Marrying Me

13/02/2024

"I hope you're taking care of yourself today.... I hope you're loving yourself today ..... you deserve the love that you so give away... I hope you know that you're beautiful today"

❤️ 13 February is Self Love Day

❤️ 14 February is Valentines Day

11/02/2024

On 7.2.21 (my birthday) I married myself at home, in a small intimate self-marriage ceremony with a few close family members and friends present

Last week, on 7.2.24, my 3rd wedding anniversary, I renewed my marriage vows under the vast blue sky on Sunnymead Beach, Aireys Inlet

This is an extract from my renewal of vows:

"In solitude I reflect on the journey of the past three years – a wonderful journey of learning to love myself more, increasing acceptance of my quirks and flaws, gaining greater wisdom, more peace and internal happiness, and SO MUCH personal growth.

Today, I recommit to the promises I made to that person who I've learnt to love and who needs my love more than anyone. ME.

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In the dance of the waves,
Where self-care begins
A self-love story spins
I embrace my solo life.

On sands of solitude, my heart takes flight
Embracing my own light
With each crash of a wave, a vow is made
And in the symphony of waves, my solo life is solidified

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I, Robbie, stand here today, amidst the elements that connect me to the universe, in the presence of the ocean, renew my commitment to myself to inhabit my life fully and continue to embrace the self love journey I’m on.

Today I acknowledge how far I’ve come in my personal growth and I renew those promises I made to myself on my wedding day 3 years ago. 

Today I re-commit to:

✨ continue my daily practise of gratitude, self-kindness and self-forgiveness

✨ never forget that I’m enough, no matter what

✨ always be my own best friend, through good times and tough times

✨ continue to practise self-compassion, especially when it’s hard to do so, and to continue to nurture a positive relationship with myself

✨ continue to approach every day with a heart full of appreciation and gratitude for my good health, my children's health & wellbeing, my family, my home, my work and all of life’s experiences, both good and bad, as they have all helped teach me something about myself and others and helped shape the person I am today

So.... with this ring, an outward symbol of my commitment to myself, I promise to continue to honour myself and say "I do" once again and forever more ❤️

01/01/2024

Here's to the ultimate commitment – to loving and cherishing yourself! To all the self-married, self-love enthusiasts, and those considering this beautiful journey: may your New Year be filled with endless self-discovery, joy, and a profound love for the incredible person you are. Happy New Year! 🎉✨

24/12/2023

This is my source of joy, my bliss. Enjoying a cup of morning coffee with a slice of stollen (traditional German Christmas cake) on a sunny summer's day, feeling the cool gentle breeze in my garden - it truly is my sanctuary, my haven.

My long-awaited Christmas present has finally arrived. It is a book exclusively aimed at individuals who are single at heart, like myself. I am eagerly looking forward to diving into chapter 1! The author of this book is Bella DePaulo, one of the world's foremost thinkers and writers on the single experience

I wish all my followers a happy and peaceful Christmas and remember to find your moments of joy & bliss 🎄💕

23/10/2023

Sometimes personal growth means outgrowing friendships. It’s a tough lesson that’s become painfully clear to me recently. After reconnecting with a friend of 30 years, it felt like we were picking up where we left off. We laughed about our crazy 20’s and reminisced about the good old days. However, the more we spoke, the more apparent it became that we were no longer on the same wavelength.
While I’ve been on a transformative journey over the past decade, he remains in a marriage of convenience, unhappy, but unwilling to confront the truths that need addressing and it became clear our values are very different.

It’s been a difficult realisation, and I’m grieving the loss of a friendship that was once important to me. However, I’ve come to understand that sometimes staying true to yourself means letting go of friendships that no longer serve you.
Personal growth often comes with tough choices and moments of solitude. It’s about aligning your values with your actions and surrounding yourself with people who share your values and uplift you.
Taking this action is an act of self-love.

Have you experienced something similar? Please share your thoughts in the comments.

