02/11/2024
*THINGS THAT CAUSES REGRET AT OLD AGE*
When younger we make various choices without the future in mind.
Sometimes those choices bite us in our mid-life..
That's what I referred to as mid-life crisis.
These are some of the things one might regret when they're older.
1. *Marrying the Wrong person*
When you're young, check your motives for marrying. Don't marry to copy your peers, or for social standing or out of pressure.
Marry for love and companionship, marry the right person, marry your best friend.
For if you marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, you will have to put up with that person for the rest of your life.
Things might get worse between you two; then depression, physical abuse, , emotional pain, shame, court cases, bitterness will define your mid-life years all because you chose the wrong one. Things will get worse when children are involved. Make the right choice of a spouse when you are young.
2. *The Opportunities you did not seize*
When you are younger many doors will open, you will get many chances.
Many young people let these opportunities go because of fear, laziness, or pride; when younger and with more energy is the best time to start a venture and a name for yourself.
Some think the opportunities are too big for them. Take advantage of them or one day when you're older you will want to go back and grab those missed chances.
3. *The Bridges you burned*
When we are younger, we care little for relationships, what most think about is getting money and moving up the ladder of success at all cost.
Many use and trample on people to progress, they take relationships for granted, messing up bonds, sleeping with people for personal gain.
But these bad actions will catch up with you ahead.
When you will realize how empty life is without love and friends.
When you will have success but no one around you or no one to trust you.
4. *The Child you aborted*
You are a young lady, you get pregnant and you are scared.
You take the aborting option quickly thinking of that moment then.
But when you are much older, you will look back and wish you kept that baby.
When you will be rich and successful you will wish that child you gave up on would be around to enjoy the fruits of your hard work.
Being a single mother or father doesn't mean you can't make it in life or you can't find a man or woman in the nearest future.
5. *The Child or Children you rejected*
Young man, you impregnated a woman, she told you she's pregnant with your child.You rejected her and the baby.
But years later when you're 50 something, you will wish you were responsible, you will wish you manned up and became a father to that child.
You will see that child excel and become an adult but will have no claim to that grown child who you rejected from the beginning.
You will regret being a Dead Beat Dad by choice and your foolishness.
6. *The Marriage you destroyed*
So you get married to your good fiance; the first months or couple of years in marriage were good but shortly after, with your money and charm, you started having affairs.
You became unfaithful.
Your spouse begged you to stop, your children started hurting, your marriage was collapsing.
One day when you are older, it will hit you how foolish you were to destroy the good marriage you had began to build for mere temporary thrills in affairs that did you no good.
You will realize the emotional wounds and psychological damage you caused to your children and spouse.
7. *The God you disowned*
When you are much older you become wiser, God becomes more real as you see life in a more meaningful way.
But don't wait to get older to start enjoying a relationship with God.
Know God when you are young, build your future with God.
Don't be a young rebel who runs back to God when age catches up.
The word of God in the book Ecclesiastes 12:1 admonished us;
"Remember then your Grand Creator in the days of your youth,before the days of distress come and the years arrive when you will say,"I have no pleasure in them".
8. *The Body you messed*
You have only one body to live with all your life. The ci******es, the alcohol you are abusing, the drugs you are taking, the unhealthy food you're consuming; all that will destroy you slowly.
The older we are the lesser our immune system.
The skin you destroyed by bleaching, excessive tattoos and body piercing.
Apostle Paul asked in his letter to the congregation in 1 Corinthians 6:19;
"Do you know that your body is the temple of the holy spirit within you,which you have from God? ........"
When you are 50 and lifestyle diseases catch up with you, you will wish you took care of your body when younger, that you exercised more; but now the damage is done.
9. *The Time you wasted*
The time you are wasting when younger in worry, wrong relationships, laziness, being a couch potato, giving excuses and pursuing meaningless things; you will never get it back.
10. *The Dreams and Talents you shelved*
Are you talented when young; are there things you love to do and you are good at them?
Nurture those talents, exploit them, don't give up even if you encounter set backs, don't give up on your dreams.
If you give up, when you're older you will look at your peers who stuck to what they love and made it and think to self, "That could have been me". Pursue a career, study a course you love.
Don't waste years of your life in a field that doesn't fulfill you.
11 *The Name you defamed*
When you are older, a legacy is very important, the value of your name is crucial.
You will ask yourself what is your reputation, what are you leaving behind?
Your legacy is a sum total of your actions since youthful days.
Take note of this,we write our biography by how we live life everyday.
When you look back your path and you see the mud you threw at your own name, the shame you attracted and the little value you have added to the world; you will live to regret it forever.
12. *The Wealth you threw away*
Are you riding on good money during your productive years?
Earning good money?
Don't throw away that money in clubs, reckless living and wasteful shopping.
Invest with that money, widen your revenue stream, make that money work for you and keep it safe to take care of you in your older years.
Leave an inheritance for your loved ones so that you will never say "I wish I knew better"
13. *The Good and Genuine love that got away*
Is there that great person in your life loving you good unconditionally?
Don't push that person away, or else that person will walk out your life and you might never ever find someone that incredible and who connects with you all your life.
It will torment you to grow older with thoughts of "What if I was still with that person?"
14 *The Parents you despised*"
When younger, it is easy to show contempt to your parents, saying;
What do your parent's know?
They are old-fashioned or old school and small-minded etc.
But your parents are still your parents whether you agree with them or not, whatever their style of living.
Don't let your parent die or age separated them from you, reconcile and make up with them.
When you get older, you will realize why your parents wanted to be close to you.
The older you get, the more you realize the
value of your youthful life you wasted.
Ladies and gentlemen, yesterday belong to historic part of our lives, today is what we have, tomorrow is not guaranteed.
P.S: The post was written on my wall six years ago, I took the picture at an all-white affair party also in 2018.
Y'all have a great weekend.
Credit Banjo
