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20/08/2024

Whenever you find yourself starting to miss someone you really loved…

But perhaps someone who just didn’t appreciate you.

Someone who just didn’t care about how you felt.

Someone who you loved so much, but someone who just treated you like an option.

Stop for a moment, and remember…

Remember the disrespect.

Remember all the times when your feelings didn’t matter and were invalidated.

Remember how your worth was completely disregarded.

Remember when your boundaries were ignored time and time again.

Remember what they deliberately and knowingly did to break your trust over and over again.

Remember all the times you begged them for the basics and you begged them to treat you as though they loved you, but they still refused.

Remember how it made you feel.

Remember just how much it hurt.

Remember how disappointed you felt.

Remember how betrayed you felt.

Because this was real.

This was how you really felt.

This was someone’s version of love for you...

It’s normal to miss someone who you once loved, especially if the love you felt for them was genuine and ran deep;

but it’s so important to remember all of the reasons why the relationship didn’t work out, instead of just remembering the good times and the happy memories.

Respect yourself by remembering how you really felt, because in doing so you’re honouring yourself and validating your emotions.

Use these memories that were your reality to reassess and reaffirm your boundaries, values, and what’s important to you in a relationship.

Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect.

You deserve to be treated with kindness.

You deserve to be heard with empathy, love, and understanding.

You deserve to have your feelings and needs cared about.

And you deserve to feel emotionally safe because you trust the person you love to look after your heart and do the right thing by you.

When you’re in a relationship, these things are NOT optional extras.

They are the non-negotiable basic foundations!

Don’t allow someone who won't give this to you to continue to treat you less than you deserve.

And don’t settle for a love, that’s less than the love you deserve…

~ Mark Smith

19/08/2024

I am often not the type to advise any close person to me be it a man or a woman, and especially a woman in a toxic relationship to leave because they never truly leave until they make the decision themselves.

A lot of people know how to bond with their affliction. They grow fonder of the person who treats them badly, entangling themselves in toxic and unhealthy love.

A few days ago, I saw a post from a man saying he’s been ignoring calls and messages from his supposed girlfriend because that’s how to make them obsessed and make them love you. I read through the comments and saw lots of men reinforcing this idea.

Some people believe that a relationship is only toxic if there is physical abuse, but what I described above is toxic at the highest level. It’s a tool of manipulation used by men and even women who are deeply wounded and have refused to heal. It’s a way to subdue you into celebrating and rejoicing over the bare minimum they offer.

They speak kindly to you once a month, and that’s the day you’ll sleep peacefully and be very happy. Then they switch the next day for the rest of the month and you’ll find yourself begging to be loved and treated right, you find yourself crying to sleep almost everyday, they are very aware of what they are doing, it’s a deliberate act.

There are some men and women who derive pleasure from being chased. They love it when you become obsessed and unbalanced about them. People of this nature should be avoided at all costs because they are operating from a wounded place. Don’t get yourself used to toxic and unhealthy love, because you are the one who will end up messed up.

Mature and pursue a relationship with a man or woman who truly wants to nurture you, someone who genuinely wants to love you. If they truly love you, they wouldn’t look for manipulative ways to get you obsessed. Look for a person who is genuine and isn’t strategic with you. Look for someone who wouldn’t toy with your heart and mind, someone who will communicate freely with you. Be with someone who wouldn’t go silent on you just to make you chase them. Be with someone with whom you can have a free flow of communication, openness, and friendship. You don’t want to be with someone who won’t call if you don’t, who won’t text if you don’t, and who will even ignore you when you do.

It’s better to be single and happy than to be with someone who will mess you up in this way you may never fully heal from it.

17/08/2024

When a man is gentle, soft, and consistently respects you, that's when your nervous system starts healing.

That's why some women have that special glow when they're being loved right in a relationship. It's not the love itself, it's the emotional safety.

📸 aichadram

05/08/2024

Good men who are faithful and loyal still exist, and they possess certain qualities:

- They don't cheat.
- They don't manipulate.
- They don't deceive women.
- They don't hide their wife.
- They don't play games.
- They work hard every day.
- They value a good woman.
- They eagerly anticipate marriage.
- They look forward to coming home.
- They proudly show off their woman.

While they aren't perfect and may make mistakes, a good man doesn't use being human as an excuse to hurt his partner. A good man is honest, truthful, genuine, and consistent. They have integrity, discipline, and won't drag someone down to elevate themselves.

These good men respect and value women, showing gentleness and treating them with care. They match their words with actions, uphold moral values, and are committed, faithful, and dedicated to one woman. They are mature, responsible, and understand the importance of loving, honoring, protecting, and providing for their partner.

