Heather Clarke - Independent Celebrant

Heather Clarke - Independent Celebrant she/her. I am an independent celebrant, committed to delivering personalised ceremonies. You can choose to be as involved as you wish.

In life we all have different beliefs and unique experiences and relationships. I believe that every family deserves a meaningful funeral service that recognises the person who has died, as an individual. Funerals are a time to say goodbye, but they are also be a time to celebrate the life that was lived, for however long that may have been. Hand in hand, I will work with you to prepare a service

that reflects your needs and wishes, and those of the person who has died. We will aim to capture their personality, their loves, the things they were passionate about, and the essence of them. You may wish to weave some religious or spiritual aspects into the service, or you may choose to miss out religion altogether. I welcome your participation in both the planning, and delivery, of the ceremony with open arms. Family and friends may decide to choose and deliver poems, readings or tributes themselves, or you may ask me to speak for you. You may even prefer that I craft the whole of the ceremony myself. I am flexible to meet your needs, whatever they may be. I will work closely with you, and your chosen Funeral Director throughout, to ensure that, as a team, we deliver the best possible ceremony.

💚 I am very excited to be exhibiting at The Magna Wedding Fair, in Rotherham, this Sunday, the 6th of October. 💚Whether ...
02/10/2024

💚 I am very excited to be exhibiting at The Magna Wedding Fair, in Rotherham, this Sunday, the 6th of October. 💚

Whether you are newly engaged, or your wedding day is just around the corner, you’ll find lots of exciting inspiration here, from some amazing wedding suppliers.

Of course, if you’re looking for a celebrant who will create a heartfelt, personalised wedding ceremony that you and your guests will remember forever, come and chat with me!

See you there! 👋

A great big squishie THANK YOU to everyone who left an enquiry with me at the  on Sunday. 
It was fantastic to chat to y...
13/09/2024

A great big squishie THANK YOU to everyone who left an enquiry with me at the on Sunday. 

It was fantastic to chat to you about your vision for your wedding ceremonies - every single one so unique and personal. 💖

I have now emailed everyone, so look out for that landing in your inbox (or maybe your junk/spam - how rude! 🙄) If you haven’t had anything, give me a poke and we’ll figure it out.

If YOU would like to arrange a no obligation chat to explore how, together, we can make your ceremony one to remember, get in touch, I’d love to hear from you.

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Just a reminder that next Sunday, the 8th of September, I’m doing my first ever wedding fair, The Indie Wedding Fair, at...
01/09/2024

Just a reminder that next Sunday, the 8th of September, I’m doing my first ever wedding fair, The Indie Wedding Fair, at The Steamworks, in Sheffield.

I think I’m now a little less terrified, and a lot more excited. Luckily for me everyone else seems to know exactly what they are doing, and they have my back! 🩷

If you or anyone you know is planning a wedding, or you just love weddings, why not bag yourself a ticket and come down for a chat? The Steamworks is dog friendly 🐶 and has some great food options.

Go on, you know you want to …

https://www.tickettailor.com/events/theindieweddingfair/1307497

01/08/2024

Happy Yorkshire Day everyone! I’ve roamed far and wide, both in the UK and abroad, and it’s a bit of a joke amongst my friends that my favourite saying is ‘I could live here’. 😃

In reality though, I’m a proud Yorkshire Lass. Enjoy this poem by Doreen Brigham.

Sing A Song Of Yorkshire

Sing a song of Yorkshire, from the Humber to the Tees
Of horses, wool and terriers, of pudding and of cheese.
I know no other county where land is quite so fine.
England's lovely county. And I'm proud to call it mine.

Where shining purple heather stretches far across the moor,
and the lapwing's cry above me takes the place of traffic roar.
And peace comes drifting gently, there's no place I'd rather be
than this land of hills and valleys, from the Pennines to the sea.

So when I've done my roaming, and when my step grows slow;
when heart and mind assure me that the time has come to go,
then let me rest in Yorkshire, for it's there I want to lie
'neath sun and wind and heather...and a gleaming Yorkshire sky.

