Hillside Catering

08/08/2024

Love: neurosis or the most powerful force in the Universe?

What is LOVE anyway?This word is thrown around a lot with a lot of different meanings. And me, I like clarity and precision. When I look up the official definition of the word in my Oxford dictionary, this is what it says:Love/ n1. Strong feeling of deep affection for sb/sth: a mother’s love for h...

01/08/2024

Confidence is one of those things that make life so much more full and exciting. But somehow one day it's there and another it's gone...

The word confidence comes from the Latin 'con' (with) and 'fidere' (trust).The official definition of the word confidence is “the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust.”In this little post I will be referring to very specific trust: trust in oneself because havi...

17/06/2024

I keep thinking how much faster and almost magical change could happen if government of Canada simply signed a paper that all new houses have to be built out of h**p blocks. OK, I don’t actually know if it would work with highrises (it might) but it would be a double impact on improving our carbon dioxide problem. H**p blocks ABSORB carbon dioxide and get stronger from it, so not only we would be saving countless trees but we’d make our homes do the thing that forests do!

Add to that better insulation (therefore less energy wasted), practically eliminating risk of fire (the staff doesn’t burn).

Yes, there’d be some initial moaning and groaning from the builders because most of them would have to learn how to do that, but really, it’s worth it in the long run.

Where does one even go to make such a request? We are told that the government’s job is to work for the people, so…. where do the people make requests and see them come to life???

07/06/2024

OK, this is it! We fly tomorrow!

Join me for the 11 day Chill Challenge and I will show you how to plug into more resourceful, more calm and peaceful YOU.

Join me because you are WORTH IT!

The link to join in the comments :). I will see you inside!

05/06/2024

Today was the first time in years that I showed up to my class just on time instead of 5-10 minutes early. I observed myself saying "I'm being a human today", I was defending myself even though nobody had a problem....

Thank goodness I start every class with breathing exercises, I have a chance to use breath for my own nourishment. I watch my nervous system calming down, the rest of the class is joy.

The conditioning to follow the rules is strong. Years and years of conditioning. (This particular rule "to be on time" is actually a good rule, in my opinion, but it's important to leave room for humanness).

I am getting more aware of rules and my responses to them. Questioning too.

What rules are you making, following and rejecting these days?

05/06/2024

11 Day Challenge To Take Care Of Your Nervous System Starts on Friday, June 7th.
Click on the link in the comments to join

30/05/2024

I have a very strong case of "good girl syndrome" and currently working to release my inner rebel, and even more so, my own true nature. Who is on the same path?

20/05/2024

I am SO EXCITED! Here's why :)

I've designed a new Take Care Of Your Nervous System 11 Day Challenge and I am ready to share it with the world!

If you are tired and overwhelmed, it's for you. More info and join here. And, it's free :) because I love you.

Transform your life in just 11 days! Join FREE 'Take Care Of Your Nervous System' Challenge from June 7 - 17, 2024. Break free from overwhelm, exhaustion, and constant urgency. Learn to downregulate your nervous system, unlocking inner peace and accessing your creative powers. Discover simple practi...

16/05/2024

Baby elephants are tied to a steak with a rope. Baby elephant tries to escape, and tries and tries until it gives up and stops trying. So, when it grows up, it could easily escape, but it believes that it can't, so it doesn't even try. The same happens to humans, except instead of ropes we use all sorts of rules to keep humans "in check". So, when we grow up we have a whole bunch of beliefs that are holding us on a short leash.

For example, when someone has to make a decision in their life and they say "I don't know what to do!". They might not know many very specific things like how to write software or sail a boat. But, when it comes to decisions and choices for their own life, THEY DO KNOW. Even if they say that they don't know, they know. I know it, you know it. In our heart of hearts we know what the right choice for us would be. But there's fear in the way of that knowledge. So, next time you don't know what to do, try asking yourself these questions:

If I wasn't afraid, what would I do?

Can I imagine that I DO know what the next right thing for me to do? What would my decision be?

Those simple questions can uncover some very interesting things if you just listen to the answers. When I ask myself the question "if I wasn't afraid, what would I do?" I always get an answer, often a surprising one. Sometimes I follow my answer and sometimes I don't but I can't say that I don't know anymore.... Sometimes I still don't follow my own "right for me" path because I am afraid, but the decision is conscious and I consider it to be an improvement.

