16/03/2025
How do we express and share our Eros?
For a lot of my life, I had an understanding of Eros that was very simple.
I would feel an attraction based on what someone looked like—maybe they had a twinkle or spark that caught my attention, a particular shape, shared interests, or simply showed interest in me. Then a whole process would begin, ultimately leading to intimacy in the way most of us have been taught to associate with Eros.
That process changed and varied over time, but it stayed familiar. Sharing Eros had a set of learned progressions built into my psyche—what I now call the relationship escalator. You probably have your own version of it.
The other person becomes a partner, we begin a relationship. What that relationship looks like depends on a whole range of factors—preferences, expectations, social conditioning. The Eros we shared would be the entry point for that process to begin, then the force that held it together. The electricity that powered the escalator.
If that current of power stopped or changed, I would feel something was wrong. I would try to fix it, to get it flowing again.
But now… my relationship with Eros feels very different.
I feel the fire of it in everything.
It moves through my body when I wake to the morning light spilling across the sheets, when I meet the eyes of a stranger and we share a moment of unspoken recognition, when I let a song take me over and dance without thought.
I feel it in the pull of inspiration, the aching beauty of a tree silhouetted against the dusk, the way my breath slows when I’m fully present with another being—not to take, not to get anywhere, but simply to be.
Eros has become the pulse of my aliveness, no longer confined to attraction or a scripted journey toward a goal. It’s not something I need to manage, acquire, or fix. It’s not a currency exchanged for love or security.
It’s an elemental force—vast, unruly, and deeply generous.
I used to think Eros was a spark between two people, a thing that needed to be directed, kept alive, made to mean something.
Now I see it as the great river I am always swimming in, whether alone or with others. It is in the way I touch the world and let it touch me back.
And when I meet another in that river—not to control or harness it, but to revel in its current—something truly sacred happens.
This is the Eros we explore at Eros as Medicine. A force beyond transaction, beyond expectation—one that invites us into deeper connection with life itself. If you feel the pull, join us in Glastonbury in July.
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