I am RIDICULOUSLY excited to be joining the lineup at the The Indie Wedding Fair in Sheffield this September! 🙌😊Looking ...
24/07/2024

I am RIDICULOUSLY excited to be joining the lineup at the The Indie Wedding Fair in Sheffield this September! 🙌😊

Looking forward to a day of chatting with folk about the HUGE difference that a celebrant led wedding ceremony, can make, and connecting with lots of other talented independent creatives.

Can you tell I’m giddy? 🤩

It is all happening at The Steamworks, a brilliant city centre events space and venue, on Sunday, the 8th of September 2024.

Copy and paste this link, to grab your tickets.

https://www.tickettailor.com/events/theindieweddingfair/1307497

Psst - the Treat yo’self tickets are guaranteed to be immense!


📣 Service announcement 📣In February of this year I fell, whilst skiing, causing a complex break to my right (and dominan...
15/07/2024

📣 Service announcement 📣

In February of this year I fell, whilst skiing, causing a complex break to my right (and dominant🙈) shoulder.

On Thursday of last week (11th July), I had surgery which will hopefully fix things and get me back on the right track 💪

For the next four weeks, my arm will be completely immobilised, to allow it to heal.

Assistive technology, especially speech to text software is proving very useful. However, I know from experience, that it takes me longer to write a ceremony this way, than it does when I have the use of both hands to type.

Whilst I am unable to drive I will be relying on public transport/lifts for both family visits and the funeral ceremonies themselves, which also takes extra time.

All of this means that I am accepting a reduced number of funeral ceremonies at the moment. These will be ones for families I have led ceremonies for before, or where I have been personally recommended. If this is the case, please do get in touch.

For any other funeral ceremonies, I'm happy to recommend or introduce you one of my amazing celebrant colleagues in the area. Just ask.

Weddings, vow renewal and naming/renaming ceremonies are unaffected.

Thank you for your understanding.

* Photos show a smiling woman (me!) with tied back dark/grey hair and gold hoop earrings, wearing a black dress and large black arm brace/sling. Taken outside Holmfirth Vineyard, a beautiful restaurant/ wedding venue, surrounded by the dramatic scenery of the West Yorkshire hills and moorland and the vineyard itself, on a misty day *

When I saw that Natural Endings were hosting a talk about DIY and Community led funerals, with  , I knew that I had to b...
20/06/2024

When I saw that Natural Endings were hosting a talk about DIY and Community led funerals, with , I knew that I had to be there.

My Dad died in 2021, and Rosie, and my other amazing fellow members of the Good Funeral Guild, guided me to make Dad’s funeral perfect for him, and us, in his community.

I knew that Anna Bushell - Celebrant would love the talk too, so invited her to come along with me for the ride. We chatted none stop for the hour journey there, and all the way back again 😃

Hearing all about John Mounsey’s community funeral was inspiring - moving, though provoking, and yes, funny too. I’ve shared Natural Endings post to my stories, where you can see more details.

It was great to finally get the chance to see their beautiful funeral home and ceremony space too. Just gorgeous! 😍💚

Thank you to everyone involved for holding such a wonderful event.

How gorgeous is this? 😍 I’m heartened to see how more and more  people are looking towards sustainable solutions for flo...
15/06/2024

How gorgeous is this? 😍 I’m heartened to see how more and more people are looking towards sustainable solutions for floral arrangements, from locally grown flowers and entirely biodegradable materials, to living displays that can be planted out afterwards. So many fabulous ideas!

Locally, I highly recommend the very talented and fabulous human who is Hollie, at Alchemilla Floral Her arrangements are divine, sustainable and made with love.

18/05/2024

It's been an interesting week at work

💚 Several funerals, including one for a 98 year old lady who was a ten pound pom, and then a ping pong pom (both terms I hadn't really fully appreciated before). In this ceremony we fully involved her family both here, and in Australia.

💚An interment of ashes ceremony for a man who lived and died abroad, but wanted his final resting place to be here in his 'home' of Yorkshire.