Women deserve to be with a good man who will love, honor, respect, protect, empower, and partner with them. Good men who are passionate about God and real love still exist in real life, even if they may not fit the idealized image in one's mind. They are out there, and they are worth waiting for and deserving of love and respect.

Thanks Daddy for being that great father to our mother..

30/07/2024

Wife her up, buy a house together, build a family with her, build your credit together, build your dreams together, open a business together, buy real estate together, chase the bag together, inspire each other, motivate one another, create generational wealth together. Teamwork make the dream work! ❤️

23/07/2024

Real love creates a greater level of patience and understanding in a relationship ❤️

22/07/2024

He loves his fiance and he knows she loved him too, but he wanted to be sure she would be faithful to him.

So, he decided to set her up, with his friend whom the lady knew nothing about.

“Just shower her with love, attention and care. Be there for her always, grant her whatever she wishes, and let's see if she will fall." He told his friend.

And the journey began.

First, he came as a job hunter who happened to pitch himself at her workplace. At the end of the day, he was employed.

First, it was a harmless relationship. The guy was always there, willing to assist her with her needs, and all of that.

At a point, the relationship was becoming something else. She didn't hesitate to tell her fiancee.

“Honey, there's this guy in my workplace. He joined our company 3 months ago, and we have been getting along, just as good colleagues should." She continued.

But then, I discovered that he is getting closer. I have tried to avoid him, but just because we work together and see on a daily basis, I couldn't. What do you suggest I do?" She asked her fiance.

He played less concerned, like he wasn't the one she was talking to. She tried to get feedback from him, but he cared less.

“I am thinking of quitting my job, because I wouldn't want anything that will tamper with our relationship." She explained to her fiance.

“Don't even dare it. If you do, that will be the end of our relationship." He thr3atened.

She became confûsed. What was she going to do? Well, she decided to focus her attention and affection more on her fiance, just to help her maintain the connection.

But then, her fiance changed overnight. He stopped calling her as usual, stopped giving her all the attention, and became busier than the bee.

And then, the other guy intensified his care. He was always available to listen to her and her needs. At first, she tried to get her fiance's attention, tried to explain, and tried to relate to him what she was passing through, but he still never cared.

It was supposed to be part of the deal, but the lady didn't know.

So, gradually her interest for the fiance began to go down, while that of the guy began to increase.

They became gistmates, close friends and even more.

When the guy discovered that the whole thing was getting out of hand, he confronted his friend.

“Guy, don't you think you should call off this game. It's no longer getting funny." He explained.

But he insisted. The deal was meant to last for 6 months, they had 2 more months to go.

The guy couldn't help it. He was already falling in love with this lady. She was everything he had wished for in a woman.

And just like a magical experience, they both fell in love with each other, and became so close that they wouldn't do without the other.

All the while, the lady kept on trying to reach out to her fiance, but he kept paying deaf ears. So she gave up.

And then, a few weeks later, just one week to the end of the game, the guy brought a wedding invitation to his friend.

“Wow! This is so good of you! Meeeeehn! Who is this lucky lady?" He asked as he opened the invitation card.

And then, he saw the name, Daniella! Which Daniella?

“Guy, who is Daniella, she is not my fiance right? And even the surname! There's a mix up right?" He was already fûming and in tèars.

“I am sorry bro, but she is the one. This game was over a long time ago. I tried to explain, but you insisted. I am sórry." He expressed.

The guy couldn't talk. He quickly brought out his phone to call his fiance whose call he hasn't answered for the past 3 months.

He called and called, but she didn't pick. She only ended up sending a short message to him:

“I am sorry Mike, I found someone who was willing to stay, to be with me, and to love me unconditionally. I wish you the best of life."

He stood transfixed, his phone in his hands, and his mouth opened without the utterance of words.

He just lôst a diamond 💍

Some jokes are expensive, some games are worth it.

Without communication, a beautiful relationship can turn sóur and become forgotten memory.

© Amara Chitoo Ogunoegbunam

21/07/2024

Trust me. It hits different when a man loves you way harder than you love him.

You don’t have to beg, you don’t have to be paranoid. He assures everything will be fine and assures that he will always be defending you, keeping you safe from every harm.

18/07/2024

Have you ever experienced a God-sent man? When God sends that man he comes equipped, he comes in ready to lead, protect, provide, and profess. He comes in self-assured, ready to love and be loved. He brings forth clarity and reassurance, and he makes you feel valued because he doesn’t play games he came to build and stabilize a solid foundation. He submits himself to God which makes it easier for you to submit to him. He has no desire to be out in the streets chasing women he knows God sent him his BEST when he sent you A God-sent man comes to restore, and he comes to build a legacy. There’s no confusion or chaos when a God-sent man enters into your life, he brings with him his Father's peace.

