Brides with Disabilities, Non Profit Organization

12/28/2024

Do you know sometimes combining different cultures into one is really hard. You have to look at each of the couples faiths and decide which rules you follow. Religion defines the cultures together. Interfaith marriages are complex. You can’t just throw something together and say it’s good enough. You have to take tremendous thought on how to combine the two together. Today I did just that.

I had to take the Quran & Christian religion aspect and think really hard on how to blend it to meet both of their cultures religious and cultural differences together. They are getting married very soon. Please take a look and let me know what you think about the blending of cultures and if you think they are appropriate for both cultures.

Dearly Beloved and Honored Guests,

Heavenly Fathers, we come before you on this special day, asking for your blessings upon Adriana Bonilla and Junaid Khan. May their union be filled with love, grace, and divine guidance. Grant them strength and wisdom to build a strong foundation for their marriage.

OFFICIANT (to congregation):

The story of creation is laid out in the Quran. When it was time for Allah to create the first man and the first woman he saw, when the man was alone, that something was missing. The Quran tells us "It is He Who created you from a single person, and made his mate of like nature, in order that he might dwell with her in love" (7:189). The message is clear, a man ought to have a wife, and a wife ought to have a husband.

The covenant we are to witness today goes back for thousands of years, and is a promise repeated throughout cultures and across continents. It is a commitment for Adriana Bonilla and Junaid Khan to hold one another up in faith, and help one another grow together.

OFFICIANT (to couple):

This marriage is an agreement you make today is sacred. You make it in the sight of Allah, God the Heavenly father and to all of these witnesses. It is not to be taken lightly, nor broken easily. It is a sacred trust, built on faith and love, and it’s yours to keep, protect, and honor.

Celebrant: (Addressing the guests) Marriage is a respected institution, and one deserving of deep regard. Today we observe the union of Adriana Bonilla and Junaid Khan in holy matrimony, a commitment they have chosen to accept with all the sincerity that it warrants.

While marriage is a sacred and serious tradition, it also brings forth tremendous joy. Married life is full of surprises, adventures, and memory-making – all made possible by the enduring power of love. When Adriana Bonilla and Junaid Khan finalize this union, they will begin a new life of partnership, one defined by shared hopes, dreams, and successes.

(Addressing the couple) Adriana Bonilla and Junaid Khan, as you learn to live as one; you will face many challenges that will help you grow. Spend time doing the things that make life precious – cooperate with each other, always make time to laugh together, and never lose appreciation for the love that you both share. Remember to adhere to the vows that you will make today. Find strength in each other, give hope to each other, and let your trials help you grow as one. They say love can build bridges and climb mountains — and they’re right. You will find that as it grows and matures over time, your love for one another will prove both fulfilling and empowering.

There will be challenges in life, but the strength of your bond will give you protection against life’s difficulties. Always make your relationship a priority, and continue to nurture one another. Through a commitment of love, and with the power of faith, together you will be able to navigate any obstacles that come your way.

OFFICIANT (to congregation):
Now it’s time for the Meher, which starts in Muslim tradition with an offering by the groom to the bride. Today we use a ring as this offering.

Adriana Bonilla and Junaid Khan will now share their vows.

Ring Exchange (Meher)

As is tradition, Junaid Khan will now give the ring to Adriana Bonilla, as a symbol of his promise to provide for her, care for her as his most prized possession, and to make her life better for all of the times to come both the good times, bad times and the trials of time. This ring is a testament to his love for her.

OFFICIANT (Junaid Khan):

Mr Khan, We are gathered today with all of your loved ones, friends and families and myself as witnesses. Will you give her this ring as a symbol of your promise to honor and provide for her the rest of her life, and as a symbol of your love to your wife?

