04/12/2025
You belong. You matter.
I read my friend, Natalia Shvarts raw and gripping story almost in one sitting this weekend - the fastest read of my year and the most important reminder.
"I Don't Matter – In Search of Home."
The title hit me hard even before I opened it and once I started, I couldn't put it down. Probably because I've been discovering the work I do is built on the opposite belief:
Everyone matters. Everyone belongs. Everyone is worthy of being seen.
I've got to know Natalia over the last couple of years through the franchise world. I've photographed her at events and twice in remote portrait sessions.
Reading this book, I've learned so much more about her journey.
Natalia gives words to feelings that are recognisable to many but rarely talked about. The in-built need to impress, the illness, the missing self-esteem, the relentless drive for self-improvement - all rooted in shame and covered by silence.
She learned to survive by staying silent, kept trying even when she didn't feel she fit in. She rebuilt when everything seemed totally broken. Twenty years ago, she didn't think she'd live long enough to tell her story. Last week, she released it to the world.
My heart gave a proper little leap when I saw she'd used one of our remote portraits on the back cover and fly leaf. To be a tiny part of this telling of her astounding story - of her struggles, her courage, and now the hope she's giving others, it feels deeply meaningful. I helped put her face to this incredibly powerful story. What a privilege.
If you've ever felt small, unseen, too broken, or not enough - this book will help you believe that healing is possible and your life matters more than you know.
(Be warned - it's raw and honest in ways that might shake you)
So thrilled there's a happy ending.
Super proud of you, Natalia! 💪