15/07/2024

The impact of "I Love You" hit different when they prove it to you backed up by their actions!❤️
Bookings ongoing 💕

13/07/2024

10/07/2024

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08/07/2024

So many people settle for being someone else’s “Snack” when there is someone else out there waiting to make them the whole “Meal.” Don’t let impatience drive you into the arms of someone who is not committed to loving you the right way. There is nothing wrong with waiting for a good thing. There is nothing wrong with being single for a few years as you wait for someone worth getting to know. Wait on someone who is committed to your growth. Wait on someone who can love you with an honest heart and a clear mind. Wait on someone who can consciously love on the same level like you can. Wait on the person that makes you smile every morning, and not the person who has you wondering when your next smile is coming. See when someone loves you and is crazy about you; they speak with love, they care with love, they act with love and they help you grow as a person with love..❤

29/06/2024

When a man is devoted, when he gives her his love with his whole heart, the woman will reciprocate it tenfold.

Their tough exterior and sincere love evoke her deepest feelings. She will love him more than he expected, letting him know more than he could ever imagine he deserved.

The love that is given without expectations of recompense is one that guarantees lasting love.

25/06/2024

Never cause your spouse to be a Detective.

There is nothing your spouse should not know about.

Always be open, transparent, reachable and accessible at all times.

Be where you said you would be.

If the unexpected happens as they sometimes do, call your spouse and keep them in the loop.

If you are planning on doing something you think your partner might be uncomfortable with, then dont do it.

If you have a friendship or relationship that your spouse should not know about, then you should not have that friendship or relationship.

If you have anything on your phone that you do not want your spouse to see, then you shouldn't have that thing on your phone in the first place.

If you receive calls or text messages that you do not want your spouse to hear or read then you shouldn't be receiving them and the numbers should be blocked from your phone.

There is no room for secrets in a relationship. Give your spouse open access to your entire life at all times.

Take my advice and always remember...

Transparency is the foundation on which deep intimacy is built.

—Cody Bret

Art: Rue

22/06/2024

My SISTER, no matter how good you
treat a man.

if you are not the woman he has feelings for, he will never appreciate your efforts.

No woman is more miserable than a woman trying to be the right one to the wrong man,
even at your best you still won't be GOOD ENOUGH.

STOP watering dead plants, stop forcing connections.

Truth is when the right man comes into your life, you won't force communication, you won't force attention, you will be VALUED and RESPECTED.

08/06/2024

You deserve a love that is unwavering and consistent.

A love that chooses you, day in and day out.

A love that is both steadfast and tender, embracing every facet of who you are.

A love that celebrates your highs and stands by you through your lows.

You deserve a love that flows naturally, bringing peace and prioritizing you through every chapter and season of your life.

07/06/2024

"My husband showed me the power of a simple touch when we are in an argument.

Last week my husband and I were arguing about something. The kids came home from school, so it was time to put the argument on pause as we needed to make dinner, and just be parents.

I was sitting at the table on my laptop, while waiting for dinner in the oven to be ready.

My husband sat down beside me, and opened up his laptop to do his own work.

He slowly put his hand on my leg, and kept it there for a minute.

I looked at his hand, placed on my leg, and said “I thought you were mad at me.. why are you touching me?”

He looked at me and said “even when we are arguing, I want you to feel safe in our relationship. I want you to know that my physical touch, or affection, will never be withheld from you as some sort of punishment for still being in an argument.”

It was in that moment I realized, he knows I need to feel safe and secure, even in moments of arguing.

It was in that moment I realized, I had conditioned myself to think that I didn’t deserve his touch if he was upset with me.

I thought back to the recent arguments we have had, and realized I have withheld touch and affection from him.

It was in that moment, with his hand on my leg, that I realized the power of his small act.

My husband taught me, in that moment, touch is not something to be withheld, or used as a punishment.

You can be in a disagreement, but still remind your partner that they’re safe, and you will work through this together.

Him putting his hand lightly on my leg seemed small to him, but to me, it felt like safety.

His small graze on my leg, reminded me that we will work through this, together.

His small touch reminded me that even in moments of disagreements, I am safe with him.

His small touch reminded me that I am always worthy of his physical affection, and that it should never be used as a weapon in an argument.

His small touch, even in the midst of an argument, well, it felt like home."

06/06/2024

A man who is afraid of losing you won’t keep putting you in situations where you wonder if you should stay. Once you understand that some people come into your life to teach you how to let go, you'll realize that loving him doesn’t mean you have to stay if you’re not being treated right.

Men can lie with their words, but our actions reveal the truth. We put effort into the women we care about. Why hasn't he called you? Why hasn't he checked up on you? Why do you have to beg him to come see you? Where was he last night, and why was his phone off?

If you find yourself constantly asking these questions, it's time to let go. The right man will never make you question his intentions, and you'll never feel like you are second best because he’ll always put you first.

