25/05/2025
So true and one of the reasons why I dislike the term 'moving on'!
Grief brain is real. It's not in your imagination—and it's definitely not you being lazy, scattered, or "not trying hard enough." It's what happens when your entire world gets blown apart and your brain can't keep up with the wreckage.
You forget things.
You lose track of time.
You stare at a sentence and realize you've read it four times already.
Even the simplest, everyday tasks feel huge.
This is your brain in survival mode. When someone you love dies, your system scrambles. It tries to protect you from the unbearable. It shuts some things down just to keep you upright. Focus, memory, motivation—they all take a hit. That's biology doing what it does when something vital goes missing.
Other people might not see it. They might think you're just distracted or not paying attention. But grief changes your brain. You're not broken—you're grieving. And your brain is responding exactly how a brain does when it's trying to process something it never wanted to understand.
So if your mind feels foggy, if you're forgetting things or falling behind, take a breath. Be kind to yourself. Your brain is doing what it can to survive a reality it never asked for. And you're still here. That matters.
