25/01/2023
Before you plan the wedding, plan on sitting down and going over the details of your agreement. Your agreement is a prerequisite for wedding plans beloved. In other words, if you put months into planning for one day, make sure you put just as much time into a mutual agreement for how every day will look after the one day. Wedding vows donβt make marriageβs work, covenant behavior agreements do.
A covenant behavior agreement (CBA) should at least include the below:
1. The same effort you put into dating and courting them, is the same effort you need to put into keeping them (Galatians 6:9).
2. You have a birth name, and you wonβt tolerate being called by any other name unless God, you and love would approve of it (Ephesians 4:29).
3. Intimacy is not a treat or an exception, itβs a lifestyle and a rule. Intimacy is not s*x, itβs making love standing up. Intimacy is not simply communication, intimacy is vulnerable, safe and loving behavior that nurtures the whole person ββ because we are body, soul, and spirit (1 Thessalonians 5:23).
3. Anger but disrespect not. Disrespect will not be tolerated, excused or accommodated (Ephesians 4:27).
4. You donβt get to tell your mate what hurts them, you get to listen, understand and empathize with what hurts them and compassionately fix behavior you are responsible for that causes them hurt (Philippians 2:3).
5. You donβt get submission without submission. Equally yoked couples are equally submitted (Ephesians 5:21).
6. Your mama, daddy, family and friends (and for some couples, video games), are valued but not given ability to disrespect, disregard or override the boundaries that protect your house and the relationship from toxic intrusion (1 Timothy 5:8).
7. Speak in love, talk in love, uphold the character of love (1 Corinthians 13:1β8).
8. Make love, enjoy unselfishly fulfilling each other s*xually and do not emotionally or s*xually give yourselves to anybody else ββ virtual relationships and po*******hy included (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 7:3-5)
9. Abusive behavior, harmful behavior, hurtful behavior, destructive behavior ββ mental, emotional, physical, financial, s*xual or spiritual, is treacherous and violates Godβs marriage covenant (Ephesians 5:21-33, Colossians 3:19). Both the treason of treachery and adultery depart the marriage covenant, and are biblical grounds for divorce.
10. In all things there is a balance of power, equality and submission to Godβs will ββ because you are joint heirs to the grace of life (1 Peter 3:7).
Carry On!