07/30/2024
I’ve have had such a hard time finding the words to put this post together. I realized that I cant find the perfect words because having to write any of this just plain sux so, Instead, I am just going to speak from my heart.
What I want it to tell you all is that my life has been completely flipped upside down, that the last 9 weeks have been absolute hell on wheels. That in the blink of an eye our world tragically lost a husband, a father, a son, a brother, a Jefe, a best friend & the biggest brightest most beautiful smile we’ve known. That we have been dragged into this ugly chapter we never imagined we’d be in. That we are all riding the grief-coaster hard and doing our absolute best. Some days that looks like pouring ourselves into normal life and others its just getting out of bed. This grief has come in many different colours & it changes day by day & even hour to hour.
But I also want to tell you that there is this glimmer of power I’m finding in this Grief. Im starting to find strength in the memories,instead of just sadness. Im slowly being fuelled with honouring his legacy & remembering the things that he loved & had so much pride for. Many of you know that about 5 years ago we started K&T together. To say that these were some of the best days of our lives as a newly married couple would be an understatement. Trucking all over the US, Canada & Mexico curating our collection of rentals and hand selecting, painting, refinishing & restoring pieces from all over to fit our couples dream vision, oh yes! Those were the long, sweaty & stressful days we’d smile and say simultaneously “If it were easy”.
Wedding days will never be the same without his famous “Altar dances”, him counting how many times I move the same pillow & trusting him as my second opinion on everything.He loved watching a space transform in 8 hours.I’m sure he never thought he’d care so much about the placement of a pillow or candle,but somehow it was part of him.
What I want more than anything is to say this; To my present Fresa Brides. I am so grateful to you for your outpouring of love,Your unwavering support & continued trust in me and for being my reason for getting out of bed on my dark days. I absolutely adore you all and cant wait to be part of your magical I.Do’s.
To my Vendors; My goodness. More than ever, you all have proven that we really are family. Your my team of soldiers and all of your love & support gives me so much strength. Thank you.
To my Fresa / K&T Allum’s; I don’t know that there are many of you whose lives weren’t touched by his. In fact, Im not sure Ive received a review in the last 5 years that didn’t start with “Kristee & Travis”. The memories of every one of your happily ever afters were so dear to his heart.
Knowing how much Travis touched all of your worlds has filled me with love and he would be so honoured to hear your memories and tributes to him. If I could share one thing more with you all it would be that one second can change everything. This is your reminder to always, always say what you need to say. Tell your people you love them. Even if you think they know. Tell them again:)
This season of love is dedicated to you my Bubbs. I know you’ll be beside me every step & i promise to make you proud 💕10💕