I am not sure about elephants, but when it comes to humans, we need to feel safe and loved. Once we can reliably connect to that state, that's when we can access our creative power, the same force that creates galaxies. Yes, I do believe that we are all part of that creative force and some of us simply forgot that. Let this letter be a reminder that you are a powerful being and you know what is best for you.

So, if you weren't afraid, what would you do?

28/04/2024

What is the most fun and unusual way you have made money?
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16/04/2024

Any parents here?

I'm sharing about my journey as a parent. I would be curious to know how are YOU navigating parenting?

Let's have a conversation

I grew up in quite a dramatic family. And even though my childhood might not have been in idyllic settings, I was loved by both of my parents and grandparents. At the same time, yelling was frequent and I remember myself as a kid telling to myself that I would never ever yell at my own kids. Fast fo...

12/04/2024

I decided to create a substack...
Please share your experiences and learnings if you already have one! But here's the link to mine.

and some random thoughts from my brain that have nothing to do with coaching

09/04/2024

"We are all friends here!" my daughter is taught this at school. And it's time to call BS. Let's teach kids the nuances. We are NOT all friends, but it doesn't make us enemies either.
I just had to write a little rant...

We really need to stop telling our kids things like “we are all friends here” when clearly we are not.By telling kids “we are all friends here” we are setting them up for failure. Take my daughters classroom for example. 30 kids, 30 unique individuals. Some kids gets along and some kids do n...

08/03/2024

OK, of course you don’t have to lose the fear completely because fear is there to keep you safe. It is there to tell you to step away from the edge of a cliff, it’s there to help you run from a bear (good luck with that! It is said that in a bear scenario it's best to pretend you are dead).

However, in our daily life, when you are NOT chased by a bear, it is a good idea to lose the fear because when you make decisions out of fear you are not going to live your best life. For example, you might take a job that you know you won’t like because you are scared of not being able to pay the bills. But if you lost your fear just for a few moments, you might be able to see that there’s a better fitting job right around the corner!

When my dog got attacked today by another dog three things got demonstrated to me:
1. The dog that attacked did it out of fear. If that dog took a moment to meet my love bug (which is my dog), she would be ok. The dog attacked because old conditioning kicked in, she wasn’t socialized with other dogs when she was a puppy. When her owner snapped her out of it, both dogs were able to co-exist just fine.
2. Hearing my dog whimpering I automatically went into flight or fight response. I tried to drag my dog away, but it made things worse, the other dog just dug her teeth deeper (thankfully it was a small thing with little teeth so no blood was drawn).
3. If I stayed calm, I would have dropped the leash down and allowed my dog to set a boundary.

All of that showed me that I need to make feeling of safety my default state.

How do I do that?

By practising.

My goal is to feel safe unless there’s true danger, something like fire in my building, a lion chasing me, i.e. when my life is threatened. All the other times I want to have full access to my thinking brain so I can make decisions that are best for me, that are more freeing rather than from fear. Decisions made out of fear usually take me to the opposite direction, away from freedom.

Considering freedom is one of the most important things to me, I want to make decisions in that direction and from that place.

I want to share a short meditation designed to connect you to your sense of safety. Practice it as much as you can so it becomes automatic in your nervous system. Essentially we want to replace anxiety with safety. I wish that for me and I wish that for the whole world.

When we feel safe we can have more compassion, more empathy and understanding for ourselves and others.

When we feel safe we can practice deep listening instead of listening to respond.

When we feel safe we can make room for our feelings and feelings of others.

When we feel sage we can show up as our own unique selves.

It’s time to snap out of fear. And land into freedom.

This is my wish for all of us.

Practice being safe and be free.

Here’s the link

Meditation to connect feeling safe.If you live in a habitual state of anxiety try tbis meditation. Of course make sure to be in a safe place and not interru...

06/03/2024

Who wants to come play with me and build confidence at the same time?

We build it on the solid base of compassion and kindness, that’s how it becomes solid and unbeatable.

The registration is open. We take off on March 11th

Are you coming?

Bulletproof confidence, no "fake it till you make it" required!

04/03/2024

Self-compassion rules

In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TED...

01/03/2024

Have you been told to fake it till you make it?

When it comes to confidence, I believe this is the WORST advise someone could give you.