17/10/2023

The sheer joy of solo living can sometimes be summed up by enjoying a morning cuppa tea in my garden, my happy place. As I embrace the morning sun like a cozy hug, I relish the feeling that it's just me, Mr Bee and the cooing pigeons jamming to the sweet beat of nature's morning concert. Even the distant traffic plays the background music to my peace.

Later today I'll be sitting down to write a self-marriage ceremony for Ruby who's soon to marry herself. Her ceremony will take place at sunset on the beautiful Bellarine Peninsula in Victoria, Australia. Yep, you heard it right. Ruby is taking the plunge into self-care paradise, promising to be her own happiness guru. Here's to flying solo and spreading self-love like confetti!

05/10/2023

CASTING CALL for you or anyone you know considering "sologamy" or self-marriage . . .

Sologamy is the act of marrying yourself. In a nutshell, self-marriage seekers are people in search of deep introspection, to live in alignment with their values, honor themselves, and looking to affirm their relationship with themselves and express how being single doesn't mean feeling incomplete or lonely.

If this sounds like you - or you're already considering and/or planning your self-wedding, [email protected] is currently looking for women and men of any age, race, religion, sexual orientation, to partake in a potential new TV documentary series. As long as you have an interesting story behind your reason for deciding to wed yourself, they'd love to hear from you.

To be considered please email with a synopsis of your story and photo to: [email protected]

If you'd like assistance on creating and/or writing your self-marriage ceremony please reach out to me: Robbie at [email protected] or send me a DM. I'd love to hear from you.

11/08/2023

Thought I'd lost my special self-marriage ring last night, my heart sank. I'd taken it off while gardening earlier in the day and it had fallen off the shelf.
Relief and joy flooded in. Lesson learned: never underestimate the power of a little treasure hunt in finding what truly matters.

Since I placed it on my finger during my self-marriage ceremony two years ago, I often find myself twirling it on my little finger, a reminder of the promises I made to myself to be kind to me, to take care of myself, mentally, physically and spiritually, forever💍✨

09/07/2023

In 2021 I entered into a self-marriage and became a sologamist. Last Tuesday 4/7/23 I was invited to speak on "Studio 10" morning program on Channel 10 about my personal journey. Relatively unknown in Australia, self-marriage, or sologamy as it's sometimes called, is rapidly growing in popularity in many countries.
As a marriage celebrant I now help others express a very powerful statement of self-love and self-acceptance.
Marriage is seen as a milestone reserved only for couples, but I want to challenge that notion because I believe that self-love is as important as romantic love.
It is in fact very important to have a healthy love of self and self-worth before entering into a marriage with another person. This is because when we practice self-love and are more compassionate to ourselves, it opens the door for us to be more accepting and loving toward others.

For more information about self-marriage ceremonies visit www.marryingme.com.au

07/07/2023

Last month the SBS "Insight" program looked at the subject of people living alone, either by choice or circumstance. What a privilege it was to be invited to share my story. The full episode titled "Alone" is currently available on SBS On Demand.

Not being able to find “the one” left Robbie depressed. But she developed a love for herself and while still single, she has now made a big relationship commitment. Watch 'Alone' on SBS On Demand.

05/07/2023

04/07/2023

"Always remember to step outside of my comfort zone because that is where real growth happens"

This was one of my marriage vows and I've been following through on it a lot lately, with several Australian media interviews. SBS Insight, 3AW and today Studio 10 Morning Show filmed from my loungeroom

I'm an introvert and a very private person, but sharing my story resonates with many others, therefore I will continue spreading the word that self-love is as important as romantic love and a self-marriage helps people express a powerful statement of self-love and self-acceptance.

Re-run of interview aired today (4 July) available on 10play.com.au/studio-10
Self-marriage interview starts towards end of show at 1:01:10

03/07/2023

An amazing opportunity tomorrow (4 July '23) to share my story on morning TV in Australia ("Studio 10" on Network 10 at 11.30am) of embracing self-love and my self-marriage in 2021

I'm so excited to have this opportunity to share with a much wider audience the power of self-marriage, a symbolic ceremony which honours and affirms an individual's journey to happiness.

