re still…

🔁 Attracting unavailable partners
🌀 Feeling like they can’t meet you—or that conflicts keep getting stuck on repeat
💔 Sabotaging love through over-giving, shutting down, or chasing connection
💭 Wondering why it’s still so hard to feel safe in love, no matter how much you grow...
This retreat was made for you.
Coming Home to Love is a 6-day immersive experience designed to help you finally understand your attachment patterns, unwind your deepest relational wounds, and experience what it actually feels like to be safe, seen, and sovereign in love.

Whether you’re single, partnered, or in transition…

Whether you’ve been in therapy for years or are just beginning your healing journey…

This retreat meets you where you are and gently—but powerfully—guides you back to the truth:

✨ You are already worthy of the love you long for and, with the right tools and support, you can become the source of the stable and lasting love you’ve been longing for.

What You’ll Experience:

💠 Daily group sessions, somatic healing, and sacred rituals
💠 Guided embodiment, nervous system work, and trauma integration support
💠 Powerful, unique methodologies including the 7-stage trauma timeline + parts work + secure reparenting and more…
💠 Tools for authentic communication, boundaries, and relational repair
💠 Plant allies (such as Cacao, Blue Lotus, Kanna) to support gentle expansion
💠 Restorative time in nature, community, and deep emotional safety
💠 Real skills for transforming your relationships—without losing yourself

What You’ll Walk Away With:

🌿 A deep, embodied sense of wholeness and safety in your nervous system
💓 The ability to express needs and set boundaries with grace
🔥 Emotional resilience and confidence in conflict
💞 A clearer vision of the love you truly want—and how to create it
🌈 A supportive community walking the path of earned secure love
📖 A workbook, daily practices, and 3 months of post-retreat support to maximize the impact and sustainability of the breakthroughs you will experience in the retreat.

🛏 Held at the gorgeous Four Springs Retreat Center in the mountains of MIddleton, CA—complete with farm-to-table meals, cozy shared or private rooms, forest trails, a heated pool, and space to reconnect with yourself and others in new ways.

💥 Only 32 spaces available
🎯 Early bird pricing ends July 1 (extended to Jul 4th!)
🌀 Payment plans + limited scholarships available
👉 Register now: www.cominghometo.love
💬 Not quite sure? Let’s talk first: https://calendly.com/exquisitelove/coming-home-to-love-intake-30min-via-zoom

"There’s before this retreat and after. I left with clarity, confidence, and a deep knowing that I can create the kind of love I used to only dream about."
— 2024 Participant

Hi everyone!From the original crew who brought you “second base parties” way before anyone else did comes a party larger...
13/03/2025

Hi everyone!

From the original crew who brought you “second base parties” way before anyone else did comes a party larger and hotter than life. Join us on March 29 for 𝐆R𝐈N𝐃 𝐖I𝐓H M𝐄! with a stellar DJ lineup for those of you who can’t wait to get DOWN on the dance floor and express it all right there and then!

Get your tickets here while you still can (no need to RSVP first this time)!

TICKETS: https://grindwithme2025.eventbrite.com
VOLUNTEER SHEET: https://tinyurl.com/mtzv3sm2
VOLUNTEER WHATSAPP: https://tinyurl.com/ytf7zc86
(Volunteers will be reimbursed after the event)

More details below!!

Philippe & Jocelyn

(And if you can't join us this time, you can join the Club Exotica Announcements WhatsApp here: https://bit.ly/4b0Zppe
And you can also join the Love Underground Announcements WhatsApp here: https://bit.ly/4bmv5H4)

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On March 29, Club Exotica in collaboration with Love Underground presents…

𝐆R𝐈N𝐃 𝐖I𝐓H M𝐄! 💃🏻

"GRiNd wITH Me, MaKE It hOt
DOn'T STOp TiLL thE JUicEs DROp
MOvE YOur bOdY, tO tHe BeAt
FEeL Me WItH YOU, prODuCe HeAT
WIth eYes cLoSeD, can YoU SEe
C'mOn BABy jUsT GrINd WITh me..."

✨With:

𝐁𝐄𝐀𝐓 𝐊𝐈𝐓𝐓𝐘
𝐍𝐀𝐔𝐆𝐇𝐓𝐘 𝐏𝐑𝐈𝐍𝐂𝐄𝐒𝐒
𝐋𝐈𝐐𝐔𝐈𝐃 𝐋𝐎𝐕𝐄 𝐃𝐑𝐎𝐏𝐒
ℝ𝔸𝕋ℂℍ𝔸𝔼𝕃𝔹𝔼𝔸𝕋𝕊
𝕊𝕆𝕌𝕃 𝕊𝔼𝔼𝔻
Shalman
Rich DDT
WatsoniX
Melter
Kali 🌟Star

✨ WELCOME!