*(Wait for Confirmation)*

Junaid Khan: I do. (Puts the ring on Adriana’s finger)

*(Vows)*

Do you Adriana Bonilla take this man Junaid Khan in marriage to love as your husband and best friend from this day forward? Do you promise to encourage and inspire him, and to comfort him in times of sorrow and struggle?both the good times and in bad, when life seems easy and when it seems hard, when your love is simple, and when it is an effort? Do you promise to cherish him and to always hold him in highest regard today and for all the days of your life?”

Adriana Bonilla “I do.”(Puts the ring on Junaid’s finger)

*(Wait for Confirmation)

The Importance of Marriage
OFFICIANT (to congregation):

Now that the ring has been delivered and the covenant has been signed by Adriana Bonilla & Junaid Khan, I’d like to offer a blessing by giving them a few words on marriage.

Marriage, as we’ve covered, is not only a sacred tradition among the ways of man, it’s a sacred tradition in the eyes of Allah and The Lord. It’s part of His design and purpose for our lives. We are created as beings who are not meant to be alone. We are meant to have someone to help us on our journey in faith and in life. A husband and a wife ought to be patient with one another. They should be respectful and kind. They should not hold grudges, and be quick to forgive. Those qualities are built on a foundation of love, faith, and trust.

It’s love that is going to help you get through the tests and valleys, and it’s love that’s going to make the joys of life that much sweeter.

It’s faith that’s going to keep you on the path of righteousness and steady you when you’re in the midst of turmoil. A faith that’s shared between the two of you is twice as strong.

Finally, it’s trust that allows you to be vulnerable and honest with one another. Trust is built through faith at first, then strengthened by evidence, and finally demonstrated in the devotional acts of love we do for each other every day.

By the authority vested in me by American Marriage Ministries and the State of California I now pronounce you wife and husband!

10/18/2024

I am really sick right now. So not being on fb very much atm. If you need me text me at 910-545-4827. I will respond when i feel better. Having cancer is the pits.

10/05/2024

Got to love hackers!!!! NOT

10/05/2024

My account is hacked right now, working on recovering it fully

10/05/2024

My account has been hacked. Nothing posted is from me!!!

09/19/2024

Do you know what’s sad? When you find out that a Christian wedding coordinator and their husband is talking about this non profit organization because I told them that I was going to offer my services for free to Brides that have Disabilities.

While they have tons of clients, they are jealous I cater to the people who have more important things to worry about than to spend money, when they should be concentrating on their health.

I offer free officiate for your wedding & an engagement photographer completely complimentary. That’s right no charge to you at all.

To qualify for Brides with Disabilities Foundation for one of our dream weddings; you have to live in Northern California & have an autoimmune disease, chronic illness or cancer.

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09/03/2024

I am so excited that I get to participate in a Jewish Wedding. Did you know they use a Chuppah? It is a canopy under which Jewish couples stand when they are married is called a chuppah.

The chuppah represents the new home a couple establishes through their marriage. It also represents the sheltering presence of God and the wish for God's blessing over the couple.

Under the Chuppah, the Rabbi, Cantor or sometimes a valued family member does a blessing over wine followed by giving thanks. The bride and groom then proceed to drink the wine. It is Jewish law that the groom must give the bride an object of value as a gift. In modern times, a ring is used.

It is so much fun learning other cultures and traditions. Tell me something about your culture or traditions and do you practice it now or did you choose to do something else?

08/31/2024

I am in the process of updating my website and introducing my photography. I have been a professional photographer since 2003. I didn’t realize how much I missed taking photos until I got my new Canon 7D Markii. Already looking at the Canon R6. So looking forward to creating memories with everyone.

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08/22/2024

There are tons of options to make your wedding be inexpensive and easily affordable. Here is a list of options you can consider.

Hotel Suite

A large hotel suite will accommodate 25 people or so, and there are really no rules as to how you set it up.

Hotel Event Rooms

These are gaining popularity which offer event spaces for:

Corporate events
Fundraisers
Weddings
Cocktail receptions
Galas
Holiday parties
Regional conferences
Anniversary parties
Alumni events
Baby showers
Photo shoots
Corporate buyouts

Restaurants

Restaurants don’t often host weddings, especially restaurants without party rooms. If you are interested in a restaurant buyout, restaurants are usually pretty flexible with decorations. An added bonus is that some restaurants often have outdoor spaces (plus, if it's your favorite restaurant, then you're basically getting your favorite food served at the wedding).