💚 Several family visits to families who have upcoming funerals. I love this part of my job - so many lovely people and conversations. Every single life is different, and I thrive on this variety.

💚 I have also had two non funeral enquiries this week. Funerals are where my heart lies and I am very lucky that for me, they are a full time job. My weekends and summers are precious, especially whilst my son is still young. However, both of these occasions are for people who I have previously supported with family funerals, so we have a special connection.

One is an amazing last minute booking for a boho/festival style wedding. The other an intimate renewal of vows ceremony. I am so looking forward to being involved in both of these.

💚 So this morning I have been relaxing in the garden. I had just sat down to have a moment, after clearing my vegetable patch, ready to plant my peas, when a lucky robin took advantage and managed to take several mouthfuls of unearthed delicacies back to its nest.

Wishing you all a peaceful weekend. I hope you manage to get a glint or two of sunshine.

Being a celebrant in a fairly small community is a joyous thing. When one of the families that I supported recently want...
04/05/2024

Being a celebrant in a fairly small community is a joyous thing. When one of the families that I supported recently wanted to send me flowers, as a thank you, they phoned my local florist, Hacketts Florist, only to be told by Nina, the owner, and amazingly talented florist, that she has known me for over 30 years!

What a small world, and what beautiful flowers 😊💚

Happy Wednesday everyone! This is going to seem like a short week isn't it? I'm back at work today, reinvigorated and fu...
03/04/2024

Happy Wednesday everyone! This is going to seem like a short week isn't it?

I'm back at work today, reinvigorated and fuelled by chocolate, after a lovely long weekend. I have a funeral this afternoon, and a family visit for a funeral next week.

Now that the season is turning, my conservatory becomes my office again. I love sitting here to write, looking out into the garden, the only distractions being the birds busying themselves gathering nesting material, and my mind turning to which part of the garden I'd like to tackle next (a wildlife pond was my project for this last weekend). NB - please excuse my dirty roof - I can’t get up there to clean at the moment with my broken shoulder. 😳

I do have another, more flexible, office, which I'll maybe post about as well.

After so many years spent working in large contact centre offices, this is just one of the many things I love about being a celebrant.

🌸 Today's ceremony at Hutcliffe Wood Crematorium was a heartfelt tribute to a lady who held a deep passion for plants an...
26/03/2024

🌸 Today's ceremony at Hutcliffe Wood Crematorium was a heartfelt tribute to a lady who held a deep passion for plants and flower arranging. 🌿

The team at Petalis had a lot to live up to, and they did exactly that. You wouldn't have known, but the gorgeous full length casket spray was actually four individual arrangements. I wish you could smell them through the photo! They were amazing!

At the end of the ceremony the individual arrangements were gifted to some of those in attendance, rather than being left in the crematorium grounds. What a fabulous idea!

A huge thank you to Claire and her wonderful team at Ecclesall Road Funeralcare for their collaboration and support. And special thanks to Steven at the crematorium for ensuring that everything ran smoothly.

Last month an old colleague and friend, Janet, got in touch with the sad news that her husband, Paul, was approaching th...
22/03/2024

Last month an old colleague and friend, Janet, got in touch with the sad news that her husband, Paul, was approaching the end of his life, and would like to talk to me to arrange his funeral ceremony.

Yesterday, it was my privilege to lead the celebration of Paul's life at City Road Crematorium in Sheffield. It was standing room only, as the colours of his beloved Sheffield United and Sheffield Steelers filled the room.

This very personal ceremony was just as Paul envisioned - full of family, memories and laughter.

We, as is only fitting, ended with the Blades Anthem, 'The Greasy Chip Butty Song' which I'm sure Paul must have sung many, many times on the terraces at Bramall Lane.

Thank you to George at Barry Pritchard Funeral Services, who provided such a dignified service, and the team at the crematorium, who helped everything to run smoothly.

Sending all of my love to Janet and her family over the days to come.