This second base event will bring people from the conscious play party/temple communities of the Bay Area, including Club Exotica, Love Underground, Erotic Playground, Friends & Lovers, ISTA, Pleasure & Carsten’s Temples, Shanti’s Temples, Sham’s Temples, Starry’s Temples, Enki’s Temples, The Love Party, Burning Man, Elina’s Co-loving Blue Lotus events, and many more!

The theme, “𝐆R𝐈N𝐃 𝐖I𝐓H M𝐄!” invites guests to dive into their most sensuous selves and meet each other fully, body and soul, on the dance floor.

✨ WHAT IS A SECOND BASE PARTY?

A Second Base event is a fun dance event where light sensual s*xy play is welcome. Loosely taken from the "bases" learned in high school (at least in the US), second base is any fun playful interactions with other (flirty, seductive, hot, exhibitionistic). Of course, you and your friends don't have to do anything special (other than follow our agreements). Our events are much like a buffet where you can choose from a myriad of possibilities.

A Second Base party is also a place to contribute your gifts and learn to connect with those you are attracted to (and politely to the ones you are not), push your edges and boundaries, and a place to practice saying "no, but..." or "yes, and..." as you interact with others creatively!

If you find yourself wanting to "get" something from the party—rather than contributing and receiving in response to that contribution, along with playing with boundaries (stretching them, respecting them, holding them, and sharing them)—then this party is likely not for you. Also, even though the lineup for a specific party might be totally awesome and you may just want to dance, you have to expect that this is the sort of event where you will be approached by people wanting to connect and play (which might look like getting flirted with, appreciated, complimented, etc).

All in all, while Second Base parties are light and playful and easy to dive into, they are definitely not for everyone. If you're not absolutely sure, please reach out to Philippe (WhatsApp preferred +14155050786) or email us [email protected] and we'll be delighted to help you feel into this.

More details here: https://t.ly/ZkQ1p

✨ TESTIMONIALS

“I don't use the word Epic much... matter of fact the only other time I've used it was to describe Midsummer Night’s Wet Dream last year!“

"In Club Exotica, you are transported into such a luxurious and decadent scene you may almost feel you don't deserve it. So remind yourself that of course you deserve it, because you are fun, s*xy, and beautiful!"

“In celebration we are united, and I go on now in my life to spread the love and joy that was shown to me at this Midsummer weekend! purrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. In LOVE, LIGHT, and the deepest gratitude ♥“

"Never seen anything like it! Awesome!!"

“Love the cool water, warmth on my skin from the sun and gazing at beautiful bodies surrounding me. I feel outside of myself, my daily job. I am able to be the person in my dreams who smiles and talks and flirts with those around me. I love who I am at midsummer, love love love“

"Wonderful, fun, amazing party! Thank you!"

“I'm smiling sitting at a coffee shop reminiscing about last weekend... What a wonderful dream. I love you all :-)“

✨ JOIN US ON MARCH 29!

Ready to embark on this playful night with us? We would ✨love✨ to have you!

Read the full details here:
www.clubexoticapresents.com

Get your tickets here:
https://grindwithme2025.eventbrite.com

Don’t wait! This event will sell out!

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Reclaiming Sovereignty

For 20 years, Philippe Lewis has dedicated himself to supporting people in their growth towards sovereignty and creating events and learning environments that invite participants to step into their full sensuality, and claim greater power and sovereignty around their erotic desires and boundaries.

Philippe started by co-producing Mystic Temple of Bliss in Oakland, a sensual event that aimed to serve as a crossroads for the Bay Area EDM, underground performer, and ta**ra community. These events brought together hundreds of participants in an exploration of intimacy, relationships, and s*xuality.

When Philippe united with his life partner and future-wife Paget, part of their relationship involved innovating the concept of “2nd-base parties” —erotic events focused on non-s*xual touch and play, making them accessible to a wider audience.

Starting in 2009, Philippe began co-creating Club Exotica, large private s*xual gatherings and public 2nd-base parties at some of the hottest and biggest clubs in San Francisco, including the legendary Supperclub, The Upper Floor at The Armory, and 1015 Folsom. He also began co-producing events with SF underground erotic party promoters Masquerotica.