Helen Chesterman Celebrant

10/03/2024

Mother. One word, a myriad meanings…

To mother is not just to create life, it is to sustain life, to save life, to enrich life, to nurture life, to protect and shelter that life. It is complicated, eternal, instinctive and ancient.

Not all mothers are mothers and that statement works both ways.
Some mothers are unable to nurture the child they have for many heartbreaking reasons and some mothers would love nothing more than to have this child they so long for. So they walk through this life nurturing and sharing that motherly love with whomever needs it. They are mothers without children of their own. But mothers they very much are.

If you are a mother in the traditional sense today, be loved. You are someone’s whole world, what a thing.

If you are without your own mother today, be loved. Just as she spent her entire life hoping you would. She lived for your happiness, let her see it if you can.

If you are a mother without children today, be loved. You deserve this more than we know and we see your brave heart opening still to let in those who need.

If you are someone who chose to love another’s child today, be loved. This world exists more beautifully because of your selfless and boundless light.

If you have never known a mother’s love, be the start of it, make it anew. And show the world what it should look like. The legacy you leave will change history.

Find a way today, if you can, to celebrate ‘creation’.
To celebrate your existence, to celebrate love itself.

Mother, one word, a myriad meanings…
complicated, eternal, primal, and without us, there would be nothing.

Donna Ashworth
From Mother’s Day in Wild Hope
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Beautiful art by Annie Armstrong Art

10/03/2024

For everyone thinking about their mothers who are no longer with us. ❤

For all our mother's who are in heaven - thinking of you on Mothering Sunday 💞

25/12/2023

11/11/2023

We will remember them.... with love and with gratitude.

27/03/2023

Thankyou Refuge In Grief 🧡

Want to help a grieving friend? Let them be sad.⁣ Really.

⁣Sadness is a natural response to loss, hardship, and death. It just is.⁣
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And it's hard to know what to do when your friends are hurting. It sucks to see someone you love in pain. The thing is, you can’t cheer someone up by telling them to look on the bright side, or by giving them advice. It just doesn’t work.⁣⁣
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The trick is to lean into your helplessness in the face of your friend’s pain. Your job, honestly, is to feel awkward and stay there anyway. Just hang right out with their pain.⁣⁣
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When things are dark, it's ok to be dark. Really. Not every corner needs the bright light of encouragement. In a similar vein, don't encourage someone to have gratitude for good things that happened to them in the past or good things that still exist. ⁣
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Example: We recently we saw a person respond to someone's expression of sadness by telling them to shove down all the "bad feelings" and think about the good things they still have in their life. ⁣
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First of all, just say no to unsolicited advice. When someone talks to you about how hard this is, notice your impulse to jump in with a solution, and then DON'T DO IT. Most of the time people are simply looking for acknowledgment about how awful this situation is. ⁣
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Second, good things and horrible things occupy the same space; they don't cancel each other out.⁣ Sadness is healthy. Telling someone to look on the bright side or appreciate what they still have just tells them you're not someone they can talk with about their pain. ⁣
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Instead, mirror their reality back to them. When they say, "This sucks," say, "Yes, it does." It may seem too simple, but it's amazing how much that simple acknowledgement helps.⁣ It is an unfathomable relief to have a friend who will sit with you and let you feel exactly how you feel.⁣
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For more on how to be the supportive friend you truly want to be, visit or check out my first book, , available wherever you buy books.

22/03/2023

22/03/2023

17/02/2023

I'm pleased to say my new web page is now up and running. There is more to come, so keep checking in.
Why not take a look

Helen Chesterman Celebrant website outlines services I provide, Funeral. Wedding and other ceremonies. You can find out what people have said about me.

06/02/2023

Our thoughts and prayers are with those who have lost their lives, their friends and families and all those who are injured as a result of the earthquake in Turkey and Syria 🙏

11/11/2022

We must never forget, we will be forever grateful.

11/09/2022

Our beloved sympathy quote, "When someone you love becomes a memory....the memory becomes a treasure" surrounds the outer edge of this remembrance ornament. This warm sympathy message will be a keepsake for life. Our lost loved ones will always be in our thoughts, inspiring, encouraging, and empower...

08/09/2022

RIP Queen Elizabeth II. Thank you for years of dedication to your country. Long live the King. God bless the royal family in their time of grief.

08/09/2022

Heartfelt thoughts are with all members of the royal family today. God save our gracious Queen.

22/08/2022

22/10/2021

It was wonderful today to be back doing what I love best after almost 2 years. A wonderful wedding for a wonderful couple, H and J, and the naming of their gorgeous children. The children stole the show, laughter and tears and lots of fun. Congratulations to this lovely family. More photos to follow.
A great team to work with today,
Mark, Lucy and the team at Fairyhill,
Lauren Lauren Amelia Photography
Cake by Scrum Diddly

02/02/2021

R.I.P. A true inspiration.
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