Coffee Shops / Bistros

Much of what applies to restaurants applies for coffee shops too. However, you will likely have fewer in-house dining options. But that might be a welcome trade off if you’re doing a cute breakfast wedding.

Small Art Galleries

Large museums often host weddings, but small galleries? Not as much. For the owner of a gallery, hosting a wedding is a great way to get some new faces in the door.

Small Private Retailers

Think book stores or boutiques. If you are both able to be creative with the space, this is a great way for small business owners to get new customers in the door.

Photo Studios

Studios can be fairly wide open spaces and are often available for rent. You’ll probably have to bring in furniture, but on the plus side this might be a great way for you to find a photographer, too!

Public Parks and Beaches

If you are looking to do a quick ceremony with an intimate group of guests, converging in a public place can work. This is known as a guerilla wedding, and as long as you keep the guest list very small and accept the risk of having your wedding interrupted, it can be a viable option.

Pool Hall

If you can find a nice pool hall, you’ll have a unique venue with reception entertainment built in.

Amusement Parks

Also offer venue options for parties & weddings.

Put Put Golf / Waterparks

Are fun and easily affordable for smaller wedding sizes.

Zoo’s or Aquariums

Are a great way for that wow factor. Definitely worth the entertainment value and uniqueness to your wedding.

Flex Spaces

Flex spaces are designed to be versatile. Many feel a little office-y, so you may have to get creative with decoration.

Co-Working Spaces

You might think coworking spaces would also feel corporate, but surprisingly, many don’t. They often have really modern cozy looks and/or try to appeal to a “hip” demographic.

Empty Storefronts

We’ve all seen those strip malls where some storefronts sit empty for months or even years. Many building owners will not turn down your offer to rent the space for a day or two.

Veteran Facilities

Most Veteran ran associations such as the Eagles, Moose Lodges, American Legions, Amvets etc. All of these are happy to rent out places for your wedding.

Fairgrounds

Will often rent bone one of the buildings for an entire weekend. Reach out and ask for availability and pricing.

Churches

Usually offer Event spacing if they have availability.

This list isn’t every ones cup of tea. They are options that will save you money for those brides/grooms on a budget.

Written by Rosa Lane with Brides with Disabilities and if you would like help finding a place for your wedding. Reach out to me and we can work together to do that. Even a park wedding can be made beautiful and perfect for you. There are so many decorations available that you would be amazed how beautiful you can make a picnic area look. Let’s chat about your needs.

08/19/2024

Just want to remind everyone that if you are a disabled bride that suffers from Autoimmune Diseases, Chronic Illnesses or Cancer. Brides with Disabilities Foundation proudly provides your wedding officiant 100% free. That’s right zero charge what so ever. We are also able to provide a wedding binder to help you with wedding planning. If you live in Northern California, we are here for you.

08/15/2024

American Marriage Ministries, its members, ministers, and congregants believe that marriage is a sacred union. We believe that marriage is the natural right of all people, regardless of race, sexual identity, nationality, socioeconomic status, or religious background.

Marriage is celebrated all around the world in a variety of ways, with each marital ceremony celebrating the values of the couple, their community, and their cultures. The traditions of marriage predate the founding of the United States, the Abrahamic religions, and the emergence of democratic society. We believe that a phenomenon so ancient and revered, and so ubiquitous throughout the ages, can only be defined as sacred.

Our faith is one that is universal. Marriage is an institution that crosses cultural boundaries and unites peoples. We believe that marriage is of a higher power.

We believe that every couple united in marriage has the right to choose how they will observe, and who will conduct, their sacred rite.