Confidence is defined as trust in your own abilities. So, if you keep faking it, how can you build trust? In fact faking it will corrode the trust, which is THE OPPOSITE of what you want to create!

So, instead of faking it, come to my workshop and we will build solid trust in yourself so you can live your life on YOUR terms!

Registration is open!

Bulletproof confidence, no "fake it till you make it" required!

29/02/2024

I want it NOW!!!!

My family decided to not cook dinner but to order in instead. 40 minutes later there're a bunch of dishes arriving to our home all ready to be enjoyed. If we cooked those dishes at home ourselves from scratch it would probably take hours. We are so spoiled with things happening so quickly that we fo...

27/02/2024

REGISTRATION IS OPEN!

Bulletproof Confidence! Who is with me?

Bulletproof confidence, no "fake it till you make it" required!

09/02/2024

What is the most harmful belief of our times?

Find out in the link below

Any guesses? Drumroll please! “If I love myself, it means I am a selfish, narcissistic person” Do you have variations of that belief? I stumble into it so much when I work with my clients that I got inspired to do something debunking. Why is it so harmful? Because it leads to self destruction. I...

02/02/2024

Money. What are your thoughts about money? Is it evil? Is it good? Do you have lot of it? Do you want more of it?
Let's have a conversation

Money. There’s so much tension, drama and confusion about money. Rightfully so, we need money to live in our world. Money was originally created to make it easier to barter, to exchange value. It’s much easier to exchange a chicken or a painting for money and get what you need instead of engagin...

19/01/2024

Do you work hard?

Do you believe that you have to work hard? Read this

Do any of the following statement sound familiar? I have to work hard because if I don’t, I don’t deserve to be here. I have to work hard to be successful. I have to work hard to earn a living. I have to work hard to belong. I have to work hard so people will like me. If I don’t work hard I am...

14/01/2024

A Person You Came Here To Be

I want to invite you on a journey. There will be days of great enthusiasm and excitement. There will be days when you'll fall back into the old funk, melancholy and you will say "this is not working!" I will be there for you. ​ There will be triumphs and celebrations. ​ Also, you will fall and n...

02/01/2024

Are you setting goals for yourself this year?

Here's the what, why and how I'm doing it now

It’s New Year and naturally, I, like a lot of people, set some goals. In the past I tried to set all sorts of goals, some of them I’ve achieved and some I haven’t. And for a few years I skipped goal setting all together. Here’s what I learnt about myself: - I don’t like SMART goals (Specif...

30/12/2023

It's time to reclaim your creative powers. Here's how I am doing it

Hello, my friend, What are you up to these last couple of days of the year? Are you making plans for the New Year? Maybe New Year Resolutions? Or maybe thinking about this year and reviewing all the events, your achievements and progress on last year’s goals. Or maybe you are cleaning your house a...

09/12/2023

Who wants to play with me from the comfort of your own home?

I'm starting a new class, I call it PJ Yoga and you are invited!!!

This class is suitable for all body types, shapes and ages. We will play with principles of Yin Yoga.

Yin Yoga calms the nervous system, helps relax the body and turn your attention inwards. It improves flexibility, blood circulation and it helps to alleviate chronic tension.

When: Sunday night 7:30-9pm

Where: your home, we connect on zoom

Cost:
4 week registration (December 10, 17, 24, 31) - $40
Drop - in - $15

DM to register :)

And bring your dog too (sometimes they become an excellent replacement for a bolster! ;)

02/12/2023

Sometimes it feels like a Black Hole

I’m agitated, I feel discomfort in my body, something doesn’t feel right. I look around and nothing in my environment shows any immediate danger. I close my eyes and scan my body. There’s a spot at my solar plexus that wants my attention. I zoom in my inner vision on it, trying to sense it bet...

14/03/2022

Are your staff needing a little extra incentive to come back to the office? Let us know if we can help 😉

08/03/2022

Happy International Women's Day!

27/02/2022

If you are looking for where to donate to Ukraine you can check out this link to the Ukrainian Canadian Congress

https://www.ucc.ca/2022/02/24/ukraine-humanitarian-appeal-update/

February 24, 2022. TORONTO/OTTAWA – Today, Russia has declared war on Ukraine. The Russian army conducts military operations against the Ukrainian people,