18/01/2024
As humans, our tendency is to play the victim. Unless you're watchful, it will sneak up on you, and you'll start blaming outside forces—parents, spouses, bosses, the weather, the government, circumstances, 'the Man,' whomever—for your problems.
In reality, we are not victims; we're agents. We are the creative forces of our lives, and we are free to choose. However, we have to be reminded of this all the time.
As you grow up, one thing you will realize and learn a lot is that growth starts when you stop being a victim. When you take responsibility for your choices and don't blame anyone but yourself, especially if you had a part in the decision-making.
Life is like a game of cards. The hand you are dealt is determinism; the way you play it is free will. We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the game.
It doesn't matter what cards you're dealt. Never complain; just keep pushing forward. Find a positive in anything and fight for it.
There is nothing as easy as blaming someone else. It’s the easiest thing to do in the book, but taking responsibility and acknowledging the part you played is empowering.
Remember that uncle of yours who worked in Nairobi that never gave anyone a job, yet you felt like he was in a position to? Now you are that uncle. It’s time to give people jobs. It’s easy, no?😃😃
Recall wishing your parents were better at parenting? Say no more. Now you are the parent. Show us how it’s done.
Remember castigating that aunt of yours for leaving her marriage, yet the husband looked like a good man? You swore yours won’t fail 😁😁 Say no more; my darling, now is your opportunity to demonstrate that.
Life is not compassionate towards victims. The trick is not to see yourself as one.
Carl Jung, a Swiss psychoanalyst, once said, 'Thinking is hard, that’s why most people judge.'
The more we see ourselves as victims who need to be saved, the more we'll attract people offering to help. While this is not necessarily a bad thing, it