06/06/2024

A man can be obsessed with you and still not love you.

A man can be in your twenty-three hours each day and still not think of you as a wife fit for him.

A man can introduce you to his friends and family and still agree with them all that you are not the one.

A man can even engage you and still not have plans to marry you at all.

A man can also plan a lavish wedding with you and still disappear, to low key marry a faceless stranger, somewhere.

Sometimes, it has nothing to do with you at all.

Sometimes it has everything to do with him and the indoctrinations that have been planted in him by people he respects.

Sometimes, it has everything to do with his bleeding wounds, unresolved histories and trauma bond

Sometimes, it could be God saving you from a human accident.

This generation can waste your time and still call you names later.

This generation isn't as faithful as our Fathers' and Mothers'

This generation can share all their deepest secrets and vulnerabilities with you and still turn around to marry a clueless, bitter, pretty stranger, with whom they have never discussed jack.

This generation can agree with, and like all your posts and pictures everywhere on social media, and still run off to marry another whom they aren't even friends with on social media.

This generation can love you in your Dm and be ashamed to identify with you publicly on a global domain.

This generation can type 'More Grace' while you are a nobody and still fight, castigate, hate and even murder you when the Grace actually becomes More.

This generation wants lasting marriages and relationships but with the wrong manual and strategies.

This generation does more than they actually say or mean.

If he or she is becoming obsessed with you already, please, do not foolishly swim in that uncertainty

The heart of man is desperately wicked and none can know it except by principles and discernment.

Therefore, apply the principle of asking and get a very clear answer, because time can either be wasted or spent.

Do not let anyone born of a woman use you to wait for who they actually need

Move on as fast as you find out and never let anyone rent you while they build their own nest.

Run off once you find out.

You are too valuable for time wasters.

This post resonates to both sexes.

Save your time and spend it with that one healthy person who needs you as much as you need him or her.

Life is deeper than butterflies and wicked obsession.

LUST is SCARY and EXPENSIVE

But God is LOVE!

Choose the latter and allow Jesus fix what you can't fix.

05/06/2024

A man does not change under the influence of love from a woman. Alternatively, a man changes because he loves a woman.

It is not she who tries to change him; it is he who wants to be better for her.

When a man falls in love with a woman, he wants to be better for her.

He acknowledges the necessity of doing his best for his woman self. A man will change because love spurs him on.

A man will take the sign of his girlfriend and wife's supports at the same time.

Once a man has identified this, he will adjust to her.

Even though a man can be reprimanded by love, he does; either way, the final choice is given.

Both members do not take a moral stance. Even so, everyone is alone in charge of switching to love and joy to bathe

02/06/2024

(Inbox) People need to stop saying "we fell out of love".
My wife next to me watching her series.
I'm playing my PlayStation.
I can't understand me just saying.
Babe the love is gone.
Y'all need to realize you broke up for A REASON.
Stop blaming Magic and fairies, and chance.
Accept there were things you both needed to do for it to work.
And one of you, or both of you made excuses to not do it.
It could be his constant criticism, it could be your not supporting him and being another obstacle.
But it was not magic.
He moved on and is married and you can't even get a date?
Figure out why.
She cheated, or is bored.
Figure out why.
AND FIX it. Instead of looking for more victims, or someone who's desperate enough to deal with it

30/05/2024

A BOY keeps a password on his phone, while a MAN is confident enough to say, "Babe, can you answer that for me?"

A BOY runs in the streets and chills with his friends, while a MAN enjoys spending time with his woman, planning for the future.

A BOY complains about spending too much time with his woman, but a MAN plans vacations and getaways, wise enough to know tomorrow isn't promised.

A BOY tells his woman all the things she does wrong, while a MAN acknowledges his woman’s hard work.

A BOY will read this and think it's about him, but a MAN will read this and thoroughly understand what he needs to improve in his relationship.

10/05/2024

Orange and Navy blue. 424 pax..

09/05/2024

Bride car decor

09/05/2024

Bridal team car decor

09/05/2024

I don't want conditional Love

Stop entertaining people who have problems with fundamental things about you. Things like your body looks, or weight. You may be trying to improve and trim off some weight, but if a person has a dislike for how you look, that's not the one for you. Do not change yourself in order for someone to feel comfortable with you. Life has ups and downs, and you may gain that weight again. Does it mean they will dislike you then? You don't want conditional love. You want someone who likes you in all your phases so that they journey with you whenever you need to adjust one quality or other for health purposes.

There are many ways people use to tell you that you're not their type. Being uncomfortable with your natural qualities is one of them.

(©️ Benjamin Zulu Global)

08/05/2024

Arc, aisle , signages, pillars and red carpet.