🌿 Wombwell Cemetery and Community Hub 🌿A few weeks ago I had the privilege of being asked to lead a heartfelt ceremony f...
18/03/2024

🌿 Wombwell Cemetery and Community Hub 🌿

A few weeks ago I had the privilege of being asked to lead a heartfelt ceremony for a gentleman who was to be laid to rest beside his father, in the family plot at Wombwell Cemetery. His family had asked their funeral director to find me, as I had led his brother's funeral ceremony some years ago.

I'm an outdoors kind of person, so love an outdoor ceremony. However, for some in attendance, our good old British weather can mean that they struggle because of the cold or even the heat. As a result, I'm sometimes asked to 'keep things short', for their comfort.

Thanks to the remarkable efforts of Friends of Wombwell Cemetery, at Wombwell Cemetery we have the best of both worlds. The cemetery itself is beautifully kept, and a haven for wildlife, and, within the grounds is a lovingly restored chapel, which is now a Community Hub.

We were able to hold the majority of our ceremony in comfort there, before walking to the graveside, where we said our final farewells.

Interested in learning more about the Friends of Wombwell Cemetery and how you can support their meaningful work? Visit their website https://www.fowcemetery.org to discover more about what they do, and opportunities for involvement.

A pleasure to work alongside Wombwell Funeral Services Special thanks to Kath for figuring out that it was me that the family were searching for!

15/03/2024

One of the questions I am often asked, is how I deal with my own emotions during a funeral ceremony.

I could probably write a full book on this subject, but in summary, I see it as my job to keep my emotions in check, so that those who are there to mourn, to celebrate and to remember, don't have to.

That's not to say that my emotions don't ever show - I am human after all. Today, listening to the wonderful Thurnscoe Harmonic Male Voice Choir singing all of the music for an 88 year old gentleman who was their longest serving member, having joined at the age of 16, I struggled.

How fitting that the choir who had been such an important part of his life were there right to the very end.

This isn't a recording from today, but from a concert several years ago. It was their rendition of this song, Take Me Home, that brought tears to my eyes. Respect to them all, for being able to hold it together to sing so beautifully, and for making the ceremony so very special.

Thank you to Alan, Lyndsey and the team at Coop Funeralcare for the care and detail you put into looking after this gentleman and his family.

I journeyed across t'other side of the Pennines today, to lead a ceremony at Stockport crematorium. My first at this ven...
07/02/2024

I journeyed across t'other side of the Pennines today, to lead a ceremony at Stockport crematorium. My first at this venue.

The crematorium was full to capacity, and people spilled out into the grounds, to pay their respects to this remarkable woman. A woman who made such a lasting impression on the lives of her husband, children, grandchild and many many family and friends.

A heartbreaking, but beautiful, true story of two different kinds of love that came later in life. Although too short, those years were full of wonderful times.

We left the crematorium to her favourite song - Happy, by Pharell Williams, which raised a few smiles at a difficult time.

   Lovely to spend some time today with Joanne and Christine, the dream team at my local Coop Funeralcare, here in Pen*s...
01/02/2024



Lovely to spend some time today with Joanne and Christine, the dream team at my local Coop Funeralcare, here in Pen*stone, for their Time To Talk event.

Fabulous to meet the lovely Nikki from Ceremonies by Nikki and the adorable Mabel!

24/01/2024

It’s been a day when I have been reminded that:

“You’re only as good as your team”

In what now seems like a past life, I managed teams for many years, and this was my mantra.

As a celebrant, the same applies, except that now I don’t manage people. Instead I work collaboratively with them to deliver outstanding funerals.

From the funeral arrangers and funeral operatives (who do the often unseen care), to the funeral directors - thank you. 💚

To the crematorium and cemeteries staff, who are hardly ever seen, but without whom nothing would happen - thank you 💚

To the families who put so much effort into making funerals so special, thank you. 💚

To my fellow celebrants, who I know always have my back, and who it is a joy to be able to grab even just a few words with, in passing. Thank you 💚

I feel incredibly lucky to be part of such a supportive community.

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