Jill Csehi Celebrant

26/01/2025

I'm finding the topic of Direct Cremation coming up more and more often. For those who don't know what a direct cremation is, it can mean different things depending on who you use. If you use one of the very big companies that advertise on the TV, they will collect your loved one, and store them until they book a cremation. That cremation can take place at any crematorium in the country and at any time of the day - usually very early, or very late, when it is cheapest. The cremation then takes place without any ceremony or anyone present, other than the crematorium assistant. Crematorium assistants are amazing people, very caring and dedicated, so rest assured they are taking care of your loved ones. If you use a local Funeral Director with a good reputation, they will take care of your loved one, and take them to the local crematorium at a time and date that you are aware of. This is still a cremation without any service.
This type of funeral is cheaper and this is the reason that many now choose this as an option. But what I want to remind people, is that the funeral isn't just about the deceased, it is for those left behind. It is a time to say farewell, about a little bit of closure. I know from experience when I lost my parents, the time between them passing and the actual funeral are so hard, I found myself not wanting to go anywhere or do anything, it all felt so wrong. If I did go out to a shop, I wanted to stop and shout at the people around me 'Why are you going on with life as if nothing has happened - my mum/dad/brother etc have died and you are going on as normal!' It wasn't until we had the funeral, that I felt the time was right to re-enter the world. What I'm trying to say, is that the funeral is for those left behind, those who are grieving, those who need a farewell and a sort of closure to be able to move on the the next step of their lives. Direct cremation is right for some people, but my point here is, please consider some sort of celebration of that persons life, be that big or small, something that gives those left behind some closure and a chance to say their farewells xx

17/01/2025

Isn't the mind a funny thing. We never know quite how our brain will deal with things. In my role as a Celebrant, I have the great honour of being with families when they have very recently experienced the loss of a loved one. All families deal with it differently, but all show incredible bravery in opening up their hearts and lives to what in many cases is a complete stranger. The joy of this, is that on many occasions, the family say how cathartic they find the process of talking about their loved one, and remembering them when they were fit and well, and very much alive. This in contrast to the more recent memories they often have, of their loved one in the final days. It's so true what they say, we don't get over grief, we just learn to live with it. That devastating pain of losing someone we love, becomes a part of who we are forever. We never forget that pain, we just learn to live with it, and go on each day. So when we meet people who have never experienced such a loss, they can sometimes find this difficult to comprehend, and expect that 'You must be over it by now'. As the words from a beautiful poem by Donna Ashworth say;
Losing someone is a journey,
not a one-off.
There is no end to the loss,
there is only a learned skill on how to stay afloat,
when it washes over.
Be kind to those who are sailing this stormy sea,
they have a journey ahead of them,
and a daily shock to the system each time they realise,
they are gone.

Be kind to those who are sailing this stormy sea

16/01/2025

16/01/2025

What is a Celebrant? Let me tell you.

19/11/2024

National Celebrant Day 2024

07/10/2024

If you're looking for a Wedding Venue in North Notts, have a look at this one - a real hidden gem! The Oakham Suite, Nottingham Road, Mansfield. For something totally unique get in touch with me and we can create your dream ceremony

19/09/2024

Booking now for 2025 and 2026

14/09/2024

Happy one week anniversary to this beautiful couple who I had the pleasure of officiating the wedding for at the gorgeous last week.

25/08/2024

Fantastic day Thursday marrying this lovely couple at Willowtree Farm

25/08/2024

An absolute honour to marry this wonderful couple on Thursday at Willlow Tree Farm. They really are the perfect couple

18/08/2024

Very grateful for this review left today on Trustpilot for me from a lovely family I helped with a celebration of life;

Professional and full of empathy
When my wife passed away, the Funeral Director suggested the possibility of having a Celebrant helping us with the ceremonies of the funeral and later the celebration of her life. I was at first a bit hesitant of involving a person unknown to us in such intimate and highly emotional events. I am so glad I overcame that hesitation as we could not have managed without the input, support and practical contributions from Jill Csehi. She is highly professional, but also very empathetic. She helps the family with reminders and suggestions of what has to be arranged, as well as of drafts of texts for invitations, eulogy and committal, yet she is is very mindful to only to follow the wishes of the family. All in all, she helped immeasurably to provide for both ceremonies the loving and respectful tone and atmosphere that we wanted.

05/07/2024