23/01/2025
Communication is a skill we must learn to do very well, especially in marriage. When we communicate well, we are able to clear our relationship of debris that builds up as we go about life. This "debris" could be hurts, frustrations, and anything else that makes us feel disconnected from each other.
It may sound simple, but real communication takes intentionality and determination. Here are a few ways to keep communicating well.
1) Less screen time.
Screens fill our worlds with "noise" that, most of the time, adds little real value to life. Turn them off and have a conversation instead.
2) Ask open-ended, meaningful questions.
Take a real interest in what your spouse thinks by asking them. Don't be surprised if you learn something new.
3) Respond thoughtfully.
Too many times we respond to questions with knee-jerk reactions. Take time to process and articulate what you really think; don't settle for the easier response. This will enliven and enrich your communication.
Of course, this list is far from exhaustive. The key thing to remember is to keep the conversation going.
If you feel like your communication is lacking, be patient! It takes time to learn these skills together.
Stay fierce,
Ryan & Selena