10play.com.au/studio-10

28/06/2023

Meditation has been an integral part of my journey towards self-acceptance and self-love, culminating in my self-marriage in 2021. For many years, time and time again I had tried meditation and felt like I'd failed in learning how it was done. It wasn't until anticipatory grief robbed me of much happiness that meditation became a lifesaver, helping me to foster a deeper connection with myself and fall in love with those parts of me I didn't like or accept.

Photo: taken this morning on a hike in the misty winter Mount Dandenong Ranges not far from where I live in Victoria, Australia, 28/6/23

26/06/2023

For many years I held the mistaken belief that my happiness depended on me finding my special person. I was under the impression that only then would my life gain meaning and purpose.

When I came to learn the fallacy in this thinking, I realised how wrong I was. I have come to understand that my happiness lies solely in my hands.

The photo captures a significant moment on my wedding day, as I stood before the mirror making promises to myself.

It's time to stop looking for happiness outside of ourselves and look within. We are complete with or without a partner and it's time to live "Happily Ever Now"

If you were to hold your own self-marriage ceremony, what would be the most important vow you would make to yourself?

Please share in the comments below

23/06/2023

🌸 Ohitorisama: Embracing the Art of Solo Time! 🌸

Have you ever heard of the term "Ohitorisama"? It's a beautiful Japanese concept that celebrates the joy of spending quality time with yourself. 🌸

I'd never heard the word before today. I think the Japanese are onto something!

In our fast-paced world, taking a moment to be alone and enjoy your own company is a precious gift. Ohitorisama is all about embracing solitude and finding contentment within it.

It's not about being lonely; it's about cherishing solitude as an opportunity for self-discovery, self-care, and rejuvenation. It's a chance to recharge your spirit, connect with your inner thoughts and passions, and simply be at peace with yourself.

22/06/2023

I was looking for love in all the wrong places, when all I really needed to do was first look in the mirror and find it within myself.

A self-marriage honours and celebrates the greatest commitment we will ever make: the commitment we have to ourselves

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Robbie had the ceremony in front of her friends and family

19/06/2023

Self-affirmation validates worth, strengths, and positivity.
Self-marriage symbolizes self-love, acceptance, and empowerment.
Both promote self-esteem, well-being, and a deeper connection with oneself.







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18/06/2023

Self Marriage, or sologamy, is not a new concept and has been around for more than 25 years.
It's a celebration just like any wedding ceremony, the difference being you make promises to yourself and not to someone else.

One of my vows on my wedding day was "to always remember to step outside of my comfort zone because that's where real growth happens" Robbie Fincham 7/2/21

10/06/2023

Earlier this year, I was thrilled to receive an invitation to join the studio audience on SBS Insight! The reason? I was given an incredible opportunity to share my story of loneliness, living a solo life and embarking on a journey of self-marriage. 🌟✨ I truly believe that by sharing my story, and as a celebrant I can inspire others to discover the magical and transformative power of a self-partnering marriage ceremony.

Link in bio to watch Insight episode "Alone"

10/06/2023

Bespoke Self-Marriage Ceremonies

08/06/2023

Sneak peek into my story featured this week on the SBS Insight program titled "Alone" about why I became a sologamist.
Watch on SBS On Demand.

Robbie was struggling with loneliness. Then she learnt to love herself.

05/06/2023

On my birthday in 2021, I made the unconventional decision to marry myself.
It was a radical act of self-love that turned out to be surprisingly transformative. The power it held surprised me, making me feel more empowered and full of self-love, which has only grown in intensity since the day I spoke my marriage vows.

I'm passionate about sharing this incredible concept with others. Whilst primarily singles enter into a self-marriage, so also can married people.
Join me on this remarkable journey of self-marriage, and let's explore the incredible impact it can have on your own personal happiness

www.marryingme.com.au




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05/06/2023

I'm thrilled to be part of the SBS Insight program "Alone" this Tuesday 6th June at 8.30pm or catch it later on SBS On Demand.
I'll be sharing my story of why I married myself and how it changed my life for the better. I'm passionate about showing others the empowering impact of a self-marriage ceremony.

Marrying Me

29/05/2023