05/01/2026
Discovering a fitting theme for a ceremony feels amazing. I realized one honoree's hobby of throwing her own porcelain and stoneware echoed all I'd learned about her incredible life story, and could be woven throughout the ceremony script.
I found myself writing lines like:
"Pottery, in fact, serves as a perfect metaphor for Martha herself: strong yet adaptable, exuding care and purpose, and undeniably beautiful."
and:
"Martha had a huge capacity for joy, and she always kept an optimistic and forward thinking attitude about everything in her life. This became a big part of her resilience: Like pottery that withstands the heat of the kiln, she endured life’s challenges with strength. Pottery has a strength and capability to it, as these creations are vessels that are built to be functional. Martha certainly was strong and capable, fighting multiple battles against cancers, choosing to have extra preventative surgeries as a way to mitigate additional risks of more cancers, and always keeping her eye on the future. "
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One of the many other notable details in her life story was that she adored Shiba Inus, both as her own pets, and also in a bigger way where she volunteered so much time towards helping rescue this breed.
"Taking care of this breed of dog requires extra patience and nurturing, and is a labor of devotion, much like a potter needs patience and care as they shape and refine each creation."
These are just a few of many spots of where I placed the pottery theme into the eulogy.
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I received this unique testimonial afterward:
"Emily Karp officiated my friend's Celebration of Life. Through interviews with her family, Emily managed to weave all the various threads of my friend's life into a well-crafted, personal and original piece of art — creatively and thoughtfully written. It was an absolute joy for me to sit back and hear Emily honour her as she talked about the impact my friend's life had on so many — including mine. My friend valued and respected good penmanship and she would have said 'well said, Emily!'
"Emily, may you continue to touch many people with your gift."
— Lori B., funeral attendee