15/02/2019
AE | Tips, Advice, Recommends, & Trends (T.A.R.T.) #1
I recently spoke with my client who shared all of her Bridesmaids want to Back Out of her Wedding, but is Unsure How to Tell Her.
Unfortunately, weddings never go 110% as planned. One of the more challenging change-ups to pending nuptials, though, is when a bridesmaid back out of her attendant duties.
The truth of the matter is there’s a number of reasons why this might happen, from a more scandalous fight between she and the bride to a tragic family emergency, but no matter what the case, it can cause a definite bump in the road.
Today I will share with you how to tactfully handle this situation and move forward with your wedding one, two, or bridesmaids short; possibly no bridesmaids at all.
Dealing with a bridesmaid or your bridesmaids relinquishing her | their bridal party duties fully depends on the situation at hand.
For example, someone may not have realized the financial commitment being a part of your wedding party entails. In this case, “Wedding etiquette” state you (the bride) should try to work with her to ease the financial strain... such as offer to pay for her dress, make-up, hair or hotel stay (if you can afford to, of course!).
If you cannot then simply let her and yourself off the hook. Hold an open and honest conversation with her over coffee and explain to her that her | their post(s) will be filled with another or other close friends. If handled with kindness and professionalism she will thank you for understanding her current situation and you will remain friends.
Now if someone backs out last minute because of a family emergency — a death or major illness — it's best to honor them by not asking someone to replace their post.
However ladies, if someone very early on determine they have a conflict regardless of the reason, then it goes without saying, ask another close friend who would be happy to fill-in.
Remember: Timing is everything. Life isn't perfect, financial conflicts, and emergencies (last-minute to early on) will arise.
In those cases it'd be rude to ask someone else to be a bridesmaid at the eleventh hour. If someone finds out about a conflict earlier on, then there's more leeway with choosing someone else (after all they may not even realize they weren't chosen in the first place).
Keep in mind...your Ceremony is not about the centerpieces, or the flowers, the bridal party, or even the dress. Your guest will remember the emotion (okay, and the decor).
Your guest will remember that you (the bride who just) couldn’t stop grinning as you said your vows.
Your guest will also remember two people, who seem so perfect for each other, making huge promises... that’s what the wedding ceremony is about.
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