05/10/2022
Tips on how to be a great wedding guest.
* DON’T BE A DICK TO THE VENUE or VENDORS.
Now I know this one may sound obvious, but you’d be surprised at how many times I’ve
seen guests being unnecessarily rude to staff.
While of course all of the vendors are there being paid to do a job, oftentimes they are all just as
excited to be there celebrating as you are! The planning and lead-up to a wedding can be a super
long and taxing process, and by the wedding day most of us have been working with the
couple for months (even years!)
We’re all attending as a collective to celebrate the love of some beautiful people and nobody
deserves to be treated like crap while doing so.
Don’t be a do**he, it’s just lame.
* DON'T GET PLASTERED.
A wedding day isn't your opportinuty to get wasted.
Your ability to hit the open bar drinking to excess isn't needed and your drunkeness will be observed badly.
Sure have a great time but don't be a booze hound.
* PUT YOUR FREAKING PHONE AWAY!!!
I know how tempting it can be to whip out that bad boy and snap up some beautiful photos of
your own, but I promise you that I’ve (or whoever the photographer is on the day) got it covered.
When the couple are standing at the ceremony looking out at everybody they love, they want
to be able to see your faces! They want to witness the tears, the joy, the excitement, and none
of that can be done when you’re hiding behind your phone screen.
Leave the documentation of the day to the professionals and take it as a moment where
you can really step back and be present without worrying about being constantly checked in online.
* ACTUALLY LISTEN TO THE SPEECHES
The speeches are one of the more personal and intimate parts of the night, where the couple
can really step back and soak in the love and support that surrounds them.
I know we all like to get a little bit rowdy as the drinks are flowing and the atmosphere starts to
relax a little, but make sure you’re respectful (the time for singing and dancing and talking loudly
over one another will come I promise!)
Standing up to speak can be super daunting for some, and it’s even worse when they’re competing
against everyone else in the room for their voice to even be heard.
Sit back and listen. Don’t rob the couple of their chance to hear what everybody has to say.
* FOLLOW THE SEATING PLANS
Seating plans are made for a reason, so don’t be a dick and sit wherever you please.
Sometimes there are particular seats during the ceremony that are reserved for specific people,
and there are often table plans in place during the reception, so if you’re ever unsure j
ust look around and ask for help.
Of course it’s ok to get up and chat to other people when the time is right, but get out of your comfort
zone and get to know the other people you’ve been seated with. Even if you don’t know them -
oftentimes the couple will have grouped you together because they think you will get along.
Who knows, you may make some new pals.
* DO THE FAMILY PHOTOS WITHOUT COMPLAINT
Ok, I know the family photos can sometimes be a drag. It’s easy to watch what everyone else
is doing and feel FOMO from the bar or other guests you’ve been hanging out with,
but it’s important to remember that you’ve been specifically chosen by the bride and
groom to be in these photos.
They want you to be a part of the documentation so that when they look back in years
to come they can see your smiling face standing there alongside them.
Get rid of your booze, put your glasses down for just a minute, and deal with any bulge in your
pants (yes I went there!) I mean your phone. 15 minutes out of your day won’t affect you
much, and I know the couple will love you for being a part of their photos.
Plus the quicker it goes for them the better too! They’ve got things they want to move
onto on their wedding day too.
* MAKE SURE YOU SHOW UP ON TIME
Weddings run to a very tight schedule, and they’re not going to wait for you!
The worst thing you could do is chaotically turn up mid-ceremony, disrupting the entire moment.
Leave with time to spare because being early is a far better problem to have than being late.
* FOLLOW THE DAMN INSTRUCTIONS
Ok, I know this is a total buzz kill but hear me out.
Often the rules and regulations set in place by venues and vendors are there to keep everybody
safe and the day flowing smoothly. We’ve seen it alllll before and we know what’s needed at any given
moment to keep everything on track without any dramas.
We want everyone to have the best bloody time possible, and following simple requests will help
keep everybody happy (I promise we’re not just trying to kill your vibe for the sake of it!).
* GET OUT THERE AND DANCE!
This is one of the most important ones because there is nothing worse than an empty dance floor!
You don’t have to be a good dancer to get out there and have some fun - even whipping out
the daggiest of moves you learnt 10 years ago is better than none at all.
You’re there for a celebration so make sure you celebrate.
Go and party with your couple without worrying what you look like doing it. They will love
you for it and nobody will remember what you looked like in the morning anyway!
* DON’T LEAVE THE RSVP UNTIL THE LAST MINUTE!
Wedding invitations are often sent out well in advance to the day.
It’s important for the couple to have an idea of how many people will be attending so that
they can liaise with their vendors and set everything up for the day with accurate figures.
Don’t just open the invitation and chuck it on the fridge hoping you’ll remember to deal with
it next time you go to get yourself a cheeky snack.
Look at your calendar, decide if you’ll be able to make it and let the couple know as soon as you can.
* REMEMBER THE DAY ISN’T ABOUT YOU
There is SO much that goes into planning a wedding.
So much thought, consideration and money; and at the end of the day all the couple wants
is a beautiful day where they are surrounded by everyone that means the most
to them, celebrating their love.
As a guest, it’s your job to do just that.
So don’t sweat the small stuff, keep your opinions to yourself, drink responsibly and be a team
player. At the end of the day, the couple have chosen you as somebody they want to share
their special day with (how frickin lucky are you?!)
Embrace this and make the most of being a part of something incredibly special.