I have been an ordained minister through AMM since 2017. I am more than happy to discuss your future with the person you love at any time. I am always a text message or phone call 📞 away (919)545-4827.

I serve all of Northern California, but am willing to travel any where I am needed. I am both honored & appreciative to help you in any form that I can. Let me know what’s important to you.

08/12/2024

Hello Sacramento, CA & Northern California. I am Deanna Rosa Lane (been an Ordained Minister since 2017) and I am building my wedding photography portfolio. For the rest of 2024, I am offering Elopements, Micro-Weddings, and Vow Renewals for $500.00. Engagement photos are $200. This gives you a minimum of 200-300 photos all edited digitally with a signed model release form. That you give me permission to use the photos online or on my website to show case my photography. In addition to Photography, I love customizing wedding ceremonies and vows to both brides and grooms. It is my pleasure to join the two of you together. Watching your faces light up, brings me immense happiness. Nothing better than seeing a couple light up with love and light. You can pick me for your wedding officiant or your photographer. I can only do one at a time. Your big day is the most beautiful thing to capture. Looking forward to meeting both of you and finding out what you want.

08/11/2024

Model Call! 📸✨

I am looking for models to help bring four amazing sessions to life! Willing to do 4 of each category with a signed model release form. I am rebuilding my portfolio since I moved from Oregon to California. If you're interested, check out the details below:

1. Bride/Groom Dressed in Wedding Attire

2. Couples Sunset Shoot

Must be comfortable with each other and ready to have fun!

3. Silly, Loving Family Shoot

Families with children who love being in front of the camera.

Let’s capture those joyful, candid moments!

4. A Person and their pets

Share that special bond with your furry friend in a fun and creative session.

You will receive 20 digital photos for your time at no cost to you.

Turn around time 2-4 weeks. Usually much less than that.

If you want Photos, they can be purchased. So if you're interested, drop us a message! 🙏 Proudly serve Northern California.

Can't wait to create some magic with you! ✨

08/11/2024

A great way to repurpose a door. Turn it into a wedding photos or family photos for everyone to see. Add door hangers to hang book bags, coats and scarves on.

08/09/2024

I was asked why do officiants cost so much today.

Here is a breakdown of my process.

The ceremony may be 30 minutes to an hour. However, we still have to do several counseling sessions with the bride/groom, send a questionnaire (mine is 50 questions each) and wait to get both questionnaires back before I can even work on their wedding vows and customized wedding ceremonies.

Then I have to wait for the couple to approve the vows and send them a generalized overlay of the ceremony.

I work with the bride/groom exclusively and their family members, plus the wedding party. Sometimes it is really easy. Sometimes it takes a few for the wedding party to understand what they need to do to make the wedding flow.

I also work with the other vendors present. The DJ, caterers, planners, photographers, coordinators all must work together so everything is perfect for the day.

In most instances I talk to the vendors before we meet. Our timelines must coincide with each others and communication is absolutely the key. Plus building relationships is always a great way to do business.

While I donate all of my services to Brides with Disabilities Foundation, with our brides and grooms that are disabled.

Donations are always accepted to go towards wedding decorations, flowers for the wedding arches or the weddings themselves.

Now you know why your officiate cost so much.

08/09/2024

Model Call! 📸✨

I am looking for models to help bring four amazing sessions to life! Willing to do 4 of each category with a signed model release form. I am rebuilding my portfolio since I moved from Oregon to California. If you're interested, check out the details below:

1. Bride/Groom Dressed in Wedding Attire

2. Couples Sunset Shoot

Must be comfortable with each other and ready to have fun!

3. Silly, Loving Family Shoot

Families with children who love being in front of the camera.

Let’s capture those joyful, candid moments!

4. A Person and their pets

Share that special bond with your furry friend in a fun and creative session.

You will receive 20 digital photos for your time at no cost to you.

Turn around time 2-4 weeks. Usually much less than that.

If you want Photos, they can be purchased. So if you're interested, drop us a message! 🙏

Can't wait to create some magic with